Topic: Why I, on the whole, hate people
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Sun 10/24/10 10:14 AM



Whether you believe in Karma or Not A, doesnt really matter...Im sorry to hear your going through hard times. I dont believe in your heart you are a bad person who "hates people" is all. Angry, worried, sure...but hateful? no never. I simply dont believe that flowerforyou


Thanks. Seriously, thanks. I needed that.


I just think if you are a true hater...you wouldnt have reached out a hand in the first place. We all get knocked down, but its what we do when we get back up that counts. Letting this rotten incident change who you essentially are, isnt gonna work for you anyway. Soooo to thine own self be true. Im also sending you a huge cyberhug right now flowerforyou


thanks.happy

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Sun 10/24/10 10:14 AM


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Sun 10/24/10 10:21 AM


I fired a woman tonight. She's in her 40's, has a 17 yr. old daughter, which she is raising on her own.

With out going into all the details, shortly after I hired her 6 months ago, her life went to hell. I risked my life AND loaned her over 2 grand to help her out. Because that's what you do when you see someone in need that you can help.

Tonight, I got proof that she was stealing from me. Selling merchandise under the counter. I don't know how much, yet. At least $800 so far. I won't know the full extent of her treachery until I do a full inventory. Which will cost me even more money.

I'm not helping people any more.
Instead, I think I'll just drink alot. It hurts less and never really disappoints.

Fnord.
(and I'm damn glad I have a backspace button. typing drunk is hard)


no honestly, that is not what you do. It sounds like an inapproriate employer/employee transaction that she could even potentially use against you in the firing. To refer her to the proper agencies/authorities would be more appropriate from wihtin the workplace setting - jmho


WTF???
What agencies/authorities would be appropriate??? If you're thinking the police, forget it. They don't even bother with coming out for theft or robbery unless a gun is involved any more.
And how the hell could being fired for theft be used against me???
She won't even get unemployment.

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Sun 10/24/10 06:04 PM
Why I, on the whole, hate people

where do i start the list is endless

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Sun 10/24/10 06:06 PM

Why I, on the whole, hate people

where do i start the list is endless




O Poo! ya do not whoa

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Sun 10/24/10 06:07 PM
i love people.............

we are all soo.......different............
m:heart: akes the world such a great place to be!!!

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Mon 10/25/10 06:27 AM

i love people.............

we are all soo.......different............
m:heart: akes the world such a great place to be!!!


What drugs are you on?
And where can I get some?

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Mon 10/25/10 10:52 AM


This is why financial books are important, I still know everyone that owes me money...and when the time comes I will find them, and when I do...well, hell has this funny way of becoming too hot.smokin


I dunno...that doesn't sound all that mentally healthy..


Possibly...but I think it is far better than stressing out about one person ripping me off and taking it out on everyone else.

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Mon 10/25/10 10:53 AM


i love people.............

we are all soo.......different............
m:heart: akes the world such a great place to be!!!


What drugs are you on?
And where can I get some?



Honey when i am on drugs...................


i love em even more!!!!!bigsmile :heart:

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Tue 10/26/10 05:00 AM
Small Update:

She saw another employee of mine driving and flipped him off.
Like it was his fault she was fired for stealing.
She obviously feels no shame.
How does someone like that get that way?

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Tue 10/26/10 07:04 AM

Small Update:

She saw another employee of mine driving and flipped him off.
Like it was his fault she was fired for stealing.
She obviously feels no shame.
How does someone like that get that way?


There are narcissist in the world. Don't let a minority ruin your view of life.

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Tue 10/26/10 08:31 AM
you are lucky she didn't get a lawyer and try to say that you lent her the money expecting a "favor" and when she didn't cooperate you fired her. be glad she is only resorting to shooting a goosey.

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Wed 10/27/10 04:49 AM

you are lucky she didn't get a lawyer and try to say that you lent her the money expecting a "favor" and when she didn't cooperate you fired her. be glad she is only resorting to shooting a goosey.


She'd have a hard time selling that to a jury considering any spare time I have I spend w/ my g/f.
Not to mention, I can prove theft was occuring.
And the money I lent her in the first place, she was paying back out of her payhcheck at $50/wk. She got that debt down to about $1200.

Shooting a goosey? Never heard that particular term before.

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Wed 10/27/10 07:18 AM
good to hear you got your bases covered. people go to court for some pretty lame stuff, and there are plenty of lawyers out there willing to take on those cases. flipping the bird, shooting a goosey, i guess that must be one of those "in these hear parts" way of saying things. once this blows over you can go back to your old self, only a little bit wiser. you can still help people, it's in your heart.

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Thu 10/28/10 03:12 AM
Totally agree.

Welcome to life my dear. Everyone in some way or form has experienced the negative you had to some or the same extent, in one form or another. So...what did you get out of the experience, hopefully not permanent damage that will eventually make you more and more bitter and cynical in life? PLEASE. We certainly don't need any more of that anywhere.
You got alot of great replies on here, and one thing I noticed in a few of your replies to these people was cyinicism, maybe a little unwarranted harshness and a attitude of who asked you?
Mind you, am in a peaceful, objective state myself at this time. Perhaps...you are already receiving a little karma by this persons deed? You say you helped her, there has to be more. Were you expecting a little more out of her work,
were expecting something..only you know IF you examine your behavior. What we are thinking/feeling does indeed come out in our lanquage, body, facial and vocal (slips or not) even if we think it's been hidden.
Look at life as some sort of test. To give in to disgust, hatred, bitterness over a few hundred dollars is failure. To get the message behind it, (for it is a lesson) and avoid changing your persona into something more angry, justified, righteous, etc is the ultimate win.
You certainly don't think life is just simplicity and you float through it without incident?
Acceptance is the key. People are going to do the unexpected and you may just get run over by that runaway truck once in awhile. Accept that you cannot change others- expect some turbulance at times and in the end work on forgiving her, it's just not all that bad considering what ALOT of people are going through and losing these days. BTW, 1 1/2 wks ago had my 1200$ lap stolen from work from a room that is supposed to stay locked and only certain people should be allowed in there. The week before I gave a man who had been laid off a hundred dollars to get me something for my truck that it needed. He never came back with the money. I set them both up to happen unintenionally, so. Does this make me angry? No. Empathy that these are hard times and desperate times bring out desperate measures. And the reality that they must need it much more than I at that time to take those things..
Do some spiritual reading from some of our great teachers who have come, to get your head twisted right again.
Good Luck.

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Thu 10/28/10 04:50 AM

Why I, on the whole, hate people

where do i start the list is endless



you are "people"....huh

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Thu 10/28/10 09:18 PM
WEEEEEEEEEE...the people

off topic....

but I just like the way that sounds
:tongue:

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Thu 10/28/10 10:45 PM

What did I hope to gain by helping her?
Was this friendship driven...or was it merely "fiendship"?
Nobody...with all due respect "helps" anyone unless they feel some greater reward in doing so.....
What was yours?


Um...what? In a sense you are right about the 'feel some greater reward', but I think your first question is totally off base and presumptive. What did he hope to gain implies he's seeking after a future, possible payoff of some kind. We don't need to hope to gain, we can immediately gain by being true to ourselves, doing what feels right to us. It may be cliche, but for some of us: when people are being honest with us, the act of giving is its own reward. If they are lying to us, that can easily undermine that immediate and authentic satisfaction - because we weren't honestly giving to an honest person, we were being manipulated and scammed.


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Thu 10/28/10 10:46 PM


Nobody...with all due respect "helps" anyone unless they feel some greater reward in doing so.....


Thanks, your mentality just made me lose a little more hope for humanity.

Good job. indifferent

laugh

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Thu 10/28/10 10:48 PM

No man is an island and your fooling yourself if you think your the first ohwell


Except for John. John is an island.