Topic: So am I doing something wrong?
MikeCarbellano's photo
Mon 06/29/09 10:50 AM
Edited by MikeCarbellano on Mon 06/29/09 10:56 AM
I have been single since November 2005. I am a nice person, not picky, try new things and activities out, I always am up for spontanious things like hanging out, or a trip somewhere. I do not lie in a relationship, and am very open. I am not clingy, and would never pressure someone into something they did not want to do. I have never done drugs, do not smoke, but I do socially drink. I have a steady full time job, and live with a roommate. I also have my own car. I am clean, and I keep my house clean. When I message the people on these dating sites, I am not writing a boring or typical, neither am I vulgar. I can hold a good conversation in public too without it dying.

I have tried nightclubs, kickbacks, dating websites, yet nothing ever seems to get started.

What am I doing wrong?

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 06/29/09 10:52 AM
just as with real life...it takes time. just sit back and enjoy the ride and it will happen

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Mon 06/29/09 10:52 AM
Have you tried Mutual Match? drinker

robert1652's photo
Mon 06/29/09 10:54 AM
Edited by robert1652 on Mon 06/29/09 10:55 AM
You are doing all the wrong things
For starters you need to be picky
you need to be full of yourself
You need to be a slob
Helps if you ride a worn out iron horse
and need to treat hem bad
then they will queue up to be with you
Trust me I am your Doctor

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Mon 06/29/09 10:58 AM

Have you tried Mutual Match? drinker
I cannot say anything about Mutual Match. Big Brother warned me and I dare not go there. I am so scared.

MikeCarbellano's photo
Mon 06/29/09 11:02 AM

just as with real life...it takes time. just sit back and enjoy the ride and it will happen


This November it will be 4 years. I have not known anyone else that it has been this long. This also means I have not even recieved a girls number since that time. But yeah, I keep trying.

Gossipmpm's photo
Mon 06/29/09 11:07 AM
RELAX

It'll come to ya:heart:

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Mon 06/29/09 11:09 AM
Jump into the forums and get to know people, allow them to get to know you. Lots of great people here. Jump in, have fun, relax and let it happen...good luckflowerforyou

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Mon 06/29/09 11:10 AM
Dude, your 22, and been single since 18 - and have not gotten a phone number? Brush off the boring, go do something spontaneous and out of your mold... live some life, take a chance... if you do not ask, you will not get an answer... geez... don't waste your youth trying to find a relationship - go have fun ROFLMAO!!

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Mon 06/29/09 11:22 AM
you have to consider that about 65 % of the profiles you see are not active anymore (they gave up, lost the password or just created and didnt follow up )or they never existed (especially in paid sites)or is somebody trying to scam you... the other 35 % would be 20% females of which only 8% could be a match but they already are communicating with somebody better looking ( aparently ) than you... so... NO, is not that you are doing something wrong, is just the odds are against us... then again, there still be hope...

MikeCarbellano's photo
Mon 06/29/09 11:26 AM

Dude, your 22, and been single since 18 - and have not gotten a phone number? Brush off the boring, go do something spontaneous and out of your mold... live some life, take a chance... if you do not ask, you will not get an answer... geez... don't waste your youth trying to find a relationship - go have fun ROFLMAO!!


I am having fun. I try to do as many things as possible. I do hang out with. I do want a relationship, but I still wouldn't mind having fun, just to hang out. You obviously did not read the post close enough. :-)

MikeCarbellano's photo
Mon 06/29/09 11:30 AM

you have to consider that about 65 % of the profiles you see are not active anymore (they gave up, lost the password or just created and didnt follow up )or they never existed (especially in paid sites)or is somebody trying to scam you... the other 35 % would be 20% females of which only 8% could be a match but they already are communicating with somebody better looking ( aparently ) than you... so... NO, is not that you are doing something wrong, is just the odds are against us... then again, there still be hope...


I am also on plentyoffish.com, which is apparently the most popular free dating site. Lol, good point. I am not giving up though.

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 06/29/09 11:33 AM

you have to consider that about 65 % of the profiles you see are not active anymore (they gave up, lost the password or just created and didnt follow up )or they never existed (especially in paid sites)or is somebody trying to scam you... the other 35 % would be 20% females of which only 8% could be a match but they already are communicating with somebody better looking ( aparently ) than you... so... NO, is not that you are doing something wrong, is just the odds are against us... then again, there still be hope...



shocked grimscared

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Mon 06/29/09 11:38 AM

you have to consider that about 65 % of the profiles you see are not active anymore (they gave up, lost the password or just created and didnt follow up )or they never existed (especially in paid sites)or is somebody trying to scam you... the other 35 % would be 20% females of which only 8% could be a match but they already are communicating with somebody better looking ( aparently ) than you... so... NO, is not that you are doing something wrong, is just the odds are against us... then again, there still be hope...



wow...whoa surprised slaphead

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Mon 06/29/09 11:41 AM


you have to consider that about 65 % of the profiles you see are not active anymore (they gave up, lost the password or just created and didnt follow up )or they never existed (especially in paid sites)or is somebody trying to scam you... the other 35 % would be 20% females of which only 8% could be a match but they already are communicating with somebody better looking ( aparently ) than you... so... NO, is not that you are doing something wrong, is just the odds are against us... then again, there still be hope...


I am also on plentyoffish.com, which is apparently the most popular free dating site. Lol, good point. I am not giving up though.
POF is for hook-up's. That's why I got off of there. Buuuuuuuuuut, I'vebeen tinkering with the idea of trying it again. There's not much action here. However, this place is fun.

FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 06/29/09 11:44 AM
Do what I do and start collecting things from people...like hair, eyeballs...wait, uh, nevermind...move along, nothing to see here folks!happy

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Mon 06/29/09 02:07 PM

you have to consider that about 65 % of the profiles you see are not active anymore (they gave up, lost the password or just created and didnt follow up )or they never existed (especially in paid sites)or is somebody trying to scam you... the other 35 % would be 20% females of which only 8% could be a match but they already are communicating with somebody better looking ( aparently ) than you... so... NO, is not that you are doing something wrong, is just the odds are against us... then again, there still be hope...
You seem to know a lot since your first post
E.S.P.? May be Clairvoyant possibly

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Mon 06/29/09 02:09 PM



you have to consider that about 65 % of the profiles you see are not active anymore (they gave up, lost the password or just created and didnt follow up )or they never existed (especially in paid sites)or is somebody trying to scam you... the other 35 % would be 20% females of which only 8% could be a match but they already are communicating with somebody better looking ( aparently ) than you... so... NO, is not that you are doing something wrong, is just the odds are against us... then again, there still be hope...


I am also on plentyoffish.com, which is apparently the most popular free dating site. Lol, good point. I am not giving up though.
POF is for hook-up's. That's why I got off of there. Buuuuuuuuuut, I'vebeen tinkering with the idea of trying it again. There's not much action here. However, this place is fun.

Hook ups and getting off
Sounds good

will be seeing you there?


PATSFAN's photo
Mon 06/29/09 02:10 PM

you have to consider that about 65 % of the profiles you see are not active anymore (they gave up, lost the password or just created and didnt follow up )or they never existed (especially in paid sites)or is somebody trying to scam you... the other 35 % would be 20% females of which only 8% could be a match but they already are communicating with somebody better looking ( aparently ) than you... so... NO, is not that you are doing something wrong, is just the odds are against us... then again, there still be hope...




I'm sure he's not too far off!

Tone_11's photo
Mon 06/29/09 02:27 PM
Maybe you need to change your approach a bit. I figure nothing happens if you don't go out and try. I go with the volume approach, I mean if you ask enough girls out a few are bound to say yes. Then just go from there. You shouldn't meet someone and then bam expect to be in a relationship with them. Circulate, women hate insecurity, for some reason *prolly cause alot of them are insecure themselves* so be confident and remember asking a girl out you risk being a fool for 5 minutes...say nothing your a fool for ever