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Topic: Obvious instant dislike?
blueeyes2000 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 1517	Sat 09/08/12 06:08 AM
What do you do to deal with someone who has an obvious dislike of you? Do you meet it head on? What if someone says/does things that have an underlying bite?

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48914	Sat 09/08/12 06:23 AM
It depends on the situation. For example, if the situation were taking place on this website, then you'd ignore what the person does until the person violated the rules. If the situation were in your work place, then the situation is a bit tricky. You might have to talk to a superior if the situation interferes with your work.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 09/08/12 06:35 AM
What do you do to deal with someone who has an obvious dislike of you? Do you meet it head on? What if someone says/does things that have an underlying bite? (((BlueEyes))) Try your best to ignore...Report, report, report if they break the rules ....How could anyone dislike you!?

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Sat 09/08/12 06:44 AM
Offer to have sex with them, tie them to the motel bedposts, then leave them naked with no carkeys.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 09/08/12 06:53 AM
I tend to ignore and focus on those who do like me. At work everyone has to understand that we have to work together and we are basically a captive audience so a modicum of tolerance and a sense of humor is a must. Outside of work ignore - or report if there is a specific reason to -like if someone seems to go out of their way to make my life difficult or to insult. Otherwise I ignore sometimes silence speaks loudest

lonelynheart Joined Sun 10/28/07 Posts: 1	Sat 09/08/12 06:56 AM
the best way to deal with it is to walk straight up to the person and say I don't know what I did to make you dislike but I'm sorry I can't change the way I'am ,this quick approach puts people off guard,they won't have time to make anything up. Good luck.

Kaleijoscope Joined Fri 10/15/10 Posts: 3319	Sat 09/08/12 06:59 AM
"Instant" are usually disposable..so i dont dwell on them, their loss...(-j=)

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 09/08/12 07:10 AM
well when I say ignore - I mean ignore as opposed to expressing dislike honestly I try to like everyone but also realize that is an impossible goal if a person is generally civil I usually find no reason to dislike - I like nearly everyone unless they express repeated negativity to me Ima marshmallow and love most folk

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 09/08/12 07:31 AM
well when I say ignore - I mean ignore as opposed to expressing dislike honestly I try to like everyone but also realize that is an impossible goal if a person is generally civil I usually find no reason to dislike - I like nearly everyone unless they express repeated negativity to me Ima marshmallow and love most folk Hehe, Im not Pollyanna. My civil behavior toward someone who is rude to me, or others, is to highlight their own rudeness. They must own all of it, if I dont participate and I enjoy that....muahahaha. not a bad strategy, I think. you have some back bone! I think my civilty in the face of rudeness is simply that I am so astonished that I go numb sometimes I will try to make a joke too, but that is usually just nervousness or a defense mechanism kinda thing

Russkie77 Joined Fri 08/31/12 Posts: 3	Sat 09/08/12 07:32 AM
Head on always ignoring the problem doesn't mean it's going to go away

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 09/08/12 07:50 AM
well when I say ignore - I mean ignore as opposed to expressing dislike honestly I try to like everyone but also realize that is an impossible goal if a person is generally civil I usually find no reason to dislike - I like nearly everyone unless they express repeated negativity to me Ima marshmallow and love most folk Hehe, Im not Pollyanna. My civil behavior toward someone who is rude to me, or others, is to highlight their own rudeness. They must own all of it, if I dont participate and I enjoy that....muahahaha. I agree. Though, highlighting their rude behavior tends to set some off even more.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Sat 09/08/12 08:02 AM
Easy....just don't acknowledge their existence.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 09/08/12 08:02 AM
well when I say ignore - I mean ignore as opposed to expressing dislike honestly I try to like everyone but also realize that is an impossible goal if a person is generally civil I usually find no reason to dislike - I like nearly everyone unless they express repeated negativity to me Ima marshmallow and love most folk Hehe, Im not Pollyanna. My civil behavior toward someone who is rude to me, or others, is to highlight their own rudeness. They must own all of it, if I dont participate and I enjoy that....muahahaha. I agree. Though, highlighting their rude behavior tends to set some off even more. for all to see. all on them. Yep, this strategy works well.

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Sat 09/08/12 08:38 AM
Had that happen once they were all nice for while then they got nasty an mean at first I just attacked back in private emails then after while i just finally blocked them an reported them told them there more to life then that an i can find better friends to have in which i did

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Sat 09/08/12 09:26 AM
Had that happen once they were all nice for while then they got nasty an mean at first I just attacked back in private emails then after while i just finally blocked them an reported them told them there more to life then that an i can find better friends to have in which i did Sorry you had to deal with that Sneaks. Good on you for moving forward. thanks there times when u need more in life then dealing with jerks an idiots an there plenty of them from time to time

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Sat 09/08/12 09:34 AM
Had that happen once they were all nice for while then they got nasty an mean at first I just attacked back in private emails then after while i just finally blocked them an reported them told them there more to life then that an i can find better friends to have in which i did Sorry you had to deal with that Sneaks. Good on you for moving forward. thanks there times when u need more in life then dealing with jerks an idiots an there plenty of them from time to time so true. The tide brings them in. Just dont get caught in the undertow. Yep that actually a true statement there made me laugh a little when i read it thanks

mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Sat 09/08/12 09:57 AM
I have this problem with my neighbor... Her son owns the apartment I live in and he lives out of state so she is like the resident manager.. Don't know what her problem is but we used to get along fine, however when we started to have problems I tried to find out what was going on, no luck.. So I called Mike and we had a long talk.. Seems like anything I reported that needed fixing, I was told by her "there was no money" but Mike said his mom had never mentioned any of this to him.. There are some awkward mmoments at times but I don't speak to her and only deal with him.. Let him tell her what she needs to do, if she don't like it, not my problem...

blueeyes2000 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 1517	Sat 09/08/12 03:10 PM
My situation is with someone at work. I am trying to keep things neutral by not giving her what she seems to want, which is an argument. I have no idea what started the whole thing, what I did(if I did anything), for the dislike. As of now, it's just little things, but it seems to happen only to me. I was just curious if anyone had any ideas, I really would like to handle it without having to cause any trouble, or make more of an issue out of it.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 09/08/12 03:12 PM
When I run into this....(happens once in a while) I just allow my dislike for them to become...obvious Too. I hate to resort to this.....but it always works. I Am Very Good At It!!!!!

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Sat 09/08/12 03:14 PM
F* 'em...I have no time for that type of nonsense, my life is short, and far more important. I'd probably actually tell them "F* off" too, but I'm blunt, and get pissy when my time is wasted.