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Edited by
gibbs1602
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Sun 03/30/14 12:29 PM
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Hi! I have seeing many people here stating they r looking 4 a person, for marriage. When u read on the profile u find these people r SEPARATED. That, in fact, means they themselves R married. My question 2 all, how can u look for a person 4 marriage when ur STILL married? And Why? If there even a possibility of a lasting romantic relationship when U have NOT FINISHED the other relation? There can be many reasons why people remain "separated" such as, religious, financial, complex issues regarding financial responsibilities for spouse and children from previous marriages, a missing nomadic spouse difficult to trace and there are probably many more reasons as well. If you are going to date someone who is only "separated" then you must be prepared to accept that marriage might not be an option. I am divorced and any perspective partner for me would need to be of single status, I would not be interested in anyone who is only "separated", because I would need their complete divorce from any previous marriage before I could consider any form of relationship with them, if only because "separated" to me means it is not final, there is always the possibility they could return to their spouse. 'guess people come on here for all kinds of reasons......needing money for divorce......scammers!!! Personally, I started for the wrong reason......thought I was missing that someone special in my life.....some lovely people here (pkh, Storm, Teebee, no1phD...just to name a few) made me realize I was missing home and really wanted to meet people and have some fun. I think you have the right idea, if you want to get to know someone who is separated, just ask them what the story ism, if they get defensive, probably best to move on. I'm always happy to answer any questions about my personal story.' I guess you have all helped me too in answering some unanswered questions regarding the topic...thanks NorCal it adds perspective. |
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it all gud
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Only whores can and indeed postulate such nonsense
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Same here hey....it is like there trusted women....
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Thanks 4 the reply! I have asked many. Almost all get very defensive, question MY MOTIVES 4 ASKING, and then ignore my correspondence. Its quite a bit frustrating, but I guess some ppl do not like 2 be asked open ended question, or questions at all? Only two answered that the process 4 divorce was very cumbersome and they did not have the money 2 do it. We all know that! It is both. Well, if the two individuals truly want the divorce and have separated as adults and divided everything in a civil matter, the price is NOT an issue. I personally drew up and filed my own divorce papers through the courts with no attorney. The local fee for doing this is $141.00 and not the thousands you might spend for an attorney. Then, if you do not even have the base filing fee you can file an affidavit of indigency and the fee will be waived by the courts. Here in England in the UK to complete the divorce process yourself, all the form filling and fees, the cost was over �400.00 GBP ($640.00 USD) ten years ago, it will be more now and I don't think there is any legal aid for divorce here. This results in many people here not bothering with divorce after a split up in my opiniion. it is the same here many decide to split without 'government' involvement, meaning they haven't documented their decision with legal papers but have none the less moved on to live lives on their own,,,separate residences, responsibilities, accounts , responsibilities, etc,, my first husband and I split in 1995, we both didn't want to bother with the legal process, unless or until it became necessary (to us, that meant finding someone that we were going to marry),,,, we didn't divorce, legally, until 2004, when my second husband and I spoke to each other about marriage,,, I mean, the best way to really answer the question is to get to know that person and ASK them their specific situation,,,,, |
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It boils down to the same thing: asking. Wouldn't b easier if ppl who r looking for marriage could ACTUALLY b able 2 get married? Shouldn't these ppl change their approach? Go to a cheaters site?
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thats something bothers me also, why do people get attached and flirt with others given that they r married, and some would say that its only for the kids thats y they're still together..
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thats something bothers me also, why do people get attached and flirt with others given that they r married, and some would say that its only for the kids thats y they're still together.. I agree with U. If the person is attached, get unattached and then maybe say ur looking for marriage. When a marriage is not working, the best money u could spend is getting a divorce: no question! Just stop procrastinating and get it done! Or, again, go to a cheating website. |
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Edited by
vicarious4
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Fri 04/04/14 09:53 AM
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Some don;t like to communicate with separated men because they feel it can't lead to anything and I tend to agree that's a waste of time if you are wanting to meet someone to be with now. what a load of pathetic drivel. If a new relationship looks like it may become serious then there is nothing stopping finalizing a divorce. And don't try to tell anyone that people from an unmarried relationship have necessarily finalized the split and would never consider going back to their ex. Get real, any new relationship is a gamble - separated, single or even divorced people have been known to make up with an ex. |
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Edited by
vicarious4
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Mon 04/07/14 12:12 AM
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Whats more pathetic is someone trolling for intimate encounters trina tell people its drivel to want someone to be clear of an old relationship before starting a new one. I spose gibbs said it best when she spoke of people getting defensive about their situation, and that it would be best to move on in such a case. and just who is being defensive here, personal attacks are the weapons of last resort for those who have no other valid argument? So much for your claim of "not being a hurtful person" and "not manipulative". What other truths are bent in your profile, O purest of the pure? And just what do you know of my situation and reasons anyway??? |
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Thanks 4 the reply! I have asked many. Almost all get very defensive, question MY MOTIVES 4 ASKING, and then ignore my correspondence. Its quite a bit frustrating, but I guess some ppl do not like 2 be asked open ended question, or questions at all? Only two answered that the process 4 divorce was very cumbersome and they did not have the money 2 do it. We all know that! It is both. Well, if the two individuals truly want the divorce and have separated as adults and divided everything in a civil matter, the price is NOT an issue. I personally drew up and filed my own divorce papers through the courts with no attorney. The local fee for doing this is $141.00 and not the thousands you might spend for an attorney. Then, if you do not even have the base filing fee you can file an affidavit of indigency and the fee will be waived by the courts. Here in England in the UK to complete the divorce process yourself, all the form filling and fees, the cost was over �400.00 GBP ($640.00 USD) ten years ago, it will be more now and I don't think there is any legal aid for divorce here. This results in many people here not bothering with divorce after a split up in my opiniion. in the words of Robin Williams "why is divorce so expensive?".... ..."Because it's worth it!" |
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I repeat, the best money u can spend is getting a divorce! If ur looking for dating, or for marriage, get a freaking divorce first: then go look!
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thats something bothers me also, why do people get attached and flirt with others given that they r married, and some would say that its only for the kids thats y they're still together.. I agree with U. If the person is attached, get unattached and then maybe say ur looking for marriage. When a marriage is not working, the best money u could spend is getting a divorce: no question! Just stop procrastinating and get it done! Or, again, go to a cheating website. I think they don't like joining cheater site's, because that would mean them having to admit to themselves, that they really are a piece of used trash. So, they hope joining a more "normal" dating site, will land them some humble, sweet person. They need luck. Fair enough, cheating just once, may be a mistake, but I'm never sure if they'd do it again. If they DO feel like cheating, then why not just leave the nice people out of it? The ones who deserve better |
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I think they don't like joining cheater site's, because that would mean them having to admit to themselves, that they really are a piece of used trash. So, they hope joining a more "normal" dating site, will land them some humble, sweet person. They need luck. Fair enough, cheating just once, may be a mistake, but I'm never sure if they'd do it again. If they DO feel like cheating, then why not just leave the nice people out of it? The ones who deserve better I agree with u Shy_Emo! These people do not want to deal with reality and want to pretend something they R not: free to have a romantic relationship! They r cheating! Go cheat to a cheating site! |
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I'm new to this site and yes I'm married what's wrong with meeting other married people to connect with on any level as long as there's respect trust honesty and boundaries it's all good
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Can u start a romantic relationship without finishing one?
I believe this was the original question. The answer is yes, you CAN. The question oughta be: SHOULD you start a romantic relationship without finishing one? From my point of view, no, you shouldn't. Do what you want, but you get what you get. I hear buddies all the time saying, "I can't believe she cheated on me" and I remind them, "Ain't that how you got her?" Yeah, my buddies don't care for me too much. |
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Edited by
Criollo99
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Sun 04/13/14 10:01 AM
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And that's the difficulty with ppl who r married and cheating and r here: they keep lying to themselves!
If u r married, ur cheating! Nothing good can come from a cheater! If they r cheating with u, they will cheat ON U! Go to a cheating website! And no, u cannot begin a romantic relationship without finishing one. Because U do not have either! UR a cheater! Nothing good can come from it! I just wanted to c how people rationalized their cheating behavior. I will watch out for those answers when I ask women who want 2 "date" and r looking for "marriage" and want someone FAITHFUL, HONEST, RESPECT, TRUE who loves God... WT...H!? These people don't love nor respect themselves. How can they love or respect anyone else? Never u mind have God in their heart or life. They don't! And they want "no games"?! lol |
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"Can you start a romantic relationship without finishing one?"
Absolutely, I hear the more you do it, the easier it gets 
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Crystal Gayle even sang about it,
" Why have you left the one you left me for? Has she heard, like me, that slammin door? " (You will be humming that all day now.  ) |
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