I'm not saying a word without hard evidence, and I mean I'm takin a snap shot to show her. If I can't get proof I'm not saying a word, because people always want to think you're jealous of their cheatin loser husbands/boyfriends.

Yes, but even then sometimes there is still a crack in the friendship. I think only my closest of friends would allow me to say something and not question motives. Although at the time (this was years ago) I did consider this girl to be a good friend. They are correct when they say it's a darned if you do, darned if you don't situation.

Life is complicated eh?

I had the same thing happen to me long time ago. I had a very good friend that had a bf of many years. He came on to me.
I told her and she never spoke to me again.

It made me sad but I feel that I did the right thing. I would want someone to do that for me.

Oh yeah! It's like watching slow-motion at times. You just want to get to the end and have it OVER if it's bad! You want to get to the end and enjoy the outcome if it's good!

IF they cheat,,I TELL..
First I talk to them and then if they still cheat..I get away from THEM,,as it rips me to be around a cheater.

Yeah! Let's burn em all at stake. Naked!

Its actually better to catch the cheater red handed and they see you. I confront THAT person then tell them they better come clean or I'll do it for them. I'm even like that if the person I'm friends with is the cheater.

you were being a friend and she didn't want to believe the truth oh well sounds to me she lost a good friend

thanks

I know right? I'm so impatient at times.

I believe that most people know when they are being cheated on. Maybe not every little detail but they know and choose to look the other way.

I agree with Joe that they are mad you bust their little bubble telling them.

Then they have to take it out on you for taking away whatever they were trying to hang onto believing the lie.

For some living with the devil they know is better than dealing with the alternative. For a woman who has fallen into the out of date job skills or never had them and children she can not afford to support on her own or a man who will surely loose his home, children, and maybe job if a marriage fails and he has to live with his parents the price is too high. Especially when te friend who is telling usually isn't going to really help them out of the jack-pot they are in.

I won't abide lieing for anyone but when I see something I am not going to get involved in I shut my mouth and mind my own business.

Unless they ask. Then I am more than glad to tell what I can prove. And most times that is not that much so I tell people to higher a professional.

It's never worth it to meddle in other peoples' personal lives. You'll be looked upon as the "home-wrecker" even if your motives are honorable- you'll be looked upon as the cause of the strife, even when you aren't.

I have a knack for seeing something and knowing what will happen in a given stretch of time. It's not so much about "fortune-telling" as it is "deductive logic"- I can kinda envision a flowchart when looking at something that will often come up with a specific conclusion.