Why would you even ask, though? That is just a power/control trip on your part. Thankfully, she has enough backbone to see through it and call you on it. Sheesh, grow up.

Agreed! And nurturing strength not cultivating weakness!

when people get bored in their relationships, this tends to happen.

fighting over nothing and hypothetical questions. just to add something to the mundane.

then they hope for make up sex.

So basically, you just had an argument over nothing.

She said she couldn't take seeing me get beat and she said thiers almost no time for us.

and thats what I told her about college theirs no time for us.

so you DO want her to quit college?

It's some other things to but that kinda personal.

In someways yes and also in someways no.

Eggzactly! Couldn't have said it any better myself!

this is obvious. sounds like you two need to have a serious, and mature talk. sans arguing.

College is temporary! The benefits long lasting both in her development as a human being but also in her future career prospects.

Can you not frame this in a way that it is a temporary sacrifice for something that will benefit you both. Her in the growth and experience. And you in getting to share life with a person who is becoming more interesting all the time.

Do you now resent her for your decision to give up martial arts?


I am sorry but this sounds like teenage dating games ...

My first husband used to pull all sorts of crap on me like this. According to him, I'm the reason he was never an airline pilot, forest ranger or race car driver. Boo hoo and bull!!!

And, you didn't NOT be a wrestler or martial artist BECAUSE of her. It was YOUR CHOICE in the interest of the relationship. And, I'm SURE the dynamics are different now then when that occurred. The education term WILL END and there WILL BE a break. Her education isn't her living or life-style, but a step to a better life for YOU BOTH. Be thrilled you both can reap the benefits of her college education and knock off the blaming/shaming stuff. You owe her an apology.

Most likely. Do these pants make my ass look fat?

Some men can be intimidated when their wife has a better education than them...

What I hear is "I need to know I can make you do what I want if I want/need".

No, your fat ass makes your ass look fat..

nope, taco bell does.

That is true...however, he already admitted that he really didn't want her to drop out of college...merely see if she would be willing to if he asked her to.

So basically it was kind of a trick question much like "If I died tomorrow, would you get married again?".

And THAT is the reason why all my girlfriends are fatter than me. Because they make my ass look skinny when I stand next to them.