Poor mom. My grandmother is 99 and downsizing to an efficiency since she's been sick a lot lately. My aunt just called to see if mom wanted some of her old lamps. Mom didn't but asked if they would ship her back an old book on the Isle of Man that we had gotten for Grandma for Christmas one year. Mom had even put a note in the book so there wouldn't be any dispute. The aunt told her that they had pitched all the books, because they were old. And then told her that they didn't know mom sent anything to grandmother over the years anyways.

Mom's hurt an upset. I really don't blame her. It's yet one more thing over the years that the uncles have hurt her for.

Is anyone else's family messed up like that?

Is your Grand ma Hawt?

(it is a fair question) I love grandma's.

Mine is. After our mother died, my sister mentioned nonchalantly that she thought her collection of old newspaper clippings she kept in scrapbooks, pasted and labelled, about the actresses of her youth, is a bit passee and how she wanted to get rid of it. So when she left for school for two years, I threw out her scrapbooks, meaning to do a good thing. She came home, looked for the scrapbooks, and I told her I threw them out for her. She went very sad. I never had suspected she did not want to throw them out.

So after I escaped to Canada from the old Communist country, I kept sending her big posters of Audrey Hepbourne, her favourite ever actress.

My sister forgave me, but I did not.

Don't know a family that is not. When my grandmother went to the nursing home my aunt had a big garage sale seems me and my brother was not told. They ended up selling most of the stuff that was in her Will to give to others. She did not have anything of value just a bunch of memories that should have been given out....

I found out about the sale after the fact went over and some things that were left I got found a trunk that she bought at walmart it is like 30 years old now I grabbed it said this was suppose to be mine and drug it out of the house along with some costume jewelry she had.

Sad part is they did not make much off the sale why not give it to the ones she wanted it to go to... My aunt had no idea that I had a copy of the Will and knew what was suppose to go to each person. Heck she even cleaned out what little was in her checking account..

But what was ironic is my grandmother before she went in the hospital called me over and gave me several things she wanted me to have. Even she knew what they most likely would do...

Krupa!! You ARE my soulmate.

I used to go to Socrates' Cafe in my local library. There was this old woman in a really realistic wig, she looked dynamite. There was some electricity between us. At the last meeting there was some touching, too, innocently, me on her shoulder, and she, on my leg. We held each other's hands, too, and her skin was nice and soft, cool, too, which I like. I asked her for her number, she gave it to me.

During that meeting she said she was over ninety years of age. I liked her even more. Now she'd got elevated to "trophy" status.

On the date she was off-handish, tired-looking, not interested any more.

Now I find she has started a really bad gossip about me.

I am distraught, and really sad and angry at the same time.

I at least had learned, independently of this lady, that older women can be incapacitated for sex in a large number of ways. Some of the ways are their vulnerable vanity. So since about two years ago I have been taking rejections by dates over 70 years of age more patiently. I don't get angry. But this beeech, nanogerian as she is, started that bad gossip, and she ought not to have. I am angry.

So, bro, beware of the grannies, coz their tongues can still lash like a viper's.

I understand. My grandad has been amputated, both his arms and legs, due to having diabetes and being in a Sceptacemia coma in intensive care. My gran is always whining about how she has to do everything for him. Well sorry but how would she feel if she had no arms and no legs? She should be grateful he's still alive, cos he had 50% chance of dying while in that coma. She is so ungrateful.

Families!!
Just involve money or belongings
and evil comes out in people.

IM sure and even WORSE, cause I dont have enough details to see what was so awful in this scenario,,,,,,unless there is an ASSUMPTION that this was done to INTENTIONALLY hurt your mom,,,,

which is a different thing altogether,, I usually presume that my family has made mistakes and it usually doesnt cross my mind that they are to intentionally hurt anyone,,,

After my father died, my mother moved out of the "family house." We were all there but one. ( including my new boyfriend and 2 of his boys) We moved out 30+ years of stuff out of that house. If my oldest sister didn't want it, or my brother didn't either..it was thrown away. Never mind that there was another sister living there as well, and they thew away a lot of her stuff also. Because THEY didn't want it or it wasn't mom's. That house sold and I feel that the oldest daughter got a piece of the money after the sale went through. Now the oldest is going after mom's new house. The words that were spoken is--"after mom dies, this house is getting sold and you are out on the street. I want MY share. Never mind if it wasn't for the sister that is living with mom and helping her with bills and such, mom would not have that house in the first place.

Beginning to believe it, actually. Grandma apparently had a filing cabinet and had a bunch of stuff in it with mom's name on it.

It is typical of the family to gang up on her, and it's been going on for years. Its why my brother and I have never had much to do with them to begin with.

It's rather depressing to realize that for all the goody, goody stuff about families, it really isn't that way.

And yes, Krupa and Wux, Grandma still looks amazingly really good for 99.

all families are messed up like that.

so it is best just to create memories rather than mementos

In my opinion the meaning of existing, the meaning of life is love and experiences/memories...I believe that defines who you are