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Topic: SEPARATED...any advice???
icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:37 PM
married 7 1/2 years, became amazing companions instead of keeping up the love and intimacy...how long should u wait(don't want to be a rebound) and how long til it gets easier???

mmmike's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:40 PM
Just dont rush into anything with anyone. That is the best advice I know.

no photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:41 PM
good luck


rlynne's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:42 PM
there is no one answer

good luck though

Winx's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:42 PM

married 7 1/2 years, became amazing companions instead of keeping up the love and intimacy...how long should u wait(don't want to be a rebound) and how long til it gets easier???



I think that each person is different. Everybody needs a different amount of time to heal. But..a divorce is a good place to start, IMO.

Welcome to Mingle.flowerforyou

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:42 PM
thanks mike...couldnt even think of doing that right now

scoundrel's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:42 PM
You can wait until hell freezes over, and it won't help...if you're separated.

It's like advertising that there's a Lien against your car and trying to interest a buyer; or that you don't have the title free and clear.

It's the land of "Buyer Beware"...just sayin'ohwell

Drago01's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:44 PM

married 7 1/2 years, became amazing companions instead of keeping up the love and intimacy...how long should u wait(don't want to be a rebound) and how long til it gets easier???


Well are you seperated and filed for divorce or just seperated?
If you are going to date, be honest up front.

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:45 PM
thanks Winx...u made me laugh
divorce is the next step, friends have been helping me heal, so no set time frame?

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:46 PM
DATE...are u serious...its been a month...looking for friendship and advice

Winx's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:47 PM

thanks Winx...u made me laugh
divorce is the next step, friends have been helping me heal, so no set time frame?


No set time frame.laugh flowerforyou

Jill298's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:47 PM
Edited by Jill298 on Wed 01/28/09 09:47 PM
No, there's really not a set time frame... Only you know when you're ready. If you go out to soon, it could be disasterous noway You will know. I promise.
I wouldn't start until after you're divorced tho.

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:48 PM
the separation will go fine, we've talked more in the last month than in the last 2 years...u can still be friends and reasonable if u loved each other enough

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:51 PM
how long does a divorce take? Neither one of us would contest it (we are in toronto, Canada) so i only have one fried who got divorced and it took 6 years...can't wait that long...don't want anything soon, but is 6 months too soon?

74Drew's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:52 PM
1 question, and not to be a prick, is she sleeping with someone else?

Jill298's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:52 PM

how long does a divorce take? Neither one of us would contest it (we are in toronto, Canada) so i only have one fried who got divorced and it took 6 years...can't wait that long...don't want anything soon, but is 6 months too soon?
I don't know canadian law. But if you're not contesting anything it should be fairly quick.

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:54 PM
still heard possibly a year...but who knows? may be quicker..haven't looked into it as much as her

Jill298's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:55 PM
I know some people in my state that didn't contest it and it took only a couple of months, if that.

74Drew's photo
Wed 01/28/09 09:59 PM
if she's looking into it, it's over and you should move on. it seems she has.
you can still be friends, but i'd be out on the prowl.

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:00 PM
cool...because we've talked so much...we've realized what we've done wrong, we each take 50/50 responsibility....but we waited to late to try to fix it...as my friends say, "thats life" or "everything happens for a reason"///standard friend talk for I'm sorry it didn't work out

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