You people have unresolved issues. Women want the same thing many of us guys want: a person we can trust, can love and be loved by them, someone to do daily things and enjoy them. We want someone who will want us back: with complete disregard to any rules. Totally and unequivocally be part of each other.

That's all. That's not asking much... maybe?!

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Being in love doesn't exclude lust. In fact, lust can lead to love. However, real love, not based on idealization or projection, requires time to get to know each other. One of the signs of lust; you're totally focused on a person's looks and body. And a sign of love; you want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.

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what about someone who will hug them and try and make them laugh when they need cheering up

I agree that we are usually "attracted" to someone, but I personally wouldn't call it "lust", but some people would. At any rate, that attraction could develop into a lasting loving relationship. It would depend on the inner character of the person as to whether he/she could see beyond the physical and focus on the inner qualities of the other person.

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And you forgot...MORE shoes...!!

COULD develop, yes, but not if there is and never was any intention to look for more than just pure chemistry. The problem is that you can't tell if people honestly look for a relationship till you give them a chance.
So far I had no luck, but that can change and I might find someone who is not there just to "get some" from time to time.
I still didn't give up, but if they keep coming just for one reason, I can settle with a friend, or just an activity partner with similar life style. In that case that partner wouldn't have to be a man at all.

I agree with both of you. But I think you don't love and appreciate someone because they're perfect, you love and appreciate them in spite of the fact that they are not. Truthfully, the less you expect from someone you care about, the happier your relationship with them will be. No one in your life will act exactly as you hope or expect them to, ever. They are not YOU, they will not love, give, understand or respond like you do. So in my mind as soon as the relationship is in place, both parties must do their part to nurture it. When they fail to do so, solidarity is gradually replaced with suffering.
Now my story;
I personally was attracted by a lady expecting this attraction could develop into a lasting loving relationship. From my side I'm sure I could make her happy. I think our inner characters are very identical. We had electronically communication I asked her to give me a chance to meet her but she didn't reply. Could you guess what this woman wants?