Seduction=blondey

Well, there was a bit more to it than that but anyway, I had this woman keeping saying that she wasn't going to have sex with me and I had to keep saying alright and that I would settle for a cuddle or a bit of fondling and stuff like that. Now, I'm pretty sure that she knew that I was never going to just settle for a bit of foreplay but it would end up with her saying how I had got my way with her and it was obviously a game but at the same time, it was understood that she wasn't just going to put out unless I got her in the mood somehow and there was a bit of her genuinely having things to do in the morning and needing to go home and get some sleep. She would enjoy it when we got started and then would become more compliant or submissive but she knew that it was never going to be a quickie, whatever I said and I think that it probably does count as seduction when you get someone to do things like that.

I think that they used to call it being masterful. I don't know if that's the sort of thing that the OP means but it does sound a bit like she wants this guy that she's dating to make the advances and for him to make her feel sexy and desirable. You can totally have a sort of friendship chemistry with someone that you date but if you aren't feeling the sexual chemistry as well you may just decide that you're not compatible and call it quits.

well I am not saying that women should not seduce men but that before a relationship it is not something that I think works well for ME because of my upbringing and culture. But some of that also rests on what you consider to be seduction. As mentioned to Tawt, if you reread my last sentence, seductions (or preliminary seductions) can be quite subtle. (as blondey said, they happen in the mind) So much so that I think most of us send those "signals" almost unconciously.

so if a man does not pick up on those more subtle signals I presume him not interested, and / or not right for me. thanks for the chance to clarify and for not slamming me for having a different opinion. I really appreciate tht.

The weird thing is that we were having pretty much just an internet relationship. He thought that I lived too far away and that really is more of an issue when you are older. Driving more than just short distances is a lot easier for younger folks. He thought that the trip would take him a lot longer than it actually did. When we first started chatting online I offered to meet him halfway for coffee, but he did not want to do that. I finally told him "We're never going to meet, nice knowing you." I guess I built a fire under him because he did show up.

I was pretty standoffish when we did meet. I guess if I had been a little more physically attracted to him I might have been less so.
I think we do have a friendship chemistry because we have been chatting online for so long. I guess I want to find out if there is a potential for more. But if we don't get together again I'll never know.

Are you still talking to him?

Yes Single. We email pretty regularly. He says there will be a next time, but who knows when? I did say something about getting together before summer when there is a lot of tourist traffic.

This boy is picking!!!! flowerforyou

Really sad for you emerald

Men are quite simple to understand. If he wants to meet, he will. If he doesn't, he won't. I don't think it's that complicated.

Seduction has a lot to do with the mind and imagination. You can seduce by giving if yourself without ever touching a person.