Topic: help...opinions
sweetsimplesassy's photo
Sun 11/15/09 12:07 AM
I'm a good woman with great values, great kids and a bright future for my career plans and goals, I am okk looking and am not dumb, so....why am I having trouble meeting someone?

Cambolaya65's photo
Sun 11/15/09 12:11 AM
It isnt spring yet,that is when the rut begins for the male human.Seriously,it is difficult for everyone.Modify your tactics?

Jimmy59's photo
Sun 11/15/09 12:29 AM
Maybe you are at the top of your tree. Since you are so very atractive men think they would not have a chance being with a woman like you !!flowerforyou

Avellana's photo
Sun 11/15/09 12:37 AM
I think that the majority of people on this site are here because they have problems meeting someone, or at least someone right for them.
Keep looking and stay positive and i'm sure it will happen for you. flowerforyou


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Sun 11/15/09 02:06 AM
Edited by ronny4dating on Sun 11/15/09 02:07 AM

I'm a good woman with great values, great kids and a bright future for my career plans and goals, I am okk looking and am not dumb, so....why am I having trouble meeting someone?



well lets break it down. great values is a great thing but not an ice breaker and it's a given that you find out later. great kids really is not attractive or unattractive just a non factor. bright future is not something i dont care about or look for in a woman although i dont want a bumb! you look just fine but now what are you looking for, super hot perfection? So it all depends on the guy but i'm just giving you a perspective.

no photo
Sun 11/15/09 04:49 AM
Live a life that makes you happy, that makes sense to you, that meets your needs.
Be Happy with it, change it around if you need to.
Have it "Together" as best you can.
Then you won't be so anxious for a partner, and thats just about when someone special tends to show up.

Gossipmpm's photo
Sun 11/15/09 04:53 AM
That's somthing only you can answer!!

Look deep inside yourself

Here you'll find hundreds of different answers

Only you really know!!:heart:

catseyes1's photo
Sun 11/15/09 07:56 AM

That's somthing only you can answer!!

Look deep inside yourself

Here you'll find hundreds of different answers

Only you really know!!:heart:


I agree, you are the only person that can answer that.

Goofball73's photo
Sun 11/15/09 08:41 AM

Maybe you are at the top of your tree. Since you are so very atractive men think they would not have a chance being with a woman like you !!flowerforyou



frustrated frustrated Why do some guys think this? I mean, did you ever hear of taking a risk? Seriosuly, if you never do, then you probably missed out on something awesome. I just don't get this.

Sweetsimplesassy....alot of people wonder this very same thing. Why can't I find someone? I have read your profile, and to be honest, you are a catch. I have chatted with you here in the forums, and one thing I can see is you have an awesome sense of humor. I know for a guy like me (and many others) that is sexy. But not only that, you also talk about how you stick to your morals, and how you are excited about your future career. Maybe because you have a brain and are an attractive woman it will intimidate some men. It happens, and it is there loss if they won't even try to get to know you because of that.

And, I am gonna be honest about something else here, and it will probably make me sounds arrogant, but it is what I feel. I believe I am a good looking, sexy, funny and smart dude. And because of how silly I am, I think alot of women who are interested in me are scared to show it. Why? I have no freaking clue. Women can talk to me very easily, but it is when they want to go that extra mile to see my interest level in them that makes them stumble. I think it has to do with how picky I am about who I date. But I dunno if that is accurate. Anyways, I feel I am a catch for some lucky lady out there, and until I find her I am content with where I am at. I think you are content with where you are as well, but you also would like to be with someone with whom you could share your life with. And, I want that too. So see....you are not alone on this.

Perhaps if you meet someone on here, maybe you can get a little bit more assertive (with tact) in finding out his interest level in you? Take some time and flirt with a dude a little, email and get to know him, talk or text, etc. Listen to his answers, or read into what he writes. These are all good key things to use. Basically, if you see a guy you like, just go for it. shades

freeonthree's photo
Sun 11/15/09 08:45 AM

I'm a good woman with great values, great kids and a bright future for my career plans and goals, I am okk looking and am not dumb, so....why am I having trouble meeting someone?


Real men ride motorcycles, unless it's raining. Remember that...

sweetsimplesassy's photo
Sun 11/15/09 09:15 AM
I don't see myself as beautiful to where I am out of anyones league.
In fact I see myself as the opposite. I'm not an intimidating person, I'm just me...get to know me and not what you think the otside package represents. I can't help that. I'm a very practical, non flashy, non materialistic woman. I am 39 yrs old and just going back to school after many years, so its not like I have been a career oriented snob and as far as my "career", I'm doing this for the love of it, and yes, I hope to make a living at what I am going to school for, but its not my life. There are more important things in life, like family and people....that comes 1st.
I want to be wth my ultimate best friend 1st and foremost and just enjoy a simple life with someone

motowndowntown's photo
Sun 11/15/09 09:21 AM
It's all about attitude, perception, wants, and location.

The attitude you have about yourself, the perceptions you have of others, what you want in a relationship, and where you are physically and emotionally located.

Change one or more parts of the equation and the result changes.

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Sun 11/15/09 09:27 AM
Sometimes it just takes time to find that right one...even if it's more time than we think we need. laugh It isn't always about you...and I don't mean that offensively. Sometimes it's just about the timing.

He will come!

Jimmy59's photo
Sun 11/15/09 02:08 PM

I don't see myself as beautiful to where I am out of anyones league.
In fact I see myself as the opposite. I'm not an intimidating person, I'm just me...get to know me and not what you think the otside package represents. I can't help that. I'm a very practical, non flashy, non materialistic woman. I am 39 yrs old and just going back to school after many years, so its not like I have been a career oriented snob and as far as my "career", I'm doing this for the love of it, and yes, I hope to make a living at what I am going to school for, but its not my life. There are more important things in life, like family and people....that comes 1st.
I want to be wth my ultimate best friend 1st and foremost and just enjoy a simple life with someone
Me Tooo !!!!flowerforyou

Quietman_2009's photo
Sun 11/15/09 02:18 PM

I'm a good woman with great values, great kids and a bright future for my career plans and goals, I am okk looking and am not dumb, so....why am I having trouble meeting someone?


you're wanting it to happen just for the sake of it happening

patience grasshopper

wait for the right one

Ladylid2012's photo
Sun 11/15/09 02:18 PM

I'm a good woman with great values, great kids and a bright future for my career plans and goals, I am okk looking and am not dumb, so....why am I having trouble meeting someone?


Been asking myself the same question...I have decided location is my biggest factor.

PacificStar48's photo
Sun 11/15/09 08:36 PM
I think it is just a numbers thing. If you are not in contact with a lot of people then you are not likely to meet someone suitable. Tell your friends, family, co-workers that you would like to meet a nice guy. Then be accessible. If someone is talking to you give them and email or phone number. Step out of your day to day circle as often as you can. Go to conferences, activities where you meet people, and be aware that people see you all the time. Take the blinders off and respond.

GG2's photo
Sun 11/15/09 08:42 PM

I'm a good woman with great values, great kids and a bright future for my career plans and goals, I am okk looking and am not dumb, so....why am I having trouble meeting someone?



Because you live in Fargo?? rofl rofl

You'll find someone when you least expect it, that's always how it happens!

sweetsimplesassy's photo
Sun 11/15/09 09:05 PM
Edited by sweetsimplesassy on Sun 11/15/09 09:06 PM


I'm a good woman with great values, great kids and a bright future for my career plans and goals, I am okk looking and am not dumb, so....why am I having trouble meeting someone?



Because you live in Fargo?? rofl rofl

You'll find someone when you least expect it, that's always how it happens!



LOL I have thought that too, I DONT go out unless its to school, work or with my kids, I dont have but one girlfriend here and she is married. I dont put myself out there, I admot and I am NOT desperate, I'm just wondering what others may think, but I guess maybe I answered my own question. hmmm