Which usually gets me in trouble...

So far on Mingle I have met some of the most interesting Women; Bright, Funny, Sexy, Intelligent, Spiritual, Like Minded, Kind, Generous, Wise, Cute, Soulful and several other adjectives that would fill up the page. (oh and from Texas lol)

I have been talking to one Woman for the past four days.

It started in emails complementing each other on photos and profiles. We discovered that we have so much in common it is kind of scary. We then went on to Instant Messages, ETC...
First night we went from email to telephone in eight hours! (I am still astonished by the level at which we understand each other)
We talk, joke, compare notes on how much alike we are. We start talking about our rules and what it was we expected from our past partners that we had not received.
Slowly we start laying down our own rules to each other, what we want from this experience and if we were open to dating others or would it be exclusive. (at the time we both agreed on open dating, if something changed for one of us that we should voice it to the other so we can discuss it)

The second day as she went about Her day and I mine; we would text each other intermittently through out the day.
Near the end of my day, I received a call from one of the brokers asking if I could pull a recovery load for him and that it would be a short run with bonus pay, I almost said no but the guy cut me off and said that he would owe me a favor. With out thinking I blurted out, Such-an-such State. The guy goes DONE and sets up the job.
Once I am off the phone I text Her to let Her know I might have good news. I tell Her that I might have a run to where She is, She instantly gets excited, which is the reaction I expected from Her.
After a lengthy conversation we had agreed that we would like to have a more Formal date, but the first meet should be casual. I was struck with an idea, and it was Genus. We had discussed friendship first and that if there was no spark that we could at least be good friends for all that we have in common.
My Genus idea was that the first thing we should do is get the "First Kiss" out of the way. If there is no spark we can go on with our meet as friends and no BS; However, If there is a spark we just eliminated hours of guessing games and pretense. She agreed with anticipation.
We continued to talk, finally ending the night for the both of us on the phone for three hours. (We are starting to finish each others sentences already)

On the third day I am moving through the mountains leaving me with with hardly a signal, but I get most of Her side of the day and She is having a bad time of it. Being the type of person I am, I sent Her a couple of texts, as I could, to offer Her some support (She explained to me this action moved her emotionally); Her work day was brightened and ended on a high note.
After having a rather short day, we are able to get on the phone earlier than we had the previous two nights. Going over our plans in more detail, we agreed that as much as we might have in common and if the spark is there, that when we meet that we will likely move directly to exclusive dating.(yes we had talked about the fact that this is only the third day and we are still dumbfounded) We continue to talk for about seven hours till I verbally tucked Her into bed for the night.

I have already started making plans for our official first date in the first part of June. She had expressed an interest in taking Latin dance lessons; I thought this might be a good thing to learn myself and being somewhat of a romantic at heart, I set up the first part of the date with an Introduction to Latin Dance followed by an Upper Class Casual Dinner.

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So... I was thinking, I am going to pull myself off the list of men "Looking to Date" and shift to "Looking for Friendship", if all goes as She and I hope there will be sparks and the beginning of a very special relationship of Best Friends.


**Before anyone asks, the forth day is still happening as of the time of this Post. I intentionally left out Her name and several details as She is a member of Mingle and I respect Her privacy. If She wishes to jump on the mountain and proclaim what I have, it will be up to Her to reveal

Good luck

But SLOW THE FK DOWN!

What was it you were thinking?

invite me to the wedding

I agree... slow down. There's no reason to rush anything.

I hope everything turns out well, but when people rush things they have a habit of making mistakes.

A seed doesn't become a tree overnight. Allow relationships to grow at a slower pace and the roots will be stronger and deeper.

So true.....or else your tree ends up instead, a dandelion, which puffs away at the slightest breeze.

four whole days, eh?

Best wishes!

If I saw her on Monday
Met her on Tuesday
Dated her on Wednesday
Married her on Thursday
Divorced her On Friday
On Saturday I can say
I had a very full week

Yes, I understand it does seem fast, She and I have talked about this.

There is nowhere, either of us are going to, that needs to be gotten to in a hurry. We both have our careers, our goals(which are also very much the same), and our children.

We also only plan on Dating til one of our mutual goals has been accomplished, which may take another year or so.

But your advice is well placed, and I appreciate it, Thank you.

You are in no hurry, but yet you have a plan already?

Chuck your plan outta the window and enjoy the ride. See where it goes.

Once you have actually met, you can maybe start making a game plan.

your the man with the master plan

Best of luck.

Good luck to both of you .

That is a good point Dan, I think sense the both of us are so organized and thought out we had not seen that... going to bring it up tonight and see if we can develop another strategy.

Pun intended

Being prepared should be a good idea... the thing we are looking at right now is if we do actually fit, if we fit then we move on to a relationship/courtship/dating ritual.
I do understand what you mean about going with the flow, we are not going to play that game of "if we do all these right things will we click". We are already friends, we just have to find out if we have the "spice" to be more than friends.

Our lives are such that it hinders what some would call normal dating; Once we reach our primary goals, we can then look at seeing each other more than once a month/two months.
I do not want to interfere with Her plans; to many times have I been in a relationship where one of us gave up the dream to please the other, nor does She want to interfere with mine.




***After I re-read my post it looks as though I am making a biting remark and I did not mean to, it is my poor taste in humor.

You arent going to know a thing until you have met. Until then you can only guess, and its not worth guessing how things will be, because one way or another you'll get it wrong. Even if things do work out, they wont work out exactly as you would guess they might.

The only other tip i can give you, is that if this lady is another forum poster, keep your business out of the forums(and i mean OUT!).

Oh yeah, life will always happen, but I have learned over the years to have a back up plan, but yet nothing ever goes to plan. It is all in how we weather it and what steps we take to be able to roll with it.



Or not post such a topic with out first consulting Her...

Listen guy you might not even like her and that's not trying to be negative that's just being real she might not like you