Well, if she is DEFINITELY coming back, why do you have to quit your job and marry her now??

NO offense, but I don't agree that your soul mate won't be around forever, that is almost the definition of the term.

Listen to your heart............yes, but there is a reasons you have a brain as well.

The one time I listened to my heart and completely ignored my brain, it didn't turn out so well, and same with listening to my brain and ignoring my heart..........they need to work together.

I mean, could you take time off work, without quitting, to spend time with her in China??

Why do you have to completely relocate there, if she isn't even planning on staying??

Don't get me wrong, some would say the "magic" could die..............but if it has lasted this long, what is another year, or however long??

I have a belief, that if it is meant to be, and meant to last, it will stand the test.

Anything that won't be there tomorrow, isn't worth turning my life upside down today.

Then again.........China could be the greatest experience of your life. Who knows??

Just make sure that if you do quit your job, go there, and both of you come back..............that there may be financial difficulties. I mean, you may have trouble finding a job when you get back.........

And discuss all this with her. I guess I just don't understand why so sudden, why does she want to marry now? Does she have personal convictions of being together and not being married?? Is it because you couldn't go if you weren't married?

Again, only you can decide............but I remember being taught as a teenager......and I still believe it now......anything worth having is worth waiting for. Not to say that you haven't already, lol, just that if there is such a rush, and it must be done now..........or never at all, just doesn't bode well with me and my logic.

Naw Plain....(uuuhhh, you are anything but plain honey), I decided to stay here ...she will be back in 5-6 months (permanently) I am not gonna quit a really good job just to find myself back in a few months unemployed.

This gives me time to put my ducks in a row and prep living arrangements.

This woman knows my aversion to getting divorced (hence my aversion to marriage)

She told me yesterday ( Just as she was boarding her hop to Tokyo) that if I did not want to get married, that she understood but, for me to "Please consider loving me and being with me for the rest of our lives"

I find that very do-able.

Wow.

That comment of your lady love..

"Please consider loving me and being with me for the rest of our lives"

...ought to be bronze-plated and put on top of so many threads here, to be the semi-official Mingle2 slogan.

Leadership by example. It works.

Awww, that is awesome, and I hope it all works out that you can both add to each other's life.

I understand your point about marriage. Unfortunately I married at 18, and divorce is part of my life.......however, I do not ever intend to do that again. I'm still wondering if "the rest of our/my life" exists/will exist with anyone......... (for me that is )

(And thx, but I am just plain ole me, meaning I am who I am, if you want a pretense or some frills, go elsewhere)

5-6 months will breeze by ... and no, the magic doesn't disappear ... when it is love, you realize there is no magic at all ... it just lives and breathes in you...as you ...

The one I love lives within me ... I can see through his eyes ... I can feel through his heart ...

Time ... space ... all the rest of it will sort itself out...

All the best to you!

This is worse than gay marriage. According to the bible and Christian law, the man is in charge. By being on the receiving end of a proposal, you are giving women too much freedom. That could bring the downfall of civilized society.

Also, it's really not that bright to quit your job and move at the drop of a hat. Would you quit your job if you didn't have another one lined up right away? Good call on waiting, though.

perhaps you could live "in sin" for while....you know like a probationary period.....then if you both still feel the same.....tie the knot

Please tell me you are joking! I'm mean, seriously, you are kidding right?

Yep.

It is all good kids.....Tromeo, I understand that I may get points deducted from my man card for this infraction but....it is soooooo worth it!

I really apprecieate all the encouragement and support guys.

I have never had goose bumps last this damned long!

I just don't recall being this friggin happy...last time was when I was with her. Been a long time since I Rock & Rolled.

Holy sh*t... go now RUN! do it.. you only have this life and she loves you. Ya if things don't work out then move on, but I bet you'll be fine, just fine!

Can't help but be a bit jealous. Normally I'd be pessimistic, but this sounds like a very positive thing. And I think the few months away will be good for you both.

Happy for you!

I really apprecieate it kids!!!!! You guys have no Idea!

Don't get me wrong....I have no doubt that everyone here has experienced love.

But, I was the single guy at my 20th high school reunion. My family and friends had all come to terms with the fact that I would be willingly single forever.

Hell, even I thought I would live the rest of my life alone. I really only now can truly apprecieate being happy that I was so wrong.

I hope every last one of you get to feel as good just once in your life as I do now.

Krupa, I think you got bit by the Love Bug and bit hard!



I've seen a lot of people on here express their emotions, but you just make me want to jump up and down with excitement and scream OMG OMG, I am sooooo happy for you!!!!

Thanks Carmen. Oh Honey.....I got it BAAAAAADDDDD! Feels so alien but, I can really get used to it!