Ok here is the deal. I have dated many of the wrong types of women out there and have had many painful experiences. My mother tells me I should find someone in church (actually I think she has someone in mind to hook me up with) Well the thing is I am by far not a saint. I got a girl pregnant after knowing her for like 3 weeks when I was 21 and now have a daughter (whom I think is the greatest thing in the world) But I am just so afraid of being judged on being a single parent who has never been married, and other things as well. I almost would be reluctant to ask any church going girl out for this reason. What are your thoughts?

Hi, Your mom is right.. First do not fear being judged because a true christian is non judging( yes we are not perfect and you will find those who fall short) but you will be loved there and accepted !
You will grow in wisdome and knowledge and as you serve God he will lead you...
A great preacher Tommy Nelson who wrote song of soloman bible study said.. " Run for God and serve him with all your heart and soal, while your running look over and see who is running along side of you? towards the same goal( serving God) smile at them and invite them to run with you... in your lane.. its that easy..
And dont give up!! Keep going even if you find yourself sitting alone.. God is there and working when it apears he is not.. he is.. He may be working on the other person....
God Bless!!! Lisa

Don't let your past make you afraid to change your future. That's a mistake many people make...thinking the things they do mark them for life. That's not true at all.

People can change. It's a smart person who desies something better for themselves.

Well don’t worry about your past. I'd say the majority of people in the church have a past and ALL have been saved by grace (unmerited favor) and not by works. Don't go there for the sole purpose of finding a date either but rather to get your life back on track (if it is off) and to be around other Christians. Some only go to meet someone and then completely change once in the relationship or married and don't go back again. I think the church is the best place to look but take your time and get to know the other people there. Once you feel comfortable start opening up and if you are in the right place you will feel love and acceptance. If you meet the right lady she won’t judge you on your past either. Once we come to Jesus our past is forgiven. If someone wants to judge you they are showing their maturity (we are all at different levels and hopefully growing more mature all the time by reading, meditating and applying the Word in our lives). However, I would be cautious of someone I just met that was new at church until I got to know them and/or served with them some. Hope that helps.

I have been thinking about looking while going to church but I have not been to church in a long long time because I was thrown out of the church,I think its a very good idea.

thanks for the encouragement

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Hi Lisa and Welcome to Mingle2.

I have heard Tommy Nelson on Focus On The Family a few times and he visited my Church when I lived in Missouri. I enjoy the way he speaks truth with humor! That reminds me, I still have a Song of Solomon workbook I got at the conference that I have not worked on yet=) Good word concerning running your race and seeing who's beside you...

You are welcome. So did ya go?

No, actually to be honest with you I have had to work almost every sunday morning for the last month or so. This weekend I will be there.

Awesome! I am sure that will make you mother happy. Are you still with your girlfriend (I thought I read that you guys are working it out)? If so, maybe you could invite her.

They have Church Sunday nights as well.

I am a single parent as well. Many of us out there are single parents.

As for the church, I wouldn't go to church to find a date per say. However, if I met someone that I connected with that happened to be at the same church, I might ask them for coffee and see how that goes.

I don't think any of us are saints however, there might be more people with better intentions at church.

I am dating a woman I met at church.

It helps when when you both share a spiritual foundation that is similar.

yeh i would love to date a lady in the church as i think that they would most likely hang in there longer than some other gals i know ,any takers cheers james