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Everytime I see one of these man hater....or woman hater posts....
I have to stop and think. ARE people really this stupid?????? Does NOONE take any responsibility for their own participation in a marriage or relationship that has gone bad. I will say this........... My ex did this thing described here. Was it ALL her fault?????? NO We had problems. She had her's....I had mine. We both screwed up our marriage. She just didn't have the backbone to stick around and work them out. Was that wrong of her?????? Maybe....maybe not....... 6 more weeks and I might of been the one to walk away. Was the cheating wrong???? Yes We are human..........we all do stupid Chit. She did want she did. and I am happier without her. So in the end....... It was the best thing......just not the best way to go about it!!!!! JMO |
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Simple answer to most problems:
LACK of COMMUNICATION & FAILURE to WORK at the RELATIONSHIP. People can grow apart, in which case they need to set down & TALK it out, as 2 sane people. Seperations, be it business or personal, CAN NOT be run by emotions. All that results is, agressive actions. Been thru a marriage, where we were married to young & were better off apart. 2nd marriage, we let our quest for GOLD get between us. Got help & put it back together. MALE/FEMALE, ALL are capable of the same actions & can be GUILTY of cheating. Simple as that. |
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Everytime I see one of these man hater....or woman hater posts.... I have to stop and think. ARE people really this stupid?????? Does NOONE take any responsibility for their own participation in a marriage or relationship that has gone bad. I will say this........... My ex did this thing described here. Was it ALL her fault?????? NO We had problems. She had her's....I had mine. We both screwed up our marriage. She just didn't have the backbone to stick around and work them out. Was that wrong of her?????? Maybe....maybe not....... 6 more weeks and I might of been the one to walk away. Was the cheating wrong???? Yes We are human..........we all do stupid Chit. She did want she did. and I am happier without her. So in the end....... It was the best thing......just not the best way to go about it!!!!! JMO Very well put 
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Edited by
tautologic
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Mon 07/02/12 03:13 AM
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I stand by my post. 9 times out of 10 it is a MAN who is cheating. Sorry guys, blame your fellow bro's for the man hater threads.
As for the genetic element of wanting a more fertile mate, that is BS. We aren't cave dwellers anymore. As for the comment about her not giving sex. Also BS. Of my group of women friends and family, it is the MEN who aren't putting out. They are too busy sleeping or dealing with impotence issues. Midlife crisis is nothing more than hormonal changes. Both genders go through them. But you don't see women running amok during perimenopause in an attempt to cling to their youth. It's men. |
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I stand by my post. 9 times out of 10 it is a MAN who is cheating. Sorry guys, blame your fellow bro's for the man hater threads. As for the genetic element of wanting a more fertile mate, that is BS. We aren't cave dwellers anymore. As for the comment about her not giving sex. Also BS. Of my group of women friends and family, it is the MEN who aren't putting out. They are too busy sleeping or dealing with impotence issues. Midlife crisis is nothing more than hormonal changes. Both genders go through them. But you don't see women running amok during perimenopause in an attempt to cling to their youth. It's men. The most common complaint by men in marriage is that they aren't having enough sex. That's been proven in study after study. Your anecdote doesn't change that fact. Genetic should not be overlooked in these situations. Men are primarily attracted to women with a flat stomach and a .7 WTH (waist to hip ratio). As women age, their WTH radio changes and men become more and more attracted to younger women. It's built in for survival of the species. The men are not without blame, part of being an adult is controlling your baser urges, not giving in to them. It's interesting that you contradict yourself. You say that 9 times out of 10, it's the man who is cheating...but they won't have sex with their wives because they are too busy sleeping or dealing with impotence. Yeah...you need to figure out which is going on, men are cheating or impotent and get back to us. |
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Edited by
TexasScoundrel
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Mon 07/02/12 07:23 AM
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I stand by my post. 9 times out of 10 it is a MAN who is cheating. Sorry guys, blame your fellow bro's for the man hater threads. As for the genetic element of wanting a more fertile mate, that is BS. We aren't cave dwellers anymore. As for the comment about her not giving sex. Also BS. Of my group of women friends and family, it is the MEN who aren't putting out. They are too busy sleeping or dealing with impotence issues. Midlife crisis is nothing more than hormonal changes. Both genders go through them. But you don't see women running amok during perimenopause in an attempt to cling to their youth. It's men. 9 times put of 10? Where does this number come from? Once we started testing DNA we learned that some 40% of people across all cultures has a different father than the one they think it is. Don't believe me? Google it. So, it ain't just the men doing the cheating. We are humans and cannot ignore our instinks any more than any other animal can. We were designed to survive in small groups of 50 to 100 people and the way we live today causes us all kinds of trouble because evolution hasn't caught up. We weren't designed to mate for life. We'll all be happier once we learn to accept it. |
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I stand by my post. 9 times out of 10 it is a MAN who is cheating. Sorry guys, blame your fellow bro's for the man hater threads. As for the genetic element of wanting a more fertile mate, that is BS. We aren't cave dwellers anymore. As for the comment about her not giving sex. Also BS. Of my group of women friends and family, it is the MEN who aren't putting out. They are too busy sleeping or dealing with impotence issues. Midlife crisis is nothing more than hormonal changes. Both genders go through them. But you don't see women running amok during perimenopause in an attempt to cling to their youth. It's men. The most common complaint by men in marriage is that they aren't having enough sex. That's been proven in study after study. Your anecdote doesn't change that fact. Genetic should not be overlooked in these situations. Men are primarily attracted to women with a flat stomach and a .7 WTH (waist to hip ratio). As women age, their WTH radio changes and men become more and more attracted to younger women. It's built in for survival of the species. The men are not without blame, part of being an adult is controlling your baser urges, not giving in to them. It's interesting that you contradict yourself. You say that 9 times out of 10, it's the man who is cheating...but they won't have sex with their wives because they are too busy sleeping or dealing with impotence. Yeah...you need to figure out which is going on, men are cheating or impotent and get back to us. So, rather than working on the marriage they cheat? Sorry, but no one is forcing them to cheat. They're choosing to do that on their own. Just as women are when they cheat. People make all sorts of excuses for why they had to cheat and at the end of the day, they're just excuses. |
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Once we started testing DNA we learned that some 40% of people across all cultures has a different father than the one they think it is. Don't believe me? Google it. So, it ain't just the men doing the cheating. Cuckoo syndrome. Men cheat more, but mainly because they want to have more sex or experience sex with another woman. When women cheat, it's because they don't want a child with their husbands DNA. They seek out a physically superior sire for their children, while marrying a good provider. |
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Edited by
Spidercmb
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Mon 07/02/12 07:32 AM
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So, rather than working on the marriage they cheat? Sorry, but no one is forcing them to cheat. They're choosing to do that on their own. Just as women are when they cheat. People make all sorts of excuses for why they had to cheat and at the end of the day, they're just excuses. Thank you for reading my post and replying to it in context. Oh wait, you did the opposite of that. |
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How often was she sexually active with her husband? The answer is very likely "Not often enough". Even though I disagree with the Topic. I more so disagree with this statement as well... I know this is your opinion and we are allowed to have them but this statement is a cope out as well.. And maybe there has been many researches done on this and maybe I'm one out of ten this does not fall upon.... But still we can not blame one or the other for what always happened ... When I was married my ex and I had sex and good sex at least 4 times a week if not more.... And yes he still cheated... we did not have a bad marriage and yes we were involved in a lot of the same things as well...and enjoyed alot of the same things..... Why did it happen some young sweet thing grabbed his attention...was it love no .....all I can say is he got caught up in the moment from all the attention he was getting that did not involve home life, kids , work, and the daily grind of stuff, it was the excitment of it all... Yes it wrecked a marriage......but finally down the road and over 15 years later he finally admitted to our kids and me it was his fault... We are actually civil to each other now and can sit in the same room and talk...We don't go over the past no going back he has been living with his g/f now for over ten years. I even talk to her she had nothing to do with our breakup nor do I want him back. |
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Everytime I see one of these man hater....or woman hater posts.... I have to stop and think. ARE people really this stupid?????? Does NOONE take any responsibility for their own participation in a marriage or relationship that has gone bad. I will say this........... My ex did this thing described here. Was it ALL her fault?????? NO We had problems. She had her's....I had mine. We both screwed up our marriage. She just didn't have the backbone to stick around and work them out. Was that wrong of her?????? Maybe....maybe not....... 6 more weeks and I might of been the one to walk away. Was the cheating wrong???? Yes We are human..........we all do stupid Chit. She did want she did. and I am happier without her. So in the end....... It was the best thing......just not the best way to go about it!!!!! JMO So very true it happens some work it out some do not..... Both men/women are no different ....we all make mistakes sad that some think those that make them can never change and it is all one persons fault... Sure I had my faults as well.... and still do and will always have them... |
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It is funny how we all forget the other person involved with the married person...Sure it is not all their fault either.
Most of the ones that are involved with married men/women do it for the excitement. It is kind of like a taboo someone they really don’t want full time. But enjoy the excitement of the moments they are with them for they can forget all their worries and only the moment. Heck most of the time the one that is with the one that is married enjoys their freedom outside of the relationship and don’t want to be in a commitment. They can justify that within their minds knowing the other is married. And it don’t help that the one they are seeing lavishes them with gifts and the attention they seek at times in a way where they can forget everyone outside the room they are in. The men/women that do cheat tries to justify their actions as something they are missing ect…Which in reality they are only missing it due to they don’t put their effort into the relationship they are in instead. Whether it is due to lack of commutation, sex, stress or what ever it seems easier with someone else or they just don’t want to put the effort into it. Who knows for what reasons it happens and regardless who is to blame at the time… Normally those relationships fizzle out once they are with them full time. And they fall back within their old routine with the one they thought was the world. At times they realize this is not different then with the one they were with and they seek that excitement again. Still I can not see blaming all of the opposite sex for what happened in a relationship. |
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Becoming angry or getting your feelings hurt because someone cheated is like being offended that bees go from flower to flower. It's our nature to mate with the highest quality DNA we can wrap our naughty bits around and the only thing that'll stop us is self preservation.
For men spreading our DNA is easy and costs us little. That's why men desire sleeping with great numbers of women. The more women we sleep with, the more our DNA is spread out. Women, on the other hand, cannot have more children by having more sexual partners and it's only been in the last 100 years or so that giving birth has actually become relatively safe. So, it just makes sense that women would be more selective about their partners. |
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 I dub thee "Texas BioScandal"
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Bravo! If more people would come on this site and rant like this, then Mingle would be hella fun! I don't care if you agree with this post or not (I personally am amused by the "mid-life crisis man needs younger vag theory"). Idiotic rants, thoughtful rants....any kind of rant is good.
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Becoming angry or getting your feelings hurt because someone cheated is like being offended that bees go from flower to flower. It's our nature to mate with the highest quality DNA we can wrap our naughty bits around and the only thing that'll stop us is self preservation. For men spreading our DNA is easy and costs us little. That's why men desire sleeping with great numbers of women. The more women we sleep with, the more our DNA is spread out. Women, on the other hand, cannot have more children by having more sexual partners and it's only been in the last 100 years or so that giving birth has actually become relatively safe. So, it just makes sense that women would be more selective about their partners. Hummm even I can not grasp this as how most men think about cheating... Sure there are many out there that may think this way but then commitment is not what they are looking for. Nor do many of them let their emotions get in the way. Therefore it does not bother them they are sleeping with several. It is not all about how many off spring they can produce… |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Mon 07/02/12 09:42 AM
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** Be forewarned, this is a rant against those who are attatched to a penis ** Another one of my dear friends just told me she is getting divorced. Why you ask? Oh, because her husband of 25 years has decided he needs to dittle with a younger model. What IS it with these men and their stupid midlife crisis? In my world, everyone I know who is divorced has suffered this lifechanging situation at the hands of the man who promised to love and cherish her until death do you part. Not ONE woman I know initiated or perpetuated a divorce. UGGGHH MEN! Who needs em? I'm beginning to think we are better off without them. Why do we continue to expect anything different? The male species is clearly not meant for commitment. See this is a beautiful thing...I'm glad you're one of the few who bring this up as so many of us ladies keep it fallen at wayside. No, sadly this cannot be answered. Real men are dropping like flies and its high time we accept it as the truth. I feel your pain, I do. |
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Becoming angry or getting your feelings hurt because someone cheated is like being offended that bees go from flower to flower. It's our nature to mate with the highest quality DNA we can wrap our naughty bits around and the only thing that'll stop us is self preservation. For men spreading our DNA is easy and costs us little. That's why men desire sleeping with great numbers of women. The more women we sleep with, the more our DNA is spread out. Women, on the other hand, cannot have more children by having more sexual partners and it's only been in the last 100 years or so that giving birth has actually become relatively safe. So, it just makes sense that women would be more selective about their partners. Hummm even I can not grasp this as how most men think about cheating... Sure there are many out there that may think this way but then commitment is not what they are looking for. Nor do many of them let their emotions get in the way. Therefore it does not bother them they are sleeping with several. It is not all about how many off spring they can produce… The point is that the men AREN'T THINKING. They are following their emotions (evolutionary programming). It's the same with women attracted to "players." The right emotions get triggered and they follow what feels good at the time. Neither of them "THINKS" about it. |
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Becoming angry or getting your feelings hurt because someone cheated is like being offended that bees go from flower to flower. It's our nature to mate with the highest quality DNA we can wrap our naughty bits around and the only thing that'll stop us is self preservation. For men spreading our DNA is easy and costs us little. That's why men desire sleeping with great numbers of women. The more women we sleep with, the more our DNA is spread out. Women, on the other hand, cannot have more children by having more sexual partners and it's only been in the last 100 years or so that giving birth has actually become relatively safe. So, it just makes sense that women would be more selective about their partners. Trying to justify cheating is lame. However, if you know that you cannot get through life without cheating, I suggest you start off each date by informing them of this, so they'll know what to expect. |
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Becoming angry or getting your feelings hurt because someone cheated is like being offended that bees go from flower to flower. It's our nature to mate with the highest quality DNA we can wrap our naughty bits around and the only thing that'll stop us is self preservation. For men spreading our DNA is easy and costs us little. That's why men desire sleeping with great numbers of women. The more women we sleep with, the more our DNA is spread out. Women, on the other hand, cannot have more children by having more sexual partners and it's only been in the last 100 years or so that giving birth has actually become relatively safe. So, it just makes sense that women would be more selective about their partners. Hummm even I can not grasp this as how most men think about cheating... Sure there are many out there that may think this way but then commitment is not what they are looking for. Nor do many of them let their emotions get in the way. Therefore it does not bother them they are sleeping with several. It is not all about how many off spring they can produce… The point is that the men AREN'T THINKING. They are following their emotions (evolutionary programming). It's the same with women attracted to "players." The right emotions get triggered and they follow what feels good at the time. Neither of them "THINKS" about it. True will agree with you there on the Not Thinking~~ |
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