Met a woman that i loved so very much.. iam romantic, hard working. I cleaned the house, did laundry, made dinner.. after working all day. I'd run her a bath take and put a glass of wine in there with candles. She always told me and everyone i treated her like a queen. I did these things all the time. I talked, listened, never cheated.... i dont understand.... ladies what am i doing wrong? Sorry been six months. Still hurts

i guess you over did it bro... sorry, about that. then again, maybe she wasn't 'the one' for you.

Did you ask her or did she give any reason whatsoever?

I don't. Sorry.

She said it wasn't me.. she said she got married to soon after her divorce.. it had been a little over a year i guess. She gave me a wonderful son. And a wonderful daughter ( step daughter) but we adopted each other lol. She never knew her real dad.. her last husband cheated and abused her.. i never did or never would... she was my baby

'One can,t give what she has not received as a kid'. I don't like generalisation. But it may be the case dt she lackd a balancd upbringing. Another possible reason is dt may be u were just entranced in her beauty n didn't notice her responces. Her expectations may be different.
Some want beauty, some want brain !
Some want status, some run in vain!!
Some want gold, some like it old!
Some have no choice as they are sold !!

Analysis of the working human mind may be the toughest challenge... So don't feel inadequate/incapable/insignificant . If she only wants more happiness n perfection dt she believes exists n exists elsewhere n dt she should pursue it,then let her go n try to forget. Who knows whom u'll meet next. May be here !

Love for ur kids n wishes for u

By the way, i am looking for a lazy duck, hopefully with an endearing smile, who doesnt want her spouse to run for her. I like walking !

Do u know where to look?

You're not doing anything wrong..LIFE...that's what happened..just move on.eventually, you will find the one that deserves you and will make you happy..i wish you'd be happy!

Trust me, it's not you! If you truly did all you said, and were honest and sincere..then SHE was the one with the issues!

It's women like that, that make a good guy hard to find. But just remember, not all women are shady.

I devoted almost 5 years to someone that said they were one way, and then over those years..the true colors came out. So I hear what your saying, it leaves you wondering what YOU did wrong. When all it really is, is that some people just aren't relationship material.

She left you because she didn't think of you as a "real man." It sounds like you were her slave. She wanted a man she could respect and look up to. A man that would lead, take charge and sit at the head of the table. It's hard to respect a doormat.

I don't mean to beat you up. But, women will sometimes push a man because she wants to feel his strength. This is how she knows she can trust you. After all, if you can't stand up to her, how could you protect her if she needed it?

The harder you worked to please her, the more she saw you as desperate and needy. Desperation is not attractive.

Read through this thread. It's a deep discussion of this issue in relationships.

http://mingle2.com/topic/show/338333

I'm sorry for your heartache but regardless of reason...not every woman is interested in getting married, especially a second time. It may not really have anything to do with you specifically, other than you crossed a line she might not even have known she had drawn.

Sounds great. However, it is very difficult to respect someone who kisses your hind end.
Sorry.. I know that is brutal, but it is the truth.

Sounds like it might've been a case of 'wrong woman/wrong time'.

Or, if u want to look at it on a deeper level, it almost seems like you were over-compensating for what might've been lacking in the relationship. Men are more geared towards action: doing, fixing, repairing...all that represents physical action in a relationship. Women, as they say, are more emotional. Sure you may have 'talked' and 'listened' but were u really talking and actually 'listening' to what she was saying? If you truly believe the relationship went sour on her account, then maybe it really was a case of 'wrong woman/wrong time.' Hopefully you will meet the right woman and it'll be the right time. Good luck to you.

Marriage?????

Something that leads to.....

Giving houses away......

May I please have your house?

sorry for your loss

some people just arent ready to handle a real responsibility like commitment long term

whether its because of a recent disappointment and the lingering paranoia

or whether its because they just need drama and insecurity over its alternative

if you know in your heart you did what was right, than let the good memories be reinforcements of what you did right, and maybe let the breakup be a learning tool for the future when involving yourself with those who have not spent time on their own in the recent past,,,,,

sorry for your loss

some people just arent ready to handle a real responsibility like commitment long term

whether its because of a recent disappointment and the lingering paranoia

or whether its because they just need drama and insecurity over its alternative

if you know in your heart you did what was right, than let the good memories be reinforcements of what you did right, and maybe let the breakup be a learning tool for the future when involving yourself with those who have not spent time on their own in the recent past,,,,,

I agree about over doing it. That kind of stuff would get on my nerves; however it sounds more like she got married way to soon after her divorce and just wasn't ready for marriage.

First problem is she lacked the ability to really tell you her issues with the relationship. Based on what you said.

But having said that, women don't really want you to do everything for them on all the time. If you do everything for them, when do they get to show up in the relationship? And if you end up with a girl who wants you to do everything, oops.

Marriage is a bet for half of your stuff you'll stay together forever.