ex and i broke up bout 11 weeks ago regarding an issue about having/not having children...everything else in the relationship was great never argued about anything. our break up was hard trying no contact didnt work, slpt together again a few times and enjoying each others company....tried to get him back but that was no go, tried to assure him we could be friends thats a no go now too. found out he's seeing someone else and has asked for me not to contact him anymore and he will do the same.

some of the things he would say to me get me confused id like some insight from other men to understand what he might be going through...

he would say hes struggling he still still loves me and misses me and wish he could hold me, kiss me...

hes scared as our issue may never change and doesnt believe what i have to say and that hes angry and why does he have to be stubborn

he says he thinks about me all the time and remembers the happy moments and things about me that make him go awww but he still doesnt want to get back together with me as his brain has put his foot down on his heart and if he thinks that then we are just not meant to be

he said that we're supposed to be moving on and getting on with our lives and hooking up

seeing me is to hard as he just wants me and it takes him backwards from moving on

he said that if i contact him he will not respond and he wont be contacting me anymore as well he doesnt want to be friends he doesnt see how we can be like that after how we have felt for each other in our relationship

i just dont know how genuine he may be after all if he is seeing someone else rebound, serious whatever it is in a way i feel played....

from a male point of view whats really going on??

he is playing with you. kick his ***.

He is just stringing you along. He is using you as a plan B so he has a piece of *** to fall back on. Move on, and forget him.

You signed up on a online dating site to post THIS?

He do nt know wht he want and need God deliverance.

Listen to what he is saying. He is being quite nice but he is telling you "no" your idea of getting back together. If you respect him at all listen to him and respect his no contact wishes.

It is not unusual for exes to sleep together a few times right after they break up, it is not unusual for exes to have fond memories of each other after they break up, BUT that does not mean they are going to get back together.

If you really care about his happiness respect that he has found someone else and do not create drama to interfere in that.

If you do (create interfering drama) he will go from remembering you fondly to absolutely hating you.

good luck and find ye a boy toy :)

Well said!!!

thanks. with stuff like this it is hard to see things things from your ex partner's persoective because we get self centered when we are hurting. But for her own self respect as well, it's best to just let it go .... to find someone who will really appreciate her.

I agree....it is hard...when your on the inside..
But deep inside..I think we know..we just want it affirmed.

the world is a man buffet! we need to tell her that the smorgasbord has begun! red meat or white...lol

(((((Rawr)))))....I love buffet All you can eat

true....

Do you think maybe it was the arguement about having children, that was the deciding factor for him? Hope I don't upset you by saying that, but if one or both of you weren't ready to have children at the time, then maybe he just wanted to find a woman who was. However, giving you a time limit as to when to have them is quite controlling, and who could blame you for feeling upset about that? It sounds like he had babies on his mind. If he comes running back, slam the door in his face ;). I honestly think he should have waited til you were ready though, instead of pressurizing you.

No comment apart from; if he found someone else inside 11 weeks things were never that serious anyway and he's obviously not using this site!

Love does NOT conquer all.

You don't stop loving someone because they want something different in life than you do.

Sometimes caring for someone means letting them go have the life they deserve, but you just can't share with them.

Be happy for the time you had together and thankful that he wants you to have the life you desire.

You can love someone and still be completely wrong for each other. My ex and I had a mutual agreement not to have children. We lasted 20 years. That part was never disagreed on. It was his later in life change of religion and such that separated us. We still love each other but we cannot live together. We never hooked up after we broke up.

My ex of six months and I were horribly wrong for each other and hooked up after breaking up. We still say I love you on occasion by accident. But we are sooooooooooooooo bad for each other.

Hello dear,
There is a saying which can help:

"Men's rejection is God's protection!"

and another:

If you love something let it go.
If it comes back to you,it's yours.
If it doesn't,it never was.

Believe in yourself and be blessed.
Revd. Vera

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Listen to what he is saying. He wants to live his life and I'm sorry to say that you're not in it! But there it is! That is the truth. That's what he is saying loud and clear!

Sometimes life can be so darn hard! Change is even harder! You know what you want but sometimes, we think we do but realize later that we were wrong.

Trust your heart and let him go, as much for him as for yourself. You deserve to be happy, so take the next step forward and quit looking back! He's not there! But ahead of you may be this amazing man who can't live without you! Now - isn't that something to look forward to?

One step at a time girl! Just one step at a time!

One rant and out?

Guess she's gotten the answer to her question.