Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past.

what do you think this means??

Forgiveness to me means, forgiving that other person, when you forgive them, they don't have no power over you, this is a lesson I admit that I am still learning.

Forgiveness means to me is to get lost and leave me alone!

Forgiveness is something one must learn to do in order to move on and leave the past behind them in order to move into the future.. Just because one learns to forgive someone does not mean they have forgot it. It just means they have worked through the issues and have found peace within...

One must learn to forgive those that hurt them or did them wrong in order for those issues to be put aside and not affect what may be ahead of them in the future......

but what does that whole sentence mean ??

To me that sentence is messed up just because you forgive someone it does not mean you give up hope and you can not change the past anyway.

mano it means that u cannot change the past
but you can change the future
you can choose not to forgive and keep hold of anger and hatred
and let it eat ur innards up

or u can forgive and feel the weight of the world
lift off of your shoulder
like putting down the heavy load
and walking on air

I can't help wondering if you ever really truly forgive.
You might "Get over" it and move on .But as long you can remember the incident have you really forgiven?

thank you ladies, and I have to kind of agree with Betty..

I think it is backwards, forgiveness means making the past better.

Forgiving and forgetting are two very different things but I believe it is possible to forgive.

I don't .I think as long as you can remeber it and are thinking about ,you have not really forgiven.
In the perfect world maybe...in reality no.

Does one ever really forget?

then that is your cross to bear

any significant event will be remembered - if u can never forgive than you will live a bitter life indeed

quite honestly in my quest for a new love this is one thing that makes younger guys attractive is that the bitterness hasn't set in

the same is probably true of women who are older as well (so I'm not picking on you man0) - so I make an extra effort to not let the bitterness of unforgiven deeds age me -just another side benefit of forgiveness

and I don't forgive everything, and just because I forgive you doesn't mean we're going to be friends either

I do it for my own well being mostly

you're posed to forgive, no necessarily forget//

I have a real hard time forgiving some things. I can't just tell myself to forgive someone and then it's done, it's much harder than that for me..

Jerry I think you are just being really honest.

It is not as if we have control (usually) over our ability to forget, we can choose to forgive. Deeds done to us that require forgiveness usually involve pain. Sometimes we forgive and keep the relationship, be it a friendship or a lover, sometimes we forgive but leave the relationship anyway. Which on the surface sounds like forgiveness didn't happen but every situation is different. When a guy I was dating cheated on me I left because that is behavior I have chosen not to deal with but over time and understanding his motivation, I forgave him and we connected again as friends. Just one example...

one of my many faults

than you can never forgive

Forgiveness wasn't in the job despcription.

I think that is Jesus's racket.

I can forgive a kid who just don't know any better...(though I will let em know that I will give em the whippin that thier parents havent)...they get the point.

I can forgive a drunk fat friend who I walked in on taking a crap in his own boot while crashing on my couch after a hard days night....

The other things....I have no forgiveness....had a box but, ran out a few years ago.

I deal with adults and I expect adults to know what the hell they are doing.....

If I am done dirty....
When I am done wrong...

I am dealing with an adult
I treat them as an adult who has made the mistake of knowingly doing me wrong.....I have no more use for forgiveness....I don't forget...cause to forget, is to repeat the mistakes of your past.