how long should a female wait before leaving a guy if he isn't ready to get married. should females continue to wait for the guy to be ready and have our time wasted or if he isn't ready to commit cut our losses and move on? if it has been two or more years does it mean he is just afraid of commitment. or that she just isn't the one.

i think by the second year the guy should know his woman and that if she is the one or not.

Not really sure, I'm so not into marriage My daddy always said if it aint broke don't try and fix it

good luck

I think after 2 years........and no talk of the future together, it probably isn't happening.

Men generally know if they are in the "marriage" phase of life for them, and don't waste time about it if they think she's the one.

My sister and brother-n-law dated for 7 years. That year she told him it is either a ring for Christmas or it's over. They have now been married for 22 years.

One just never knows. It is up to the one involved

It is indeed. I guess it all depends on what you are looking for. If I was interested in dating someone with the eventual intent to get married (which I am not...hehe) I wouldn't wait 7 years for it. That's nice it all turned out well for them.

my sister was with her husband for 2yrs before they got married, they got married right after highschool.. they have been married for 32yrs

From a guy's perspective (and let me say this is MY opinion at least!!!!!) I will not even think of marriage unless I am with a woman over five years and this is why.

Most relationships fail around two years. The averages nationally reflect favorable upon my belief. The reason why I say five years are these,

That is a true sign of compatibility if a man and woman can go that long without splitting up which is the end of any relationship.

It is true a man should "know" his woman in two years and by that time either she is a go or no go. A lot of personal habits take time to surface.

Also is the anger factor. AS time passes in a relationship sometimes anger gets bottled up and it does not show until it is too late usually. Sometimes we compromise and begin a slippery slope of compromise that eventually leads to "Buyer's remorse."

And lastly by five years if the two are to come together fully they should be working together as a partnership by then or not at all. It is a test of whether the relationship has any stay power at all.

Relationships are like drawing a picture. Some artists rely on being prolific while others draw masterpieces that take a lot of time to accomplish. I like masterpieces myself!

Too many people do not take marriage seriously at all any more! The reason I have not done it yet is I want to do it right the first time unlike many other fly and fall marriages.

Hope I am not coming off sexists or anything like that...

congrats...
see it can work either way

Up to five years

depends on the people. no cookie cutter solution will ever apply to everyone. different people live different lives

besides it sounds like you've already decided and are just fishing for justification

5 years is a long time. Just wondering....do you guys date a woman that long, or does it move to a live-in relationship before that?

Depends on the woman. Typically it would eventually evolve into a move in situation by the end of two years, may be three. if it does not get to that point it may not bode well for the evolution of the relationship at that time. Then again if things are happy the way they are why rock the boat too hard? Some relationships work best when both people have a way to retreat from time to time from one another.

Everyone has different personalities and unfortunately "wolf" type personalities need time alone from one another usually here and there. We call them fishing trips!

I honestly don't want to set a time for how long I will wait to commit to marriage, it really depends on who I am with. How well I feel I am getting to know them. I would probably not want to marry someone until I have lived with them for a time to see if it works. The dynamic of a relationship changes when you live together.

I was with mine for 5 years before I made the huge mistake, do yourself a favor skip getting married!!!!!!!!

I guess it depends on whether your ultimate goal is marriage or whether it is being with someone you love and that loves you. Question yourself, has he committed to you but just not to the idea of marriage? Has he said he wants to be with you "forever" or is he wishy washy on the whole thing? How necessary is it for you to be married? These are only questions you and he can answer together! If marriage is a necessity for you but not for him (i.e., he loves you and wants to be with you for the rest of your lives but just not married), can you live with that happily, joyfully, unresentfully? If not, yes, it may be time for you to stop wasting your time and try to find someone who has the same priorities and goals as you. If he hasn't committed at all, well, that's a whole other issue. Honestly, the only way to find out is to talk to him, openly, honestly, and with no guilt trip attached. If you can't do that, you shouldn't be thinking marriage anyway.

I agree

I have found through my own failed marriage that it is the start to the end. Before a marriage a couple try every day to show the other how much he/she cares. What trats the other has that drive us closer (wild). Basically having to earn the others affection all the time because there is the chance that he/she might leave tomorrow. The I do is more like an I'm done. He/she has got the other. whats the point in proving your love. you are married now whats the point.
I now feel that i am against marriage all together. I would rather feel the risk of loosing the person, and having to work to keep the person. then to feel that it has already been proven and theirs nothing to show anymore. No feeling of being wanted, no more love shown no more love earned!
I am stretching it a bit. Don't get me wrong we had good times married, but better dating. Get married for the earth, or the ski. In the eyes of god if thats your thing. Give each other a ring. But leave the paper out of it. And the risk of there loss if you give up on the love.

Does this make sence or am I truly nuts/ Pucked in the head/ heart broke?