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Topic: Actually i do need advice
romeo1975's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:15 PM
I have my sights set on the young lady who i work with, she is divorced with 1 child, which to me is not a big deal, but how do i allow her to notice me, i mean i am extremely shy when it comes to relationships and i tend to open mouth and insert foot. I feel that there is a connection between us, cause we are always talking and flirting and such, but idk, anyone have any experience in what i should do??? PLEASE HELP ME!@!!!

AllenAqua's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:17 PM
love potion # 9 ???

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Thu 12/04/08 06:19 PM
If you already talk to her on a regular basis, HAVE SOMETHING IN YOUR HEAD AHEAD OF TIME and the next time you just talk, mention, for instance, "I'm going to go see ______ movie. Would you care to go?" If she asks WHEN, tell her at her convenience. If she says no, then no harm, no foul, you know where she stands with you NOW.

romeo1975's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:21 PM
ahhh my wise and wonderful sage, advise me with all you worldly wisdom.... good to see you again suzette

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:21 PM
You just have to take the chance and ask her out. flowerforyou

romeo1975's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:23 PM

You just have to take the chance and ask her out. flowerforyou
well as much as i would love to, i feel like it would make me look like a total idiot.... i know how i get and i tend to get a little tongue tied and babbly

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:24 PM


You just have to take the chance and ask her out. flowerforyou
well as much as i would love to, i feel like it would make me look like a total idiot.... i know how i get and i tend to get a little tongue tied and babbly


Then forget it. Just resign yourself to just being friends.

Benzy940's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:27 PM
Maybe you can just casually ask her if she liked to go out for a beverage or something like that to break the shyness out of ya.

But if u guys r flirting with one another ya can't b that shy. Take it slowly and gradually u may build up enough confidence. U can ask her if she would like to accompany u to buy breakfast or lunch and as a surprise offer to buy her the same.

This can help her see that u r a thoughful and considerate person as well as getting to talk to her a little and allow u a opportunity to get to know one another a little better.

Good Luck

Lily0923's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:30 PM

love potion # 9 ???


Yes, but September is a long way away....

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Thu 12/04/08 06:36 PM
A wise person once told me "what is the worse thing they can say NO" ask her out or you will always regret it. Good luck

romeo1975's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:37 PM
you know what, you people are right, what the heck do i have to lose, ty for all the advice and wisdom....

catwoman96's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:38 PM
find a way to ask her out that is casual. like for one if you work togethter....umm aintcha havin a christmas party of some sorts??

PATSFAN's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:42 PM
Ask her to have coffee sometime

romeo1975's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:46 PM

Ask her to have coffee sometime
only one problem there, i cannot stand coffee, yuck!@!!!!!!!sick ill

PATSFAN's photo
Thu 12/04/08 06:54 PM


Ask her to have coffee sometime
only one problem there, i cannot stand coffee, yuck!@!!!!!!!sick ill



I've never had a cup in my life the stuff is nasty , so have a hot chocolate instead, that's what I do....

no photo
Thu 12/04/08 07:05 PM
O.K,here's a start....drop the name romeo.it clearly isn't you.(or me either)since you work together you don't want to make an ass out of yourself.do whatever you can do to get lunchtime off together....i know you have a male friend at work that can manage it....on the way out the door casually mention you're going for coffee and does she want to join you.above all,be a man,be honest,and never,ever let a single mom pay for anything.good luck

JustAGuy2112's photo
Thu 12/04/08 08:28 PM
Look at it this way.

You said that you wind up being a babbling fool at times because you are shy.

If you are really interested in this woman, then when you come up to talk to her like you would any other day, but you are fumbling and bumbling with your words, then she is most likely going to pick up on the fact that you are nervous. If she likes you, she may like you that much more because of it. It shows her that you have interest in her, and it makes you nervous.

Best of luck.

Totage's photo
Thu 12/04/08 08:29 PM
Edited by Totage on Thu 12/04/08 08:29 PM

I have my sights set on the young lady who i work with, she is divorced with 1 child, which to me is not a big deal, but how do i allow her to notice me, i mean i am extremely shy when it comes to relationships and i tend to open mouth and insert foot. I feel that there is a connection between us, cause we are always talking and flirting and such, but idk, anyone have any experience in what i should do??? PLEASE HELP ME!@!!!


Be a go getter and go get her.

3oh3's photo
Thu 12/04/08 09:28 PM
Take it from another shy guy (me) If you don't try, you can never say you did. You will regret it and punch yourself in the face for not doing it. I am still shy as crap, but I just go for it. Even if I am falling over my own words, sometimes it actually seems to help the situation because then the girl sees that her mere presence is making you googly. Just go for it man, it's totally worth it.

keepthehope's photo
Thu 12/04/08 10:15 PM

If you already talk to her on a regular basis, HAVE SOMETHING IN YOUR HEAD AHEAD OF TIME and the next time you just talk, mention, for instance, "I'm going to go see ______ movie. Would you care to go?" If she asks WHEN, tell her at her convenience. If she says no, then no harm, no foul, you know where she stands with you NOW.



This is what I think as well. If you already have a friendship started, and she flirts back, maybe she is waiting for you to make the first move. The worst thing that could happen is she says no. Go ahead, take a chance on love!!

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