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I think the negative comments are referring to the overtly defensive and argumentative posture you are assuming. But maybe that is just against my "Southern" nature.  No offense intended - but you can't deny it is two different worlds so-to-speak. In "these parts" you GOTTA be tough... or you get walked all over. Trust me. I didn't get this thick skin overnight. Cop out... |
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 You seem a little hostile and negative. Even your profile reads that way... Hey, if your attitude helps you find what you seek then more power to ya!  Yes, it's negative. I guess its an East Coast thing.... the NY Metro area seems to be pretty ok with my "attitude" as you folks have called it... ...but I'm still not getting the negative. It makes sense. Period. If sensibility and logic is negative then wtf is this world coming to NOW?!?! I'm about as east coast as you can be. Being blunt, direct, and having preferences are good. You have stepped beyond that into negativity. You know the cliche about not being able to see the forest from trees? Well there ya go... Yeah Mitch! I was hoping some fellow "east coast" people would defend themselves. |
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Just something to consider.... blunt and direct can be good....so can diplomacy. Putting up some deterrents and barricades do serve thier purpose....but, if you throw enough of them out there....no one will be able to get through. Like I said....it is just a thought. I got u - and I actually joked about that with my friends... I know for a fact if I add one more not, the thin line will become about the size of a hair, but ya' know what... that's ok. I would rather deal with lower odds - less opporunity for disaster. |
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anyone that thinks that no other state or country doesn't have it tough is wrong. people have had to develope tough skins all over the world....doesn't mean it has to be negative.
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Anybody that likes the Pink Panther can't be all that bad. You have just been redeemed.
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I think the negative comments are referring to the overtly defensive and argumentative posture you are assuming. But maybe that is just against my "Southern" nature. No offense intended - but you can't deny it is two different worlds so-to-speak. In "these parts" you GOTTA be tough... or you get walked all over. Trust me. I didn't get this thick skin overnight. Cop out... and HOW is THAT a cop out????????????????? It is a fact that around here, you can't JUST be soft... you have to have a blance so that you don't get "run off the road" You're kidding me, right with that lame two-word euphamism?! |
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anyone that thinks that no other state or country doesn't have it tough is wrong. people have had to develope tough skins all over the world....doesn't mean it has to be negative. It's a classic copout, I'm from the ghetto and heard it all the time...yet I didn't come out anything like them, but they were "stuck" because of the "area"...blah, blah, blah. |
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anyone that thinks that no other state or country doesn't have it tough is wrong. people have had to develope tough skins all over the world....doesn't mean it has to be negative. It's a classic copout, I'm from the ghetto and heard it all the time...yet I didn't come out anything like them, but they were "stuck" because of the "area"...blah, blah, blah. yeppers |
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I've lived all over the country, been in various situations and had to deal with the "walk all over" situation.
I have rather thick skin, but... I just "choose" not to let my atmosphere define me and my actions. I guess you just chose a different route. Being tough and being a hard ass are two different things. |
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Now now guys and dolls.....we all have our own ways of coming across to other people.....
There is definitely a cultural difference between the southerners and the northerners...it is what it is. I for one ain't got enough info and face to face experience with kre8tv to cast any judgements....I will say from my military days that when I first encountered yankees...I did think they were hostile and rude...but, after getting to know them....it was nothing intentional...simply a result of that culture. That being said..... Best of luck honey. |
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I think the negative comments are referring to the overtly defensive and argumentative posture you are assuming. But maybe that is just against my "Southern" nature. No offense intended - but you can't deny it is two different worlds so-to-speak. In "these parts" you GOTTA be tough... or you get walked all over. Trust me. I didn't get this thick skin overnight. Cop out... and HOW is THAT a cop out????????????????? It is a fact that around here, you can't JUST be soft... you have to have a blance so that you don't get "run off the road" You're kidding me, right with that lame two-word euphamism?! "It is what it is", let's analyze that for a minute. "It is what it is" puts absolutely no control of the situation in your hands, therefore the situation will exist because of things "not" of your control. Everyone has control of where they are going with their life, what they decide to do, how they decide to do it, and when it gets done. It is a classic copout. Now let's take "east coast thing" and analyze that. The phrase in and of itself is a contradiction, mainly because I've known plenty of really good people from the east coast that don't wear this thick skin constantly. A time and a place for everything, and everything meets an end. |
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Edited by
thekre8tv1
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Sun 03/22/09 12:18 PM
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anyone that thinks that no other state or country doesn't have it tough is wrong. people have had to develope tough skins all over the world....doesn't mean it has to be negative. It's a classic copout, I'm from the ghetto and heard it all the time...yet I didn't come out anything like them, but they were "stuck" because of the "area"...blah, blah, blah. OK - somewhere along this thread someone got the impression that I am a total bi**h who hates everyone and has a negative outlook on evrything... talk about the telephone game... SLOW DOWN PEOPLE. Stop trippin! You got on that bandwagon and rode it straight to hell... No one said I am some gun-toting thug who is out hear to bash men or disagree or start confronations from people from the south! My pount about the difference between the way people talk from - for example texas vs. NJ - IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE! It is a FACT. Are you kidding me...?!?! This all goes back to the fact that about 80% of Americans are living in oblivion and persuing the lives of PUPPETS. |
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Just giving an example...take it where you want.
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So I feel the need to vent.... I know what I want, and even more so I know what I DON'T want. It is a fact that no matter how much someone may stimulate you mentally and emotionally, if there is a 'defect' in the chemical attraction of any kind, eventually THAT will be the ruin of all that seems good. Just like that of a great passionate relationship that is solely based on the physical, if the mental portion or the emotional portion is not in line you will soon find yourself sabotaging the relationship without even thinking about it. I also know that you cannot find something worthwhile when you are not looking. Good things come to those who WORK for them. Sitting by idly thinking something will just happen is a recipe for disaster. The laws of attraction are very powerful, and you have to have your "laws of existence" under control and in line with them. As well, taking for granted something that is right in front of you, and allowing for 'interference' instead of actually giving it your 100% is also a big mistake. Better to go for it all, without fear of loss, and then see what may come... otherwise you not only can hurt yourself, but someone else as well. This "world of online dating" is chaotic. People say they want "the real thing"... then they connect with someone online, meet them and find they mutually have interest in each other... however one or the other continues to stay LIVE on a dating site while they're working on a potential relationship. All because they feel the need to stay LIVE to "keep looking" or "keeping their options open" with the hopes of "maybe something even better" over making the most of what is before them and not taking it for granted... not only is it selfish and totally inconsiderate, but it is straight-up stupid... unless of course, you are only pretending to "know what you want" and really only in this for the "game" aspects. And in that case, you don't deserve happiness as that puts you in the class of people I like to call "the ones who really SUCK". My theory - if someone seems worth your efforts, then give them the opportunity and offer that 100% - lay low and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, what is the worst thing that will happen in regard to this online dating saga? You would have to start over again and reactivate your profile. BIG FREAKIN DEAL! The "potentials' will always be out there.. ya' know? I mean... take away the internet; if this were a public meeting place, as opposed to an online connection... would you go about it all the same way - ? Would you walk around with a sign that says "Single & looking" as to adviertise yourself, and continue to "approach" other people while you are already in some sort of involvement and have stated that you were "mutually exclusive"?   What if a person is married and on the dating site? I will not even acknowledge that with a response. |
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anyone that thinks that no other state or country doesn't have it tough is wrong. people have had to develope tough skins all over the world....doesn't mean it has to be negative. It's a classic copout, I'm from the ghetto and heard it all the time...yet I didn't come out anything like them, but they were "stuck" because of the "area"...blah, blah, blah. OK - somewhere along this thread someone got the impression that I am a total bi**h who hates everyone and has a negative outlook on evrything... talk about the telephone game... SLOW DOWN PEOPLE. Stop trippin! You got on that bandwagon and rode it straight to hell... No one said I am some gun-toting thug who is out hear to bash men or disagree or start confronations from people from the south! My pount about the difference between the way people talk from - for example texas vs. NJ - IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE! It is a FACT. Are you kidding me...?!?! This all goes back to the fact that about 80% of Americans are living in oblivion and persuing the lives of PUPPETS. no one is saying that. maybe it's the attitude that is coming across in your posts is why people are reacting the way they are. there is a difference in words in different states....but the attitude can speak volumes |
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Anybody that likes the Pink Panther can't be all that bad. You have just been redeemed. awww Gee.. thanks ;) ~ he is only the COOLEST cat EVER ;) lol |
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Well, speaking for my self and not generalizing, I was purely going by your original post, subsequent comments and later your profile.
I don't ride the band wagon... I drive myself.
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You seem a little hostile and negative. Even your profile reads that way... Hey, if your attitude helps you find what you seek then more power to ya! Yes, it's negative. I guess its an East Coast thing.... the NY Metro area seems to be pretty ok with my "attitude" as you folks have called it... ...but I'm still not getting the negative. It makes sense. Period. If sensibility and logic is negative then wtf is this world coming to NOW?!?! I'm about as east coast as you can be. Being blunt, direct, and having preferences are good. You have stepped beyond that into negativity. You know the cliche about not being able to see the forest from trees? Well there ya go... Yeah Mitch! I was hoping some fellow "east coast" people would defend themselves. Still trying to figure out who "Mitch" is, as I haven't noticed any folks from the NY Metro area on this thread.... so WHO's defending WHAT? |
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Edited by
MirrorMirror
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Sun 03/22/09 12:23 PM
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So I feel the need to vent.... I know what I want, and even more so I know what I DON'T want. It is a fact that no matter how much someone may stimulate you mentally and emotionally, if there is a 'defect' in the chemical attraction of any kind, eventually THAT will be the ruin of all that seems good. Just like that of a great passionate relationship that is solely based on the physical, if the mental portion or the emotional portion is not in line you will soon find yourself sabotaging the relationship without even thinking about it. I also know that you cannot find something worthwhile when you are not looking. Good things come to those who WORK for them. Sitting by idly thinking something will just happen is a recipe for disaster. The laws of attraction are very powerful, and you have to have your "laws of existence" under control and in line with them. As well, taking for granted something that is right in front of you, and allowing for 'interference' instead of actually giving it your 100% is also a big mistake. Better to go for it all, without fear of loss, and then see what may come... otherwise you not only can hurt yourself, but someone else as well. This "world of online dating" is chaotic. People say they want "the real thing"... then they connect with someone online, meet them and find they mutually have interest in each other... however one or the other continues to stay LIVE on a dating site while they're working on a potential relationship. All because they feel the need to stay LIVE to "keep looking" or "keeping their options open" with the hopes of "maybe something even better" over making the most of what is before them and not taking it for granted... not only is it selfish and totally inconsiderate, but it is straight-up stupid... unless of course, you are only pretending to "know what you want" and really only in this for the "game" aspects. And in that case, you don't deserve happiness as that puts you in the class of people I like to call "the ones who really SUCK". My theory - if someone seems worth your efforts, then give them the opportunity and offer that 100% - lay low and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, what is the worst thing that will happen in regard to this online dating saga? You would have to start over again and reactivate your profile. BIG FREAKIN DEAL! The "potentials' will always be out there.. ya' know? I mean... take away the internet; if this were a public meeting place, as opposed to an online connection... would you go about it all the same way - ? Would you walk around with a sign that says "Single & looking" as to adviertise yourself, and continue to "approach" other people while you are already in some sort of involvement and have stated that you were "mutually exclusive"? What if a person is married and on the dating site? I will not even acknowledge that with a response. What if they are just on here for friendship?
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i'm a very blunt person, but I try to do it in a positive way. you can be blunt and let someone know how the cow ate the cabbage without being brash or appear rude there is a difference in the approach Where's the fun in THAT?? 
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