lol think Ziva on NCIS just not as nice lol

when someone tells you they had a bad accident
and has scars you tend to understand their
insecurities, and forgive a couple fake pix
when you talk to them. so yeah distrust from
the start was there because she brought it in
to play. don't act like an idiot and you won't be
distrusted.

But when there is no reason to be trusted I guess
it is hard to project honesty.

I am not a distrustful person to a great extent,
but give me even the smallest reason to distrust
is good enough to set off my radar. Which is good
as obviously I was correct.

Oh well got coffee coming up with someone else
coming up soon so I am not to worried about this
one. and no this will not affect my relationships
with honest people. I will just be less likely
to accept any dishonesty as I did this last time
after getting 2 fake pictures and still giving her
another chance to fess up.

So like I said will not hurt my relationship with
those who are honest as you need a reason to distrust.

don't give me a reason and we will be fine, give me a
reason then there is likely something to distrust.

the way you explain it I have no arguments, rock on anonymous just leave my psn alone if future.

P.S anonymous if you need something more
updated feel free to contact me, DDoS is
sooo lame I have something much more fun
if you like.

And you won't be finding tut's for this
online ;).

Oh and now the case is closed

I talk to many girls, this is the 1st I distrusted,
you need a reason not to be trusted. If you act
honorably then there is no reason for distrust.

If she had been totally upfront I would never
have distrusted her like I don't distrust any
other girls I currently talk to.

I do not mind if I push away Dishonest people
as I don't want those types in my life anyway.

when someone send 2 pix that are not them
and admit it not being them you have, right
to distrust anything else they send you.

Insecurities or not you don't lie to
someone you want a relationship with.

Nothing can start based on lies.

And if not checked BS like this happens.

If I had not asked then what huh, I
would have opened up to this person
and would have got hurt.

So yeah I am an a$$ hey because
I did not accept her lies and caught
her in them.

all pix were fake it was one big lie, I was right so bite me.

nothing wrong with wanting to know who you're talking to,
and after this I recommend all do what I did.

Now I will be even more distrusting.

I think you're own issue here are not letting you see the real issue
in my case, but I thank you for you're opinions.

oh ad she will be here shortly :)

so me telling her everything and her telling me nothing
and wanting more is not unfair?

I am supposed to risk myself when she won't even
show me a picture? How is it blackmail?

you can't get what you want for nothing,
you can't expect someone you want a
relationship with someone they don't
know.

That like going up to a random door
in a city you never been to and telling
the person inside that you love them.

You can't have feeling for someone you
don't know. I an not a guy looking for
sex or cyber where who you are does not
matter. I am a guy who wants to open
himself up and share his life good and bad.

can't do that with a stranger and a stranger
can't expect it.

I asked her not forced her,
she could have said no.

Simply told her that could
not be as close as she wanted
with out knowing for sure.

We could remain the friends we
have been all this time but she
has deeper feelings then that
and would like to get closer.

To be close to me I must be close
to her as well and to do that I
need to know who she is.

Scars don't bother me lying does.

I can understand peoples insecurities in
certain situations, like this one but
make's me a little uneasy as emotions
are involved and mine are fragile atm.

So when guys want to know the real you, you toss them aside?

you have pictures and she thinks me special
I can not move forward emotionally if I do not
know wit whom I am moving forward with.

I have been completely open and offered
her the same respect if she has any concerns.

I do feel a little mean if she is being
being truthful this time round but did not
think ti a defreinding offense. especially. if
considered special

She will likely read this as i am trying to
encourage her to join mingle, as I she like
many of us would benefit from the social interaction.

I told her how I feel and she is very accommodating,
which makes me feel like more of a meanie. very very
slow is a good speed.

I was always a distrusting person,
as i feel trust is earned not
gambled on. But if all she says
is true then I feel like an a$$
making her doing things that are
hard on er simply to prove herself.

ok so there is a girl I know and have been talking
to online for some time now, she seem very into me
although i am not in to the online relationship thing
especially at a distance.

Anyway we were talking and she asked for my number and
we talked for about 4 hours, I enjoyed talking to her
and we have a lot in common. now i am not thinking anything
major here but it's nice to have someone like that you know.

Here is my issue I have no trust for people online,
I am very popular a lot of places online on forums
and games. people have played jokes before trying
to make me look that fool or embarrasses me.

She says she is reclusive since an accident
a little over a year ago and normally hides
from people. has no photos online and uses
her aunts facebook when we talk there.

I asked for a pix and she provided one
and says she is kinda shy because she has scars
from the accident and does not have many pix.

She did cry a lot on the phone when we talked
of the accident so I do tend to believe it.

But i feel she is not being truthful and the girl
in the picture she did send is very beautiful.

Now i know she is holding things back but idk
what and feel that maybe that picture is not her
and that she might be scared to show me the real
her.

5 minutes ago I asked her to take a picture with
a sign with her saying hi mike it's ******.

Was this going to far and am I overly distrusting,
I searched the accident but can't find anything
but that means nothing as it's old and I may not
be searching properly.

She is more then willing to take the picture
which makes me wonder if i am an a$$ for making
this poor girl who likes to hide take pictures
of herself to please me.

She lives in the states so we will likely never
become anything more then close friends but you
never know and I am scared to open up even
on that low a level to someone I am not 100%
sure about.

am I wrong for being this way in this type of
situation, I have played online before for fun
on games and what not but nothing to this extent
with someone that was not close enough to go
visit.

(And to those who know me from certain games,
I beg you're discretion and ask that any issues
you may have with me from any online game you
please leave there)

I drink 2 to 4 litters of pop on a daily bases.

I have wondered this myself.