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I met an amazing boy on here back in early November last year and we decided to offically start dating a month ago. The hardest part is that we live on two completely different sides of the U.S. Yet, we don't mind at all and still love eachother. There's no physical connection between us, but an emotional one. Which is far more important than anything I could ever ask for.
On Valentines day, his kidney stones were causing such pain to his body that it resulted in a shock that gave him a heart attack. He's only 19 years old. His condition has been changing back and forth for the last week and my only connection to his condition is through his dad. His dad doesn't like us being together though because they have never met me and I wasn't able to be at the hospital with him. I just bought a plane ticket yesterday to fly over there to see him this coming tuesday. I'm basically putting myself in debt and will probably have to drop out of college for a few quarters so that I can pay it all back; and once I'm out of college I lose my health insurance. I'm giving up work time, college, health care and possibly my parents trust just to be there for my boyfrien. Now his dad won't reply to me and is basically trying to shut me out completely and break us apart. He said he doesn't want his only son to get hurt. I understand that but to try and shut me out of his son's life while he is going through a rough time? That doesn't sound like he really cares that much because the one person his son wanted to call after he woke up in the hospital was me and his dad is basically saying he doesn't care what his son wants. I don't know what to do. Please help me understand why his dad wants to keep me from seeing him and how I can possibly still go over there and meet him. |
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I dearly hope I am wrong, but I suspect, dad and son are one and the same, and you have been played big time....have you seen dad on camera, separate to son?
Cancel the plane ticket and go back to college lovely.... your future is right there, get an education, do the best thing for you... it smells very strongly of scam/being played..... just a little too convenient to be 'ill' then 'dad' do the wrack off and don't come here thing... |
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I met an amazing boy on here back in early November last year and we decided to offically start dating a month ago. The hardest part is that we live on two completely different sides of the U.S. Yet, we don't mind at all and still love eachother. There's no physical connection between us, but an emotional one. Which is far more important than anything I could ever ask for. On Valentines day, his kidney stones were causing such pain to his body that it resulted in a shock that gave him a heart attack. He's only 19 years old. His condition has been changing back and forth for the last week and my only connection to his condition is through his dad. His dad doesn't like us being together though because they have never met me and I wasn't able to be at the hospital with him. I just bought a plane ticket yesterday to fly over there to see him this coming tuesday. I'm basically putting myself in debt and will probably have to drop out of college for a few quarters so that I can pay it all back; and once I'm out of college I lose my health insurance. I'm giving up work time, college, health care and possibly my parents trust just to be there for my boyfrien. Now his dad won't reply to me and is basically trying to shut me out completely and break us apart. He said he doesn't want his only son to get hurt. I understand that but to try and shut me out of his son's life while he is going through a rough time? That doesn't sound like he really cares that much because the one person his son wanted to call after he woke up in the hospital was me and his dad is basically saying he doesn't care what his son wants. I don't know what to do. Please help me understand why his dad wants to keep me from seeing him and how I can possibly still go over there and meet him. it sounds like his dad want to run his life for him. Maybe the father fvcked up his own life and is trying to make up for it by controling his sons. My father tried that for several years, but has now just gotten to the point that hes always mad because I won't do things the way he wants me to or what he wants me to. Its life. To be totally honest, theres no telling really, why his father is doing these things. theres just not enough information to go by. Do what you think is right. You also need to find out what his father is telling him too. If it was me, I would go and be damned with his father. |
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I think that is ALOT to give up - but it sounds like you've already done that. If it's a refundable ticket then I'd return it. If not, good luck.
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My bf has always had problems with having kidney stones so being ill a lot was something I knew was normal for him.
His dad was telling me just the other night that if I loved him I would be there at the hospital. I don't think I can cancel the plane ticket. And I don't feel like that's the right thing to do. My parents don't like me and him being together anymore than his parents. I'm sure if mine knew how to work computers well enough, they would try to break us apart too. |
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I met an amazing boy on here back in early November last year and we decided to offically start dating a month ago. The hardest part is that we live on two completely different sides of the U.S. Yet, we don't mind at all and still love eachother. There's no physical connection between us, but an emotional one. Which is far more important than anything I could ever ask for. On Valentines day, his kidney stones were causing such pain to his body that it resulted in a shock that gave him a heart attack. He's only 19 years old. His condition has been changing back and forth for the last week and my only connection to his condition is through his dad. His dad doesn't like us being together though because they have never met me and I wasn't able to be at the hospital with him. I just bought a plane ticket yesterday to fly over there to see him this coming tuesday. I'm basically putting myself in debt and will probably have to drop out of college for a few quarters so that I can pay it all back; and once I'm out of college I lose my health insurance. I'm giving up work time, college, health care and possibly my parents trust just to be there for my boyfrien. Now his dad won't reply to me and is basically trying to shut me out completely and break us apart. He said he doesn't want his only son to get hurt. I understand that but to try and shut me out of his son's life while he is going through a rough time? That doesn't sound like he really cares that much because the one person his son wanted to call after he woke up in the hospital was me and his dad is basically saying he doesn't care what his son wants. I don't know what to do. Please help me understand why his dad wants to keep me from seeing him and how I can possibly still go over there and meet him. it sounds like his dad want to run his life for him. Maybe the father fvcked up his own life and is trying to make up for it by controling his sons. My father tried that for several years, but has now just gotten to the point that hes always mad because I won't do things the way he wants me to or what he wants me to. Its life. To be totally honest, theres no telling really, why his father is doing these things. theres just not enough information to go by. Do what you think is right. You also need to find out what his father is telling him too. If it was me, I would go and be damned with his father. I want to just go there regardless of what his father has been saying. The problem is that i don't know where his parents live. I only have his college address. |
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Edited by
Queene123
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Sat 02/21/09 02:51 PM
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first off what part of the usa is he even from
and yea it sounds a little fishy to me as well for i have never heard of anyone having having kidney stones that would cause a heart attack do you even have a place to stay.. for you cant stay at his college |
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where are you going to stay? You bought a ticket and have no idea where he is or do you know the hospital he is in? Have you called the hospital and verified he is there? It just seems like you might be going there and be lost the second you get off the plane.
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where are you going to stay? You bought a ticket and have no idea where he is or do you know the hospital he is in? Have you called the hospital and verified he is there? It just seems like you might be going there and be lost the second you get off the plane. yep i agree |
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I dearly hope I am wrong, but I suspect, dad and son are one and the same, and you have been played big time....have you seen dad on camera, separate to son? Cancel the plane ticket and go back to college lovely.... your future is right there, get an education, do the best thing for you... it smells very strongly of scam/being played..... just a little too convenient to be 'ill' then 'dad' do the wrack off and don't come here thing... |
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question?? have you ever even talked to him on the phone
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where are you going to stay? You bought a ticket and have no idea where he is or do you know the hospital he is in? Have you called the hospital and verified he is there? It just seems like you might be going there and be lost the second you get off the plane.  agreed
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where are you going to stay? You bought a ticket and have no idea where he is or do you know the hospital he is in? Have you called the hospital and verified he is there? It just seems like you might be going there and be lost the second you get off the plane. I going to get a hotel room. No I don't know what hospital he's been at. I never asked because I didn't know if I would be going over there or not. Having no plan has always been a part of my life. I do things all the time and have no clue how things are gonna pan out or what's gonna happen, yet things have usually seemed to work out. I've just been praying that this will work out too. |
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question?? have you ever even talked to him on the phone I've talked to my bf on the phone and webcam before all this happened. Talked to him just the night before Valentines day. I have never talked to his dad. My bf's best friend called me to tell me he was in the hospital. |
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where are you going to stay? You bought a ticket and have no idea where he is or do you know the hospital he is in? Have you called the hospital and verified he is there? It just seems like you might be going there and be lost the second you get off the plane. I going to get a hotel room. No I don't know what hospital he's been at. I never asked because I didn't know if I would be going over there or not. Having no plan has always been a part of my life. I do things all the time and have no clue how things are gonna pan out or what's gonna happen, yet things have usually seemed to work out. I've just been praying that this will work out too. you better find out the hospitol and make sure he is really there... you might just learn the hard way of having trust |
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question?? have you ever even talked to him on the phone I've talked to my bf on the phone and webcam before all this happened. Talked to him just the night before Valentines day. I have never talked to his dad. My bf's best friend called me to tell me he was in the hospital. but yet you didnt say what part of the usa he was from |
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question?? have you ever even talked to him on the phone I've talked to my bf on the phone and webcam before all this happened. Talked to him just the night before Valentines day. I have never talked to his dad. My bf's best friend called me to tell me he was in the hospital. but yet you didnt say what part of the usa he was from He is in New Jersey |
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question?? have you ever even talked to him on the phone I've talked to my bf on the phone and webcam before all this happened. Talked to him just the night before Valentines day. I have never talked to his dad. My bf's best friend called me to tell me he was in the hospital. but yet you didnt say what part of the usa he was from He is in New Jersey |
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question?? have you ever even talked to him on the phone I've talked to my bf on the phone and webcam before all this happened. Talked to him just the night before Valentines day. I have never talked to his dad. My bf's best friend called me to tell me he was in the hospital. but yet you didnt say what part of the usa he was from He is in New Jersey hey redhead can find out all the info that you need to know... |
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question?? have you ever even talked to him on the phone I've talked to my bf on the phone and webcam before all this happened. Talked to him just the night before Valentines day. I have never talked to his dad. My bf's best friend called me to tell me he was in the hospital. but yet you didnt say what part of the usa he was from He is in New Jersey He went to West Milford high and goes to college in Montclair |
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