They do? Not the ones I hear about here (as in where I live.. I've heard lots of stories)... they pounce on the young ones pretty quickly.. .

nothing I've ever done - or observed either -as far as I can tell anyway- we usually get them mailing us- mostly for sex - There's been one or two who were just normal and decent guys

but we also joke about it a lot in the threads - I can't speak for anyone else but that's how it seems to me

and I meant to say lay AND wait

I wasn't talking about just emails. I meant in real life.

I have known assertive women of all ages. They can come on too strong and seem just as creepy as men can. Remember Mrs. Robertson?

Oh, OK

IRL I have not dated a younger man in 2 years

or anyone else either -

I usually do date younger when I do date because they ask and they refrain from suggesting a hotel along the highway as a place to meet <( why I have turned down a few recent offer from men my age - prolly married)

For reasons like the above I soemtimes have trouble getting along w/ men closer to my age

So you just go for younger men on here and not in real life?

Yeah, I was talking about in real life. There's a local bar that is known for it's cougars on the weekend. I went in there once, as it was on our way somewhere else and it was full of older women. Some younger guys as well. Some old guys, too. Not my kinda place, but it was... interesting to see.

I don't think it has anything to do with age. It has to do with intentions. As we can't read other people's minds, we can only assess intentions on what we perceive from the writings.

If someone is coming across as genuinely offensively perverted, that's not difficult to distinguish.

The rest of the time, it's strictly an arbitrary conclusion made by the target of the attention. If they choose to take offense at what might be a real declaration of interest, solely because they think the person is too old, etc., then it's less about perversion than it is about the pursued individual's preferences. Odds are they're not going to get involved with anyone that age even if the person is a superb (and respectful) conversationalist.

I know I personally have rarely found anyone's e-mails to me to be what I would call "perverted." Misguided, yes; perverted, no. But it's apparently different for women.

no if you read what I said I do not. They generally mail me and I've seen that comment from other women 40+

but I usually don't object unless they act gross - but usually they are fine

it's the ones my age and older who make inappropriate comments (hotel meetings s a first meet )

When I date IRL it is usually younger because they ask

but as far as "go for" I do not have a strong preference but a slight preference for somewhat younger men, yes.

I joke on here about the cougar thing

but in reality think it's stupid and do not make it a part of myself IRL - hope that clears things up

it was Robinson

and I don't see him running out of the room

Either did she.

NO it's their attitude and intent that defines whether they are just a creepy pervert or naughty, yet datable material! I have had men of various ages that just wanna hook up for NSA stuff & those I consider the perverts. They usually have no pic & little info on their profile = creepy! On the other hand, I have met a man with which I have no issues discussing details about how naughty we could be together if there were not a gabillion miles between us. Is he perverted...Yes, but no more than I am with him! Does he creep me out....HELL NO

yes texas - your point is well taken - the whole subject is gender neutral and a matter of personal preference

I do think women have more mature attitudes about intimate subjects as they age and are more accepting of sexuality as being normal rather than "naughty" or perverted

not so sure if that is true for men - seems to go in reverse

Funny, I have found it to be exactly the opposite. Mature women are usually the first to complain and call a man a pervert, while younger women are far more open to sex of all kinds.

Maybe the mature ones are more concerned about their reputations and standing in the community. They feel a need to oppress their sexuality. In public anyway.

Or maybe it's just sour grapes when they assume I am paying my girlfriend. It pisses them off that a woman so young is swimming in their dating pool.

well I could not disagree with you more having been a young girl myself once I think I know what the norm is

enjoy patting yourself on the back

but if I were her , I 'd be asking right now whether I was a human being to you or a trophy

I was a trophy wife for 17yrs

never again

its kind of hard to compare what young girls would say or do,they are individuals so what one thinks doesn't mean the other thinks the same.a majority may think it but its not all of them.

Trophy? Well, I am proud of her and our son. But, I'm also proud of my other son too. And I do enjoy being seen with her. But, she enjoys being seen with me and is proud also.

Maybe I'm her trophy.

I second that motion...

Did you type all that with your pinky fingers raised???

Now THAT would just be perverse!

I don't really have an aversion to perversion.

I do have a real perversion to aversion, though.