I m feeling lost after being dumped by a girl... can anyone help me out

I know the feeling after 26 yrs of knowing and a yr and a half of serious dating and engagement,Got dumped 3weeks before moving out of state and being with this guy.Not much one can do except keep going.

As much as I would love to tell you we can talk you through, that's unfortunately not true. You have to ride it out, find things to throw your energy into, and come to see there is far more to life than wallowing in self-pity. It's hard, and it'll hurt, but you'll be better off in the long run.

Hope you're feeling much happier soon! xx

Write down how you fell. Trust me...you write it out....vent on paper.....and it helps. Within a couple of days you'll feel ready to move along.

I agree with GOofball writing it out helps.

I personally would write down every last annoying, negative, worst habits, bad times on/at important events, etc in a list. Its easy for lowkey people to overlook some things but seeing it all in black & white should be an eye opener.
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Then write down all the things that are positive about being single and free. I can finish ____. I am free to ____. I can go on a fun vacation with friends. Plan next summer beach/pool parties. Join something like a drawing class, gourmet cooking, sports team, volunteer for something. You will expose yourself to many new people and its easier to move forward when your calendar is full.
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Then think about common signs you were dating the wrong person. Like: They try to mold you into something else. They think the world revolves around them. You avoid difficult conversations to avoid conflict. No matter how hard you try you cant do anything right according to them.

So men get over a relationship/partner within a few days?
Does explain a lot ...

Actually no. But men seem to want to move along quicker than women. Although my ex wife went from separating from me to moving in with her new man three weeks later. So......yeah.

First you cry. I is ok to feel bummed out. Sounds like you are at the cry stage and little bit of the mad stage. A PRIVATE journal is a good idea. WAY better than the PUBLIC painting a target in your back that you just went down the drain relationship wise. THat just invites the wolves to dine on you sooner or later.

It happens to everyone eventually.Its part of life and it cuts you deep,However it can help you grow , realize what you want and who you really are.Good luck to you.

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So men get over a relationship/partner within a few days?
Does explain a lot ...
I don't know Crystal, some i've been glad to see go and I bet a few people on here could say the same?

Men and women are different. The pain of loss equates to the level of the relationship. If you didn't date that long, it won't take that long for the pain to subside(there are no absolutes). If it was a long loving relationship that went wrong ... learn from it and move on.

Focus your energy in other ways till you are ready to date again but in any case, stay busy. Moping may seem like an option but it will just slow the healing process.

I don't know Crystal, some i've been glad to see go and I bet a few people on here could say the same?


Read my response to her, lol. It can take a few days but a lot of times it takes more than that for a guy to move on. And it isn't just men. So....yeah....

the heartbreak you feel is actually withdrawal from oxytocin, the hormone that is released when your around the person your in love with that makes you feel all mushy. When you are separated from them the level drops and you feel heartbreak/withdrawal. Try exercising daily, it releases endorphins which will make feel generally happy over time