My fellow "Hi and single folks."
I am doing this post because of my own personal misfortunes and reading
about many others since I have been on. If you find someone desirable
and start in conversation with them by any means, phone, e-mail, IM, and
you find them undesirable could you please not be vague and let them
know that they are not your "cup of tea."

To be real with this, we should all be able to express not only if we
like someone, but also if they are not quite right for us and not just
leave people hanging not knowing,,,

Would you not all agree? Thanks, just wanted to vent.

Awe we love you terry! ((((terry))))

Yeah. That's annoying. Cutting off all contact is just rude and uncool.
Saying "sorry, not interested" and then moving on is perfectly
acceptable- maybe upsetting, but not wrong. There's a such thing as
decency.... or, at least, I like to convince myself there is.

I agree. If I get an email an I am not interested I reply that way so
they don't keep sending more. I would hope the guy I email would do the
same so I would not considered a stalker

i wish i could get a sorry not interested

You could always IGNORE their e`mails

Oh, trust me. I have no problem doing that whatsoever.

me either

I like to be up front and honest then if they are interested cool if not
fine with me. But i don't lead anyone on. If not interested i tell
them so...

Hummm all I can say is if they seem vague on who or what they want maybe
the other person did not make it clear to them what they wanted either.
Or maybe things happen they did not like and are just trying to end
things without being nasty and would rather that it just end without a
big fight or showdown. Sometimes there are reasons that others do not
see and don't want to see and that is the only way they know how to end
it. Then its time for both parties to move on for it was not meant to
be! Maybe they tried to tell the other one but they would not listen. It
is hard to say why everyone ends a relationship the way they do. There
can be many differnt reason's why one ends a relationship the way they
do. As they say there are two sides to every story.

Im right with you on that iam4u... its so much nicer knowing someone
isnt interested then thinking they are. Some people just think theyll
hurt your feelings by being honest, and that couldnt be further from the
truth. Cant remember who sings it offhand but love the song ,think its
called, Cruel to be kind

I have noticed that alot of people don't answer their e`mail no matter
who sends it

It would be nice just to be an interest to someone *S*.... time will
tell *S*

it is rude when folks don't just answer... unless they are blocked for a
reason, just do it. lol.

How hard can it be to say I wanna just be freinds...?

If they can't be one, then oh well!

I like to make friends, and if the person Im friends with becomes
"amorous" (sp)? I just let them know that I just want to be friends. If
they don't like that and want more, then they usually just don't write
anymore. I try to be nice and you never know where a friendship might
turn into something more, so why chase someone off if they aren't being
rotten. I leave it up to them and have had more then enough people who
just don't write. Would be nice if some of the people on my list would
write more too....:(

IM WITH U AS WELL....but 1 quick question...WHO LOVES ME???

far as freinds go, I try to write as often s I rememer, and can.
My hands betray me.. I talk with my losest loves off site. And, heh, I'm
known to be a wee scatterbrained

Really, I can't write mails all day long... but, ry to touch base in
forums if I don't have messenegers open...

Some text on the cellphone.

Others, know I'm around, and if they need anything they know how to get
me...

Thanks everybody for your input.

And Texs, (This is not me in a deep relationship of any kind,
this is just meeting someone for the first time and chatting a little
bit and being told that everything is fine and then being left hanging,
instead of letting me know their truth.)

It is not a big deal, I have always referred to it as just common
courtesy but from reading a lot of posts here in the months that I have
been here, a lot of people are quick to try to start up a friendship or
more but then just leave them hanging when they start clicking with
somebody else.

Well honest some do it cause it is just a game to them they get your
attention with no desire of caring it any farther at all. Just a
flirting game to them sometimes it is because they have a fake profile
up and know they can not get close to anyone. Like I said for many it is
nothing but a game. It has happen to many even here on JSH
at times. Or they find someone else that catches there interest and off
they go. To them they did not have anything going and just moved on.
Just don't let your heart get in the way too fast. I usually give it at
least 2 weeks for most that are gonna move on seem to do it in that time
frame never fails.

I totally agree. I have met up with people and then never hear from
them again and it leaves me wondering what the heck!?!?! Would be nice
to know that they just weren't interested instead of wondering if they
were just abducted by aliens or hit by a bus.