Topic: Pre-Nup Agreements
EquusDancer's photo
Sat 05/09/09 11:41 AM
Would you sign one? Would you set one up? If you had money?

There's also living arrangement contracts, too. Would you use those?




SirQuixote's photo
Sat 05/09/09 11:58 AM
I've drafted hundreds.

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:03 PM

Would you sign one? Would you set one up? If you had money?

There's also living arrangement contracts, too. Would you use those?




bigsmile yes and yesbigsmile

Johncenawlife316's photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:03 PM
Only if I was load with never ending cash sure I would get one so if by some odd chance the relationship ended she couldn't take everything I worked so hard to get away.

But since I am not loaded with cash, I guess right now it wouldn't matter.

As far as living goes, if I bought the home and all and she moved in then I wouldn't want her to take it away from me just like that, which would be unfair to me for something I paid for or am working towards, unless I didn't care then she could have it.

So I guess a lot depends on the what if's etc.

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:03 PM
LOL! Mirror, I agree.

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:04 PM

I've drafted hundreds.


So do you think they're a smart thing?

LordCole's photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:15 PM

Would you sign one? Would you set one up? If you had money?

There's also living arrangement contracts, too. Would you use those?






Pre-nup is not always about cash... My family has a house, in my home town, that we have had in the family sense 1870s. The property always goes to the first born living male each generation.

PATSFAN's photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:42 PM
Yup!

Dan99's photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:45 PM
Pre Nups are not legally binding in the UK, so we dont get that choice.

no photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:46 PM
no no pre nups for me.. why? because most do not stand up in court anyways...besides there are a million other ways to protect yourself and finances. It just shows distrust right from the get go. And the acknowledgement of certain failure in a marriage... As for property that's passed down to family? you can always prevent them from taking it in court in my beliefs.. I could be wrong, but.... oh well.

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 05/09/09 12:47 PM
Yes/yes...

SirQuixote's photo
Sat 05/09/09 01:29 PM
Pre-nups deal with what each owned prior to and not what is acquired after. Full and honest disclosures are required to be valid and there has to be an agreed upon consideration. This has nothing to do with the billions made after the marriage, alimony based upon lifestyle or child support. We're just talking about avoiding loosing what one has before they met you or you loosing what you had before you met them. What's the problem?

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 05/09/09 05:50 PM

Pre-nups deal with what each owned prior to and not what is acquired after. Full and honest disclosures are required to be valid and there has to be an agreed upon consideration. This has nothing to do with the billions made after the marriage, alimony based upon lifestyle or child support. We're just talking about avoiding loosing what one has before they met you or you loosing what you had before you met them. What's the problem?


Yeh, I always thought it had to do with what one had before a partnership or marriage.

I was just curious as to others thoughts on it, since it tends to be a volatile situation.

The parents and I have discussed a contract enabling me to put a cabin on the back of their property, and if in the future, I had someone move in with me, would need the added protection of not giving that person the ability to claim that piece of property should a break-up occur. There's also the fact of things aquired before getting into a relationship, that I would be extremely pissed about losing anyways. It's why I haven't really done the dating scene in a couple of years. It gets expensive when the other person skips out and steals what wasn't there's to begin with.


EquusDancer's photo
Sat 05/09/09 05:53 PM

no no pre nups for me.. why? because most do not stand up in court anyways...besides there are a million other ways to protect yourself and finances. It just shows distrust right from the get go. And the acknowledgement of certain failure in a marriage... As for property that's passed down to family? you can always prevent them from taking it in court in my beliefs.. I could be wrong, but.... oh well.


I think if it was drafted well enough it would. I know with some property it can be taken away, or there's a whole long process with eviction.

As far as trust... I can see what you mean, but at the same time, when people have worked hard before a relationship, it's rather sucky to loose what they do, if the other person ends up not being an equal partner in the relationship and pulling their part of the load.