Be honest what will you do if you caught your wife, husband or finance cheating on you. You know that he or she loves you yet he or she still cheated on you and you also love him or her.Will you end the relationship or forgive?

i just can't rationalize someone who loves someone,
cheating.
that's not love, sorry.
i'd move on, for that reason.

It happened to me. I divorced and moved on.

You can love someone,but if there is no sex or passion or work takes up all their time and energy,lets be real its just sex ,just be safe

Wow. Funny, in real life, I don't see many people express this perspective. At least not in my case. Wrong crowd I suppose.

That makes two of us. I just hear how often it happens and how normal it is. Oh and I really appreciate those who asked what I could have done better. A cheater's gonna cheat. I have no issue with that, just admit that you are a cheater. I chose the wrong woman and regret it. I believe we're going off topic. Off my soapbox now.

interesting. add '"and drains your bank account" to the equation and let's see if you say
"it's only money." let's be real and love the people we make committments to and keep
them. that's real.

It doesnt have to be anyones fault there are lots of reasons to stay togeather.I wonder if some people use an affair as an excuse to leave a bad relationship and have a religion based society be in their side??

Having a "loving sexual relationship"is differnt

people dp all kinds of stupid stuff all the time...on that basis I suppose in time I could forgive, but the relationship might not last tho. I doubt it would.

Happened to me. I can't be with an individual I can't trust.... moving on!

Happened to me. I can't be with an individual I can't trust.... moving on!

At my age, (64) I'm going to be practical. It would depend a lot on the whole situation.

If I had a husband and we loved each other, he was well off, keeping me in a lifestyle that I enjoy and appreciate, and if he could still get it on with someone else .... wow.

There are many courses of action one could take depending on the situation.

1) Divorce... if that's what he wants... and I would get a good lawyer and get a huge settlement.

2) Stay married...and look the other way, and let him have his fling as long as he keeps you living in the style you are accustomed to and stays out of your bedroom.

3) Fight for your man by going after the woman, or by making a game of it and competing with her. Stalk her, or Sue her for breaking up your marriage.

If she is married, go have a talk with her husband.



There are all sorts of fun things you can do.

4) Find your own little hunk of junk on the side.

5) Sell his stuff, or raid his bank account.

So much fun!

On the business end of it....and maybe I just think this way because my business is based on contracts, but I view marriage as a contract too. But when the other party does not honor their contract, it tells me they just don't want the job very badly. I tell them to make way for someone who really wants the position. And trust me the benefits are AWESOME !!!!

What? I was talking about at work.

On the emotional end of it...I can't believe a spouse can cheat and still love you...because I can't believe love disappears just long enough to tap that.

Cheating is not always a sign that your spouse does not love you. People have the capacity of love more than just one person. So cheating is not about loving, its about dishonesty.

Breaking a vow is something that can ruin your marriage. But people can still love each other.

There are no conditions on real love. There are only conditions in contracts.

I agree with this

Talking like marriage is a contract if you have a contract to build a house and the client moves the bedroom do you quit building the house?i would hope not!!

Meant to quote Newchat.


I don't know of contracts drawn up to stipulate that. In my industry, when plans change, new contracts are usually drafted. Change in job scope or specs don't generally fall under breach. It all depends on the terms of the agreement I suppose.

The terms in a marriage contract I'm refering to would be "forsaking all others." If you and your spouse change the contract, or amend it later, there is no breach.

I will add that amendments within a binding agreement require approval from BOTH parties.

It would be painful but ditto for me.

I would forgive him but the Trust would be gone. I would move on to seek divorce.