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ok....if you are living in someone's house (or visiting) wouldn't you try to do whatever you can to not be a burden on your hosts??
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Of course. Anything less would be ill-mannered.
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Yes I would but I've plenty of family and friends live with me so I feel for ya hun! I had one cousin that I wanted to choke the crap outta before I just told him to get the heck out
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Let me explain the situation (hold on to your hats lol)
I live with my sister and her family because she is disabled. I do the dishes (dishwasher is broken), any laundry and cooking my sister needs, and any thing else they need, as well as pay for things when I can. They refuse to let me pay any rent. We have a total of 6 people living here (the youngest is my nephew who will be 18 in a few months). My niece and her "husband" (  ) live here. They don't pay or contribute at all....EVER. They are responsible for cleaning up the living room (which they are the only ones that use it because the rest of us hide out in our rooms because of the husband) and they are supposed to clean the yard because they throw trash and cigarette butts everywhere. My niece is a full time college student but the husband (when he isn't being picked up for traffic warrants) doesn't work. I end up doing the cleaning because they won't do it and I won't let my sister's house get trashed like that. The problem is....my sister's disease can put her into "attacks" when she is worked up or upset. My niece and her hubby know this, so they use that to basically threaten to leave and not come back. Well that sounds good to me, but my sister doesn't want to lose her daughter and will get sick. But you would think they would at least pick up after themselves....right??? |
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You would think so, but sometimes its the people the closest to us who are the worst.
they will take advantage, and really as much as it would be nice if they helped, it wil be easier for you if you just happily do it, as they are never going to change, they can't be bothered. so to save you stress and your sister, just look at them as puppy dogs that leave a mess and never clean up. because even if they do do something, it wont last. Sorry, but as much as I love fairytales, if they know they are not going to have to leave, then they will never change as they dont have areason to 
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yeah but with puppies...you can smack them on the nose or rub their faces in it
 
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yeah but with puppies...you can smack them on the nose or rub their faces in it I like the rubbing their noses in it, Maybe if your sister has to go somewhere you could try it 
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lol she only leaves the house these days for doctor's appointments.
I just don't understand the mentality (in this case or others) that the world OWES you and you don't have to do anything for it. It's insane...and not in a good way |
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You can't control the actions of others.
Your action of caring for your sister will be rewarded. I am so grateful to know you, Kim. 
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You can't control the actions of others. Your action of caring for your sister will be rewarded. I am so grateful to know you, Kim. I don't do anything that she wouldn't do. That's how we were raised. That is why I don't understand how anyone can sleep at night that (not only) does nothing to contribute but causes drama....and they think it's justified. I don't get that mentality. Are they lazy??? Are they delusional in thinking the world owes them??? what is it???? |
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You can't control the actions of others. Your action of caring for your sister will be rewarded. I am so grateful to know you, Kim. I don't do anything that she wouldn't do. That's how we were raised. That is why I don't understand how anyone can sleep at night that (not only) does nothing to contribute but causes drama....and they think it's justified. I don't get that mentality. Are they lazy??? Are they delusional in thinking the world owes them??? what is it???? I don't know what can motivate them to be so dishonorable to a wife and mother. |
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ok....if you are living in someone's house (or visiting) wouldn't you try to do whatever you can to not be a burden on your hosts?? I'm so uncomfortanle in others homes, I feel like a pest. |
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I try to pee on thier rose bushes..cause I am environmentally friendly.
I try to take Mexican splatter sch*tz in thier toilet with no toilet paper and dont flush. I sneak pancake batter out of thier kitchens and leave the sheets crusted together just to mess with thier heads. I am the kind of house guest that makes you happy you don't got roomies. |
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You can't control the actions of others. Your action of caring for your sister will be rewarded. I am so grateful to know you, Kim. I don't do anything that she wouldn't do. That's how we were raised. That is why I don't understand how anyone can sleep at night that (not only) does nothing to contribute but causes drama....and they think it's justified. I don't get that mentality. Are they lazy??? Are they delusional in thinking the world owes them??? what is it???? I think it is just a lack of respect, some how people lose respect for themselves and others, I see it a lot in peoples children, where although the parents have respect the children have none for their parents or anyone else, sometimes it is because the parents make excuses for them and fix the childs mistakes, sometimes just because they dont ever have consequences for the children when they are young and they turnn into selfish disrespectful young adults. There are so many reasons for it happening, But it is becoming more and more common. |
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I think I see it more often too. it's sad really. Common sense and common courtesy aren't common any more.
and Krupa.....eeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww |
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Sexi....I know.
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Edited by
TheShadow
on
Mon 04/11/11 07:15 PM
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Let me explain the situation (hold on to your hats lol) I live with my sister and her family because she is disabled. I do the dishes (dishwasher is broken), any laundry and cooking my sister needs, and any thing else they need, as well as pay for things when I can. They refuse to let me pay any rent. We have a total of 6 people living here (the youngest is my nephew who will be 18 in a few months). My niece and her "husband" ( ) live here. They don't pay or contribute at all....EVER. They are responsible for cleaning up the living room (which they are the only ones that use it because the rest of us hide out in our rooms because of the husband) and they are supposed to clean the yard because they throw trash and cigarette butts everywhere. My niece is a full time college student but the husband (when he isn't being picked up for traffic warrants) doesn't work. I end up doing the cleaning because they won't do it and I won't let my sister's house get trashed like that. The problem is....my sister's disease can put her into "attacks" when she is worked up or upset. My niece and her hubby know this, so they use that to basically threaten to leave and not come back. Well that sounds good to me, but my sister doesn't want to lose her daughter and will get sick. But you would think they would at least pick up after themselves....right??? I would take the so call daughters hub and beat then hell out of him till he got his act together. Id take him for a long trip  Had to add, by doing this it would take care of the problem with the daughter and maybe open her eyes a little. |
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Krupa....if they ever get their own place....I will give you the address so you can visit
Shadow....trust me...I have fun thinking of the creative ways to handle people like that
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I know
 , but it would sure be nice to act on some of it
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Usually people like that will want to leave for any variety of reasons, given a little time. Be patient. You are a good soul.
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