Topic: Why I, on the whole, hate people
NorthernCalifGirl's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:11 PM


The truth is ugly...but it can be so liberating, and beautiful.....:smile:
I guess I should just live for today, but I like to plan for tomorrow, habit I guess. at least I'm free and happy


That's what I intedn to do Live it. Own it.

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Fri 10/22/10 11:12 PM
may i ask where in nor cal you're from.

DTHRomeo's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:12 PM


You're not the first one , you won't be the last one


You are funny.laugh


Thank ya!

NorthernCalifGirl's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:14 PM
laugh

may i ask where in nor cal you're from.


North Valley, baby. Way up North.....

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Fri 10/22/10 11:15 PM
north valley.
whaaa.

NorthernCalifGirl's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:18 PM

north valley.
whaaa.



Where are you from? You don't know where the Norht Valley is? California is a big state, darlin'...heh heh...:smile:

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Fri 10/22/10 11:18 PM
i'm from crappy northern california.

NorthernCalifGirl's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:20 PM

i'm from crappy northern california.



Redding!

DTHRomeo's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:20 PM
I miss Cali :cry:

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NorthernCalifGirl's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:22 PM

I miss Cali :cry:

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The West Coast is The Best Coast! I've lived in NY, MD, VA. I always come back home...

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Fri 10/22/10 11:25 PM
ah.
redding.
been there.
i'm from some crappy place near chico.
thank goodness i'm not there anymore.
however,
if i had to choose between nor cal and east coast,
i'd go nor cal anyyy day.
east coast sucksss.

tripledigits69's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:29 PM
I've been up and down the west coast, I like the mountains the most

IndnPrncs's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:32 PM

I miss Cali :cry:

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I got out of NJ alive and made it back to sunny southern cali :wink:

NorthernCalifGirl's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:43 PM

I've been up and down the west coast, I like the mountains the most


Speaking of Mountains...I went on a date with a guy I met on this site...we went up to Shasta Caverns for a hike...and a picnic...and OMG! Thke park Rangers locked the gates! We had to call 911, State Troopers..Cops...it was our first and last date...

The mountains out here in Redding are unbelievably beautiful...

AndyBgood's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:43 PM
Edited by AndyBgood on Fri 10/22/10 11:44 PM
I lived in Redding for five years. I wound up moving back to Los Angeles! I missed the beach WAY too much! I gotta have my beach!

Lake Shasta is pretty nice though!

NorthernCalifGirl's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:44 PM


I miss Cali :cry:

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I got out of NJ alive and made it back to sunny southern cali :wink:


It's where the action is.....or at least some of it!!!!!!

NorthernCalifGirl's photo
Fri 10/22/10 11:47 PM

I lived in Redding for five years. I wound up moving back to Los Angeles! I missed the beach WAY too much! I gotta have my beach!

Lake Shasta is pretty nice though!


True! That's the 1 draw back. I love the beaches too. Lived in SF for 3 years, and went to the beach nearly everyday. The good news is that I'm about 3 hours South of the beach...and then there is the beautiful Oregon Coastline....

DTHRomeo's photo
Sat 10/23/10 12:23 AM


I miss Cali :cry:

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I got out of NJ alive and made it back to sunny southern cali :wink:


I'm planning my escape Mujer Hermosa :wink:

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Sat 10/23/10 12:29 AM


I fired a woman tonight. She's in her 40's, has a 17 yr. old daughter, which she is raising on her own.

With out going into all the details, shortly after I hired her 6 months ago, her life went to hell. I risked my life AND loaned her over 2 grand to help her out. Because that's what you do when you see someone in need that you can help.

Tonight, I got proof that she was stealing from me. Selling merchandise under the counter. I don't know how much, yet. At least $800 so far. I won't know the full extent of her treachery until I do a full inventory. Which will cost me even more money.

I'm not helping people any more.
Instead, I think I'll just drink alot. It hurts less and never really disappoints.

Fnord.
(and I'm damn glad I have a backspace button. typing drunk is hard)


While I'm totally empathetic to your personal and financial losses.....I think you need to step back and ask yourself.....

What did I hope to gain by helping her?
Was this friendship driven...or was it merely "fiendship"?
Nobody...with all due respect "helps" anyone unless they feel some greater reward in doing so.....
What was yours?

No need to throw the baby out with the bath water. This will pass. I have been "burned" for much more. Because....in the end, it's not where you start...it's where you end. and nobody gets out of this place ALIVE.
W



She was not a friend. She was an employee. I barely knew her. I helped her because she needed help. That's what I used to do--help people when the opportunity presented itself.
Never again.

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Sat 10/23/10 12:33 AM

I have a very tough time hiring people to help me. Likewise I am even more leery of friends working for me. It is tough having to do everything alone because of trust issues.!


2 really fast ways to kill a friendship:
Hire them.
Lend them money.