DO NOT under ANY circumstances date a co-worker. Not only is it sure NOT to work, but the consequences for the relationship not working can be quite severe. They can range from unsubstantiated rumors about you at the water cooler ("He's got a sore on his penis??? You DON'T say!!! ) to even more drastic forms of retaliation, some of which can even result in your getting fired.

It's simply not worth it. Believe me.

I would have to say that it depends on your job and position in said job. If I worked at a burger joint as a fry cook I dont think I would worry so much about loosing my job or reprocussions of sorts. SO I would just ask :

I was wondering if you would like to go get lunch with me today.

this is not a date but can lead to more and can also not end a job as you have not put the "date" on the table. its just lunch. yet it shows interest.

as to dateing a collige in a professional career.

very tricky and most companys say DONT DO IT OR YOUR GOING TO BE LET GO. close quarters can offten lead to false feelings so its good to evaluate it and see if its real or infatuation.

best I can offer. :)

Just curious... those who think it's a good idea to look for dates at work, have you ever dated anyone you work with?

I dont feel its a good idea to discount anyone just baced on a simple fact of working together. I feel its best to evaluate it and insure its not infatuation or some other feeling as the ramifications are more than just personal. the secular implications are real and harsh.

no I have not dated anyone I worked with. mostly due to the fact that I was married and so was not looking. and currently the ones I would ask out are only in this country for a few months getting trained befor headed back to there home land. the others are just not my type. guess Ill find out one day if and when Im faced with that decision.

I don't date anyone at work

Wow! My first response would be...
DON'T!

If you want to date someone at work, go for it. Some of us have just offered warnings about it. That's all.

Nope - don't date anyone from work!

Been there, done that, many years ago. I learned the hard way.

In the line of work I am in - there are some really great guys - working relationship is all it can be - sorry fellas

Never say Never.

Dating with in the work enviroment, is touchy.
I have always been married, but know a few that dated & married; but also know those that dated & regretted it.
EVERY situation has it's on unique facts & everyone is different.

You can speak of what is normal, but there will ALWAYS be the exceptions.

I wouldn't unless I as leaving the job... Actually our office has a strict policy againest this type of thing I fully agree with it.

Nothing worse than to watch two people fall in love get all gooey eyed, work production drops off missed deadlines, God help all of us when the first fight happens, then the downfall of the romance that is when the it invades the whole working place not something I want to be subjected to...

Yup, there is a tendency of work place getting converted into drama place during the downfall of romance

and I beleve that your warnings are quite justified and come from a place of experiance and wisdom. I was just trying to offer my thoughts and as such should be looked as as no more note worthy than the few secconds it takes to scroll past them

I have worked with my ex wife when we were married. and it was noted by our employer that it was quite nice to see people who were able to leave it at the door. I guess I am just that kind of person that no matter what when Im working even during a fight I will not let it interfear. I just dont see a reason to share my fights or great love with everyone around me at inaproptiate times. *shrug* thats me tho and I agree not everyone is that way.

Hello, I'm new to the site. I would agree with those who choose not to date someone at work for the problems that could easily arise. but i might make an exception for you, MelodyGirl.

I would never date anyone where I work....they're all guys and I don't swing that way

Thank you!

I disagree with the whole "don't date a coworker bit" First off, it is by far and away the easiest place to get a date. And, it is kind of fun to me to have a little fling with someone at work while at the same time trying to keep it on the low. Also, for those who are fairly shy like me, you usually can find out from other people if someone likes you or not so you don't have to feel like an ass and get rejected. Everytime I change jobs, I instantly scope out the situation. The new guy or girl is usually fair game untill they get to know you lol. It's just to easy to pass up on!

The first commandment of dating. Thou shalt not date where you work.

That way then you have a great relationship with the people you work with. It`s kewl to run with people you work with, but just don`t let dating get in the way.

Stops a lot of "gossip" and remarks too.

Like my dad used to say. "Don`t park where you eat."

All my co-workers are men, this isnt a dilemma i have to deal with.

If I were to date someone from work they'd have to be in a different department or on a different shift. Work is also way to have time to myself. Far too often people carry their relationships to work with them. I need my "me" time.

im in management and am not ALLOWED to ask a coworker on a date... but i still get my flirt on... haha