I think a disclaimer is all fine & dandy...& you're entitled to ask for what you want...but I'm wondering how many will read beyond it...?

Actually I was purely going from what you posted and had not looked at your profile yet.

For many, what is posted is the "first impression" you get on someone. My knee jerk reaction was that you have a hard set of goals and values for someone to live up to. That was all I was implying.

I am a straight shooter. But I guess I'm just a little less brash about it.

You seem a little hostile and negative. Even your profile reads that way...

Hey, if your attitude helps you find what you seek then more power to ya!

I would first advise that you lighten up--in life and in your profile. You do seem to focus on the negative. That probably comes from unsuccessful relationships and past hurts. But all that is in the past...unless you keep bringing it into the present. Focus on the positives.

In your profile, take out your disclaimer. Any man in his right mind is going to hit the back button when he sees a woman start off *itching. Be charming, witty, humorous, as your profile says you are. Don't talk about it; show it in your writing. Your profile is your advertisement. Sell yourself.

Don't take life or love so seriously. Your profile isn't the place for it; it's a place really to just briefly introduce yourself, what you enjoy in life, what great qualities you have, something to get a conversation started. Get a first date, a second date, weeks of dating, before you get to your serious expectations. Just enjoy the ride.

The right one for you is out there somewhere, but are you the right one for him? Dump the negativity and lower your expectations somewhat so you'll be the right one when your right one comes along.

Until then, just enjoy dating and hanging out with different kinds of people. We can learn something about ourselves and the world around us through anyone we encounter, whether good or bad.

Yes, it's negative.

i listed the likes and dislikes to an extreme on mine before....but i didn't appear negative in any way. i got many emails saying they don't fit in the descriptions but liked what i had to say

i'm a very blunt person, but I try to do it in a positive way. you can be blunt and let someone know how the cow ate the cabbage without being brash or appear rude

there is a difference in the approach

It is not about "not handling the truth." We are all adults here and if anyone cannot handle reality then they shouldn't be here. What "IT" (it meaning my initial post on this thread) is about is PERCEPTION and ATTITUDE.

You come across as argumentative, negative, and somewhat hostile. I'm only an objective viewer. I have zero agenda. That is reality. Perhaps you would like to invent your own. Feel free to do so. Many others do.

Just something to consider....

blunt and direct can be good....so can diplomacy.

Putting up some deterrents and barricades do serve thier purpose....but, if you throw enough of them out there....no one will be able to get through.

Like I said....it is just a thought.

So I feel the need to vent.... I know what I want, and even more so I know what I DON'T want. It is a fact that no matter how much someone may stimulate you mentally and emotionally, if there is a 'defect' in the chemical attraction of any kind, eventually THAT will be the ruin of all that seems good. Just like that of a great passionate relationship that is solely based on the physical, if the mental portion or the emotional portion is not in line you will soon find yourself sabotaging the relationship without even thinking about it. I also know that you cannot find something worthwhile when you are not looking. Good things come to those who WORK for them. Sitting by idly thinking something will just happen is a recipe for disaster. The laws of attraction are very powerful, and you have to have your "laws of existence" under control and in line with them. As well, taking for granted something that is right in front of you, and allowing for 'interference' instead of actually giving it your 100% is also a big mistake. Better to go for it all, without fear of loss, and then see what may come... otherwise you not only can hurt yourself, but someone else as well. This "world of online dating" is chaotic. People say they want "the real thing"... then they connect with someone online, meet them and find they mutually have interest in each other... however one or the other continues to stay LIVE on a dating site while they're working on a potential relationship. All because they feel the need to stay LIVE to "keep looking" or "keeping their options open" with the hopes of "maybe something even better" over making the most of what is before them and not taking it for granted... not only is it selfish and totally inconsiderate, but it is straight-up stupid... unless of course, you are only pretending to "know what you want" and really only in this for the "game" aspects. And in that case, you don't deserve happiness as that puts you in the class of people I like to call "the ones who really SUCK". My theory - if someone seems worth your efforts, then give them the opportunity and offer that 100% - lay low and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, what is the worst thing that will happen in regard to this online dating saga? You would have to start over again and reactivate your profile. BIG FREAKIN DEAL! The "potentials' will always be out there.. ya' know? I mean... take away the internet; if this were a public meeting place, as opposed to an online connection... would you go about it all the same way - ? Would you walk around with a sign that says "Single & looking" as to adviertise yourself, and continue to "approach" other people while you are already in some sort of involvement and have stated that you were "mutually exclusive"?

I am not short on emails love....

in fact I have rec'd quite a lot of messages that read the same way "I FREAKIN' LOVE YOUR PROFILE", "I love the way you think", "You are a REAL straight-shooter" or my favorite yet is one that simply said "I identify with you completely" to just name a few...

I guess its an East Coast thing.... the NY Metro area seems to be pretty ok with my "attitude" as you folks have called it...

...but I'm still not getting the negative. It makes sense. Period. If sensibility and logic is negative then wtf is this world coming to NOW?!?!

I think the negative comments are referring to the overtly defensive and argumentative posture you are assuming.

But maybe that is just against my "Southern" nature.

"Out East" we are a bit different in the way we approach many things. It is what it is.