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Topic: What IF
iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 09/09/11 07:55 PM
What if you met your date,,and found them to be someone you felt was GREAT in looks,,,,GREAT in conversations,,,,but they let you know they liked to do some drugs that were illegal and you felt them to really be into them......we're not talking pot here,,,, Would you be cool with that,,,or would you let them know you weren't into doing ANY DRUGS,,,except pot,,and that was like having a drink once in a while NOT an everyday pleasure.... So,,where would you stand with knowing their going to use their's and you know you will never use their's? Stay and walk that walk with them?,,, or say sorry,,can't handle that?,,,,

thewaterbearer Joined Sun 10/25/09 Posts: 19759	Fri 09/09/11 07:58 PM
Say I am sorry and move on, I don't want drugs around me, especially if it is illegal.

EquusDancer Joined Sun 04/05/09 Posts: 6281	Fri 09/09/11 07:59 PM
No, no and Hel no! Not drugs or even pot. Aside from how much that fricks a person up, the legalities and crap one goes through if caught and how much it affects the partner with regards to property, finances, etc would so have me walking away as fast as possible.

OliviaGrace Joined Fri 06/17/11 Posts: 74	Fri 09/09/11 08:00 PM
Personally, I would have to walk away, as my preference is not to be with someone who does those kind of drugs. Being a mother, I wouldn't want that around my children. Also being in the medical field, I know all to well, that when people are on those kind of drugs, they are not themselves. As a person who generally cares about people in general, I would ask them if they wanted or needed help getting off of them, and if the response was a yes, I would be there for them as a friend, if their response was a no, then I wouldn't waste another moment of my time or theirs.

Nyteflame Joined Sat 10/25/08 Posts: 338	Fri 09/09/11 08:00 PM
Walk away. I still might go back to teaching one day. Getting caught around somebody who was doing drugs might be enough to prevent that from ever happening.

xoangelfacexo Joined Wed 04/20/11 Posts: 168	Fri 09/09/11 08:00 PM
That would definitely be a deal breaker for me:(

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 09/09/11 08:08 PM
BUT,,,,,their HOT AS HELL,,,and seem like their really ALL ABOUT YOU? Still you would walk? I have walked,,,for THAT reason,,,and also for drinking everyday,,in a bad way,,,like slurring and losing focuss,,,always buzzed at night.. But it does SEEM,,,that MANY STAY with this type of person,,and go through much CHIIIT,,before they come to the conclusions that its not going to work out with them? And I never knew IF it was because they were really lonely,,? Or because they just felt they could pull them away from their habit?

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 09/09/11 08:10 PM
Nope, no drugs. I've been with that type before. And it's more trouble than it's worth.

xoangelfacexo Joined Wed 04/20/11 Posts: 168	Fri 09/09/11 08:14 PM
Doesn't matter how hot they were....boozing and drugging is unattractive. Period.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Fri 09/09/11 08:16 PM
I would walk. Fast. I can not save anyone from any addictions.And I would not know if they really were into me or was it their altered sense of reality from the addicions that was into me.

tudoravenger Joined Tue 09/06/11 Posts: 370	Fri 09/09/11 08:41 PM
Here is my cent worth. If I had feelings for this person, I would stick around and try and wean them off this dangerous habit. Of course, I would not touch the stuff. Anyone who does is playing with unrelenting fire. Kind regards, Tudoravenger.

Nyteflame Joined Sat 10/25/08 Posts: 338	Fri 09/09/11 08:49 PM
But it does SEEM,,,that MANY STAY with this type of person,,and go through much CHIIIT,,before they come to the conclusions that its not going to work out with them? And I never knew IF it was because they were really lonely,,? Or because they just felt they could pull them away from their habit? A lot of people think that they can change the other person. Some of them feel like cowards when they walk away, because they don't think they tried hard enough. Others are lonely, or frightened, or more scared of being single (or re-joining the dating world) then they are of whatever the other person is doing to them.

soldierforamerica Joined Wed 10/24/07 Posts: 3813	Fri 09/09/11 09:15 PM
i understand there can be good money in selling illegal drugs

ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Fri 09/09/11 10:06 PM
What if you met your date,,and found them to be someone you felt was GREAT in looks,,,,GREAT in conversations,,,,but they let you know they liked to do some drugs that were illegal and you felt them to really be into them......we're not talking pot here,,,, Would you be cool with that,,,or would you let them know you weren't into doing ANY DRUGS,,,except pot,,and that was like having a drink once in a while NOT an everyday pleasure.... So,,where would you stand with knowing their going to use their's and you know you will never use their's? Stay and walk that walk with them?,,, or say sorry,,can't handle that?,,,, He'd see smoke at the back of my azz, that's how fast I'd be out of there. I don't do drugs, not even weed.

ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Fri 09/09/11 10:12 PM
i understand there can be good money in selling illegal drugs Yea, but don't make the mistake of thinking you can't get caught. I know a person who was living real good, got caught and spent 25 behind bars. Missed her kids growing up and everything. She got out last year I think, uhmm, I wonder if she has a legit job now?

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sat 09/10/11 10:38 AM
Here is my cent worth. If I had feelings for this person, I would stick around and try and wean them off this dangerous habit. Of course, I would not touch the stuff. Anyone who does is playing with unrelenting fire. Kind regards, Tudoravenger. Well,,trust me here Tudor,,i've walked that walk,,,and no one can save someone else,,,,for THAT only arrives when THEIR ALONE,,and at their BOTTOM to feel and live,,and then,,turn inside themselves,,,to really see and KNOW..

soldierforamerica Joined Wed 10/24/07 Posts: 3813	Sat 09/10/11 10:40 AM
my thought is anyone who wants to do that is too stupid to be with

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Sat 09/10/11 10:45 AM
BUT,,,,,their HOT AS HELL,,,and seem like their really ALL ABOUT YOU? Still you would walk? I have walked,,,for THAT reason,,,and also for drinking everyday,,in a bad way,,,like slurring and losing focuss,,,always buzzed at night.. But it does SEEM,,,that MANY STAY with this type of person,,and go through much CHIIIT,,before they come to the conclusions that its not going to work out with them? And I never knew IF it was because they were really lonely,,? Or because they just felt they could pull them away from their habit? Even if they are hot as hell....if they are not doing pot, i am sure they are in too deep with something that will only lead them into stealing from you, using you, and breaking your heart time and time again. Users are selfish and care about one person, Them. How they get their drugs, and how can they get more drugs. . . RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!! Its not worth IT!

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Sat 09/10/11 10:49 AM
I have never dealt with having to date a drug addict. I have family members though, and have had friends who were the nicest people on earth but their addiction was terrible. I knew one girl, she was pretty and had a huge heart. But she was an addict. I often found myself taking care of her child for days at a time. If she wasnt in jail, she was either scoring drugs, or coming down and trying to commit suicide from feeling too guilty. It was a roller coaster. She really had an endearing heart and it saddened me to have to walk away from our friendship. I thought i could help her but i couldnt.

SilentlyScreaming Joined Mon 09/10/07 Posts: 10681	Sat 09/10/11 05:01 PM
I would leave... i've seen waht drugs can do to people i care about... and its more than i can take! I'll have the occasional drink, but i've never touched a drug in my life, not even pot... I would wish them the best, and tell them they can call me when they're a couple years sober!