Dudes and Dudettes Guys and Girls Ladies and Gentlemen...I have here a really sensitive topic more so a question to ask that requires you to be totaly honest with yourself.Have you ever judged someone by their looks and appearances?I have done it plenty of times not ashamed bout itl

I guess I consider myself to be somewhat shallow in this regard. Although I wouldn't say I "judge" people (i.e., are they good people or bad people or what?) by their looks -- but it does factor into my assessment of compatibility.

They may be perfectly wonderful people, but if there's no physical attraction, I'm not going to pursue the relationship angle.

I also use other criteria to weed people out, and I've been called shallow and superficial because of that. And I'm fine with it. If having preferences and knowing what I want (and don't want) makes me shallow, then so be it!

everyone judges.
if you say you don't,
you're a liar.
judging isn't a bad thing.
making certain assumptions based off those judgements can be bad though.

you are both right but this happens in most cases with women why are skinny women so indifferent to heavier women and vice versa

yes I do judge appearances but I don't think I'm shallow- I'm just really into things like clothes & hair - and I'll do stuff like see someone and think OMG they should never wear that style on their build or that jacket looks cute or w/e

but that would have nothing to do with how I feel about them - I'd rather spend the day with someone wearing the totally WRONG brand of jean for their build, than mr perfectly dressed if he's a butthead...

We all judge by appearance at first....
it's all we have to go by.

Although people say it is bad to judge, it is actually completely natural and is what has made humans survival in the strongest form as evolutionally we tend to select a partner on the similar physical ratings that we rate ourselves at, but always try to go for the highest level possible as, in order for the human race to survive, the number one thing is reproduction. People will subconsciously try to pick the best person they can in order to reproduce successfully but will also settle for lower standards in order to just try. It's almost like a form of eliminating the weakest, which although doesn't sound nice - is completely sub-conscious. Therefore - we all judge on appearances as they say a lot to do with reproductive factors.

I try not to judge people, but Im sure I do, not too proud about it...now, in terms of physical appearance, of course I need to find the guy attractive first. If i don't, I sure wouldn't want to talk to him no matter how great this person may turn out to be.

I think we all do in some way or another, when looking for a partner
I don't base that on looks nor judge what type of person they may be based on such. Although I would need to be attracted to a person to carry on a physical relationship.

but have u ever noticed how someone who you were not necessarily physically attracted to at first can become beautiful in your eyes once u get to know them if they are beautiful on the inside (and at least reasonably attractive) it's as tho' that inner beauty just radiates and reels u in....as time goes on

and conversely a man who is highly attractive physically will attract you but if he's an arse all the physical beauty in the world can't make up for that - if he's a jerk he will stop being beautiful in my eyes and I will literally perceive him as unattractive

weird huh?

Yep....everyday.

I hold people to my standards that I set for myself....works out ok.

I don't rate peple on beauty...I rate them on ugly.

This is what I wanted to say,but it's more articulate so I'll just give it a thumbs up!

If you dont like the wrapping of the present then the present inside isnt as good ;-O

well that's shallow

I observe initial appearances and consider them but also there are certain featues which will deter me from being physically attracted to the person such as being overweight and physically undesirable to my personal tastes but once I have been with someone and love them and they have gained weight the physical part matters very little as has happened in my last 2 partnerships where they started out skinny and then gained alot of weight. For myself I am stuck in a quandry as I need someone who is capable of considering past a superficial facade to be able to except and understand someone as unique as myself so I am up front about my more exotic side but really I am quite ."normal" & "mundane" in many ways.

yes

very Darwinian of you but like religon it has holes in the soundness of it's reasoning. I would only consider some of what you wrote as a partial explanation of some aspects which are conditional and varying. I don't go for the physical mating characteristics as they have been publicized in media etc. I think it probably has as much or more to do with being afraid of a stronger human who would hurt or kill them if their weaker female company rather than a mate with more survival savvy characteristics. In a primal world women would have submitted to whom it was opputune for the males not allowing for the liberty of females choosing their prospective mates liberally.

Unless your blind then it all looks the same.

So..if you "dont go for physical mating characteritics"....

What the hell is your criteria for getting sex?

Physical is what it is.....
there has to be an attraction.
Beyond that.....there has to be....
Substance.
Integrity, confidence, Honor.
The ability to be true to one's self....
regardless of what other think.
That allows one to be true to others.