Does anyone else think that a relationship can fail because of the other persons unwillingness to forgive?

Yes, I believe so depending on what someone did? If you can't trust the person your with.....What's the POINT?

the bond you made in marriage to work everything out and no matter what the problem may be. Why give up? If you give up now you might give up on all the other relationships you face.

I would forgive anything.
However my trust is not given lightly, so if it came to unfaithfulness, although I would forgive them, I would not stay in a relationship.
Marraige is not to be taken lightly, but trust is the basis of it, once it is gone the marraige is over.

So your saying that when the trust is gone there is no way it can be rebuilt or even attempted to be rebuilt. I ask all these questions and try to get deep with it to understand after what the wife did to me hince why I'm going through the divorce. I want to make sure I'm making the right decision and not going down the wrong path.

Everyone is different, for me Trust is so very important, if my man is home late from work, I want to just be able to relax and know that what he is telling me is the truth.

I did give my second husband a chance, He played up on me before we where married and I believed him when he told me that he was sorry and it would never happen again, I trusted him for 14 years, only to find out that for most of that time he was with other women.

so for me it is not worth taking the chance, if someone can lie to you and do something that they know is going to hurt you, then it is more than likely to happen again.

I don;t know why some people are tempted i don't understand it at all.
i would never betray My husband or a boyfriend, mainly just because I could not hurt someone like that, but also because it is a choice and I wouldn't let myself do it.

So for me if the trust is gone, so is the relationship. Finished, No second chances.

Why would anyone want to be around someone who broke their word first? A vow to love and honor, yet the person takes a swing at you? Forsake all others, yet the person cheats on you? As examples...

It's not like one would really be able to trust that person again. And the whole issue of forgiveness really only works if the person is genuine about not doing it again. Otherwise it's just a joke.

Don't carry a grudge. While you're carrying the grudge the other guy's out dancing.

It depends on what happened to break the trust, though. If someone cheated, that would be enough to make someone not forgive.

I have recently come to the conclusion that yes, once trust is broken, it's almost impossible to restore it. Sorry for what you're going through.

Yes when trust is broken it is hard to repair. But too forgive one can do. don't mean u stay tho.

I agree with what everyone else is basically saying. Lol

I can forgive pretty much anything and can even continue to be friends with someone. But once that trust is broken, once I have been given reason to doubt and cannot blindly trust anymore, the chance of the relationship continuing are pretty much non existent. Without that trust, I can't fully love anymore.

Yes. If you cannot forgive and understand your spouse, the relationship is pointless.

I think true forgiveness means understanding. You can truly forgive a person for who they are even if they can't change. If they can't change, will you put up with them anyway?

You can forgive a person for a mistake they made and reconcile with them if you feel they have truly changed their ways and promised not to make that mistake again. But can they be trusted and believed?

If you are complaining about a person who cheated on you, and broke a promise, it is the broken promise that does the damage, not the cheating.

I've forgiven a lot and relearned to like someone I hated, but that doesn't mean I would want to be in a relationship again.

I think that both people in a relationship have a responsibility to forgive the other, but there comes a point, after repeated incidents, when it's better to end the romantic side and move on to greener pastures.

The trust issue can become a life sink. Once that is lost then you do not have anything.

Trust is the greatest gift you can give someone. It demonstrates true love and devotion. It defines a self giver or selfish taker. I do believe that love forgives all things, but I also believe that if a person has a problem with trust they are better off learning how to develop it instead of being in a relationship where trust is supposed to be the foundation. If I sense that the other person is not able to trust or can not be trusted I will have a serious talk with them but it is likely (no matter how nice they are) I will move on so they can see that I will not be a part of this destructive trait. The same holds true with me. The more I learn how to give, how to share, true love the more I learn about happiness.

I think the vow was "in sickness and in health... Not "work everything out no matter what. "

That is a contract I would never enter into. What if I married a serial killer? I don't think I would want to work everything out. I might find myself trying to hide a bunch of dead bodies.

Why give up? Because its YOUR life and it would be a waste to spend it in a miserable relationship -- no matter what.

Sure. But nothing says we have to forgive anyway.

That's right.