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Topic: What does "Proposal" really mean?
Miztrish Joined Thu 10/07/10 Posts: 35	Fri 05/25/12 01:55 AM
When someone proposes to you and turns out to be just a promise, how would you feel?

xeshm21 Joined Tue 03/20/12 Posts: 122	Fri 05/25/12 03:32 AM
I dont quite understand the question, a proposal is a promise is it not ?

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Fri 05/25/12 04:05 AM
A vow is a promise? I am wondering if he gave you a ring and instead of it being an engagement ring, he said it was a promise ring? I might be wrong but I think that is how your generation does it anymore, they start out with a promise ring and then about a year later...you get the engagement ring. Just remember IF he said he wanted to marry you then don't push him into anything that he is not ready to do. If he is unsure about things, maybe he is just buying a little bit of time to make sure he is doing the right thing for both of you. Be happy with the promise and go with the flow.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Fri 05/25/12 04:08 AM
When someone proposes to you and turns out to be just a promise, how would you feel? I propose to promise not to whinge about the toilet seat being up...there!..howzat?

Miztrish Joined Thu 10/07/10 Posts: 35	Fri 05/25/12 04:33 AM
yeah. at least i think it is. it's just so frustrating when he's proposing without a ring then says he's just asking me for a promise. T.T

Miztrish Joined Thu 10/07/10 Posts: 35	Fri 05/25/12 04:35 AM
i think so. well, he hasn't given me a ring yet. :( i just was disappointed that it didn't turn out the way i expected it to be. so much for expecting. but hey, i think i get your point. :) thanks. i know i shouldn't push him through it.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Fri 05/25/12 04:48 AM
Sounds like he is proposing ya'll be friends with benefits.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Fri 05/25/12 08:53 PM Edited by Rawrr_Girl on Fri 05/25/12 08:54 PM
i just was disappointed that it didn't turn out the way i expected it to be. so much for expecting. This is why daydreaming is bad for you :) lol. Expecting something before it even happens, a slippery slope right? Next time maybe just try not expecting anything. You don't want to end up dis-illusioning yourself :)

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Fri 05/25/12 09:04 PM
Depends on the man involved. Is he double minded? One day he says this, next day he says that. If he is the type to keep his word, it may be the truth? I would have said 'And I promise to give you your answer, when you propose.'

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 05/25/12 09:06 PM
When someone proposes to you and turns out to be just a promise, how would you feel? depends upon what its a promise for? if he is promising to be exclusive to and marry you, I would consider that a proposal if its only a promise to marry at some point with no promise of exclusivity to go with,, than its a fancy way of being FWB its why I dont quite get 'the bachelor',,,,why anyone wants to be engaged to someone who was JUST OUT WITH SOMEONE else that night is beyond me,,,,

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 05/25/12 09:34 PM
A Proposal is a proposition. It may or may not include some kind of promise. A marriage Proposal is a proposition to enter into the bounds of matrimony and all that entails, which may be having children, owning property together etc.

Miztrish Joined Thu 10/07/10 Posts: 35	Sat 05/26/12 05:02 AM
i just was disappointed that it didn't turn out the way i expected it to be. so much for expecting. This is why daydreaming is bad for you :) lol. Expecting something before it even happens, a slippery slope right? Next time maybe just try not expecting anything. You don't want to end up dis-illusioning yourself :) maybe. but i'm not daydreaming by the way. i was just in-love and i know he feels the same way. just probably not the time just yet.

Miztrish Joined Thu 10/07/10 Posts: 35	Sat 05/26/12 05:03 AM
Depends on the man involved. Is he double minded? One day he says this, next day he says that. If he is the type to keep his word, it may be the truth? I would have said 'And I promise to give you your answer, when you propose.' well, he's a little confusing as of now. :( that's the hardest part.

Miztrish Joined Thu 10/07/10 Posts: 35	Sat 05/26/12 05:06 AM
When someone proposes to you and turns out to be just a promise, how would you feel? depends upon what its a promise for? if he is promising to be exclusive to and marry you, I would consider that a proposal if its only a promise to marry at some point with no promise of exclusivity to go with,, than its a fancy way of being FWB its why I dont quite get 'the bachelor',,,,why anyone wants to be engaged to someone who was JUST OUT WITH SOMEONE else that night is beyond me,,,, haha. i get what you say. the problem is, he is also unsure of that promise. as much as we have feelings for each other, there are aspects in our life not quite clear to us right now. it's just that i'm also feeling frustrated because i think i can't be the girl he wants me to be.

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Sat 05/26/12 05:09 AM
Maybe it's a promise to be exclusive, and if the relationship progresses, the proposal will come later. Don't let your frustration hinder the relationship from moving forward, or you may not get the proposal.

Miztrish Joined Thu 10/07/10 Posts: 35	Sat 05/26/12 05:28 PM
Maybe it's a promise to be exclusive, and if the relationship progresses, the proposal will come later. Don't let your frustration hinder the relationship from moving forward, or you may not get the proposal. thanks. :)i think you're right.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 05/26/12 07:41 PM
When someone proposes to you and turns out to be just a promise, how would you feel? A proposal is not a promise, it is simply an offer.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sat 05/26/12 08:08 PM
When someone proposes to you and turns out to be just a promise, how would you feel? A proposal is not a promise, it is simply an offer. That's what I said. Proposal is a proposition. It is an offer. An exchange.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Sat 05/26/12 08:45 PM
When someone proposes to you and turns out to be just a promise, how would you feel? Well, if you went to bed with him, then you must know by now that sex ought not to be given on a proposal stage, but only at the fulfilment stage (after the wedding.) If I were proposed to, and it turned out to be just a promise, I would laugh all the way to the next woman. But I can appreciate that for young, until recently virgin, girls, this is a bit different.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Sat 05/26/12 08:52 PM
When someone proposes to you and turns out to be just a promise, how would you feel? A proposal is not a promise, it is simply an offer. That's what I said. Proposal is a proposition. It is an offer. An exchange. Na, na... the proposal is in common English an offer to marry, a proposition is an offer to have sex without marriage. This is the difference of meaning between these two words as they apply to dating and mating. ------ In business they are the same. ------ In political languange, proposition is a proposal to lay something down as a law, and proposal is very close, but it is more closer to "supposal". ------ In thespics, "proposition" is a way that you place a prop, in a certain position, and a proposal is when the director gently gnaws at the young starlet's ears with his mandibles.