No...sorry....it's not about "you".

There will be sometime in YOUR life when you WILL have to relinquish all power. The question is more about surrender.

Whether it be saving you from your own behavior, or some something completely out of anyone's control...

(MODERATORS) Was initially thinking of the give and take of Dating & Relationships....but "Generally"...

How do you deal with having to "willfully" give away your power?

OR (For that matter) assuming it, for someone you love?

Good questions but I get a headache thinking about it

I think some find it easier to give than to receive
some find it easier to receive
some find it easier to lead
and some find it easier to follow

I am in the middle, I am humble enough to be the receiver when someone else gives,, but strong enough to be the giver when someone else needs to receive

similarly, I can lead with 'willful' participants but its hard for me to actually assert or TAKE authority over others,,,

its very easy for me to relinquish power as a peacekeeper because I am so unmotivated by merely having power, I only need to have trust that that power is EARNED through a genuine responsibility and concern for others,,,, giving power to someone just for the heck of it is not something I can do,,,

Curious topic.

Comes across as a need to control.

I may be wrong.

OP, what's some examples were you willingly gave up control to protect you from yourself?

That's absolutely a fair assumption and question....and SURE, I would like to permanently be king of my own domain.....and YES I have a hard time "letting go" of control. I do not think that is uncommon (and kind of the point).

Like msharmony (I hope) I am humble OR strong enough to give or receive. (DEFINITELY have a hard time asking for help!)

...and (not speaking for klc) but there are times and circumstances when we step up and help, or step back and trust. As loving humans, it's what we do.

To answer your question.."Yes", there was a time when my own demons got the better of me, and I trusted someone to guide my paycheck, schedule, regiment, and call me on my bs. It was a relatively short time that I am forever grateful for......and still incredibly independent because of.

Would you be speaking in terms of 'Surrender to win?'

If so, absolutely.

I share that commonality with you and others who have traveled that road.

Can't deny that surrender isn't necessarily pure, and perhaps self serving....maybe even self preserving in a sense.

(For me...maybe not everyone) there is also an erotic aspect of letting go of control in a "couple" situation.

me tooooo!

not for the faint of self

Let's see,

I give up control when under anesthesia.

I might have to give up control when someone changes my diapers.

I realize that when a manipulator calls me out as a manipulator that they are in effect trying to control the situation. lol

I give in and say I'm sorry when I genuinely am.

so you're saying it all Depends?

is that cottenelle guy going to show up?

Cautiously surrendering control......during an orgasm? yup, it all depends.

there are many aspects to the questions in your post.

the easiest part is the one for assuming control. in given situations, I will do what needs to be done and apologize later if necessary.
that includes mostly emergencies or general caregiving and first aid. somebody may tell me they don't need the attention and I will say let me finish this now and you can yell at me tomorrow.

as for relinquishing control, (with anybody) there has to be a high level of trust in order for me to do that.
a secondary reason for this is not wanting to be a burden or not wanting to be afraid.
the primary reason is when fear of anything has become second nature, it takes an effort of will to relinquish yourself to what could hurt you.

I misplace my car keys while standing in front of my car. I had to trace back my steps. I was so stubborn that I didn't let anyone know that I may lost my keys even if they ask what I was looking for. I checked the mattress on the sofas, emptying out my pockets again & went into denial that I'm not loosing it... that I am still in control. Emotions start to creep in & I get panicking. I took a deep breathe. In my mind, I say "let's do this one more time. you got this." I reenact the scenario when leaving off to my car. I then find myself again standing in front of car & all along was holding the keys.

I don't give away secrets.

Submission???

Oh The Sweet Surrender

Always...Lol