How much does fear of yet another failed relationship factor into the way you approach or avoid dating?

significantly

I have more experience at my hand and taking the red flags and my gut feeling more seriously.

Doesn't bother me any.

Failure is the only option if you are in the desert...alone...and not a drop of water in sight.

Quite a lot, actually.

I have a long and sordid history of short-term revolving-door entanglements, only because it always starts out with them lying to me about what they're looking for in a relationship. They pretend they want the same kind of relationship I want, but then 90 days in, they start trying to change me.

This has happened SO many times that's it's difficult for me to believe there is actually someone out there who WOULDN'T use the same old playbook.

And I really don't want to have to deal with that crap anymore.

I guess that whole thing plays into the fact that I'm just not attracted to, or interested in, anybody anymore.

Dang son....get out of the desert.....fish can't survive in the desert....

No fear.


No pain no gain.

You can't spend your life afraid of what might happen.

Ditto. I'm finding I've gotten rather gunshy about it anymore.

It doesn't figure into it at all really!!

Ya can't keep it in your heart

ya gotta let it go and move on in order to live a happy, healthy life

maybe with someone else!!


It works

I know!!

Honestly, not much at all. Maybe right after a break up but I'm not looking to date at that time anyway. I despise being treated like "every other girl" the guy has dated before. I go into it thinking it will be a completely different experience than the last (because hopefully I've learned a lesson of some sort)

How much does fear of yet another failed relationship factor into the way you approach or avoid dating?




I want to scream.............Gunshy....Quite a lot, actually......significantly. WOW this is a dating sight, for people that WANT to date and not be alone the rest of there life.........Never mind, I am more than likely wrong.....

I want to date, and not live in the yesterday and the yucky things that...."might" happen....JMO

For me not that much because my mind is not set on finding the one to spend the rest of my life with, if I find someone and it seems to be going great, then that's awesome.

A little bit ...

I don't wallow in that idea but I can't help that it lingers in my mind (a little bit).

I don't think fear is the word for me I think I am wiser and a bit more cautious. I know I am a heck of a lot pickier. I am way more direct and open than I have ever been in my life.

(((Mitch)))

'Fear of failure' doesn't factor in ...

Inability to risk getting REALLY hurt, even devastatingly heart broken, does cause a great degree of apprehension this late in the game ...

I seek one last love, finally over my gypsy rambling, moving on style ...

Not at all fussed how many years it takes for him to show up, I'm confident it is in the cards ...

I just enjoy my company SO much, esp. as opposed to setting myself up the heavy price of grieving any major loss ...

No interest in sustaining any major blows (life's already kikked my arse) ...

Plus, having a still young child that I'm unwilling to involve in my romance - that could take a couple of years before I would be sure/able to even attempt that gamble ...

Her head on my chopping block is NOT an option!

So - At this juncture, I would seek as much a perfect complement to my lifestyle in a partner as attraction/compatibility ...

That is, one who I could blend into my life, w/out incorporating him into my daughter's life ...

... Serious, devoted and monogamous, while still light hearted, casual and allowing great space and time away from one another ...

So, not failure - as much as the risk of mistaken identity ...

If/then ... Bring it ... If not? No big woop! I still don't even get what dating is, think I'm a no show ...

You already know all this about me though ...

I agree, but like Melody said. It lingers, just a bit. It's not dwelling that matters.

Fear plays a huge part in how I approach just living my life which I guess includes approaching/avoiding dating. But I am working on it. I am trying to overcome playing it safe and learning to live wide open. I think I'm more afraid I will make another bad decision which holds me back.

Significantly....in the fact that 1-4 years down the road I do not want my child to get close to anyone and that end and hurt his feelings....I amy wait another few years do not know....I amy change my mind if I find someone I feel is worth taking a chance on.....right now significantly......I love my children more than life.....some men hate that.....and jealousy over my time is frustrating.....babies

Don't even think about it too many worry about what they don't even know will happen... If and when it does end then be happy for what you did have and the time you spent with them that was good and move on.

Not at all. I just be myself, if its not meant to be, then so be it.
I think changing yourself or holding back, being to careful, can actually hurt things more than help them.