Haven't been here in a long while but I'd like to get some opinions on this. Ever since I met this woman a week ago now through an arranged one on one get together (she is a wrestler and boxer and travels around meeting guys for sessions)....and since I've really realized what she may mean to me...I've been consumed by her.....my thoughts are almost entirely fixated on her. Appetite is gone, sex drive (and it was always really high I might add) gone, very little interest in it anymore, like it feels wrong/odd if not shared with her in some form, focus on tasks, gone. It's like I'm going through the motions, like I'm almost missing a part of myself, of my soul.

The whole thing is like nothing I've ever felt, it's incredibly intense....I'd go travel with her tomorrow if she asked me to without even a thought. I've become THAT sure that there is something here....that I have to follow this path, follow what my heart seems to be screaming, despite anything else in the way, be it distance, other people around both of us (she is taken at present), the fact I just met her, etc etc. I've never had someone effect my life like this, nothing I've been through before or felt before can compare to it even remotely.

This isn't crazy is it? I feel so sure about her, about my relationship to her.....never been as sure about anything before.

Be very careful about this.Its only a week and it is possible to become totally infatuated with the most unsuitable people for no apparent reason. Then like a month later it was OMG what was I thinking.It has happened to me twice and I am so glad I just kept it to myself because both would have been total disasters.Wait for a month first before you do anything.

Yes it is. You need to take 2 giant step backwards, count to 100, take a few deep breaths and TRY TO GET PERSPECTIVE. Give her, and yourself, time, space, and the ability to breath. Hopefully this will lead to rational thought processes.

I totally agree with rubicat on this one.


1) You have to cool your jets man. By what is sounds, she's in a relationship already, she is your trainer, and you only have known each other for a week. So you have little to no chance of having a real relationship. Or at least the type of one that you want.

2) What you feel for her isn't love. That's obsession, and neither you nor she needs that in their lives. Believe me I know how that feels.

I hope this helps.

here are some questions for you,to think about, not to answer in a forum
what are her attributes? what are her flaws? if you know her flaws, is it something you can still work with? can you accept her as she is?
can she accept you as you are?
do you share ideas and conversation?
having the hots for someone is great, but that only goes so far.
wish you the best

Not if you are a 15 year old girl.

I just don't understand something though

Who would set you up with a "taken" woman?
Or did she magically get a committed relationship in a week?

You don't give all that much information in your OP.

It (most likely) reads like you met a girl once, she rejected you by telling you that she was seeing someone else/had a boyfriend, and now you are trying to rationalize forcing yourself back into her life by averring how deep and meaningful it is because you feel so much, as though you think that's what women want so you've chosen to give it to her trying to force some sort of emotional obligation onto her.

Otherwise I wonder

If she's a hooker you've fallen in love with, or you are trying to learn wrestling/boxing and your mom signed you up for a lesson and she happened to have a hot body.
...Although really, it would lead to no different conclusion.

Number one....I arranged to meet her myself, been doing wrestling related sessions similar to this for a few years now. No sex involved ever mind you, those I've seen don't do that. Second, I found out later she has a boyfriend through her manager whom I had communicated with long before I ever met her. I have been told by someone via tarot this will change though and the effects of our meeting are already beginning. Whether it does or not remains to be seen but guess I'll find out soon.

and as for flaws and things. Yeah I do think I could handle it. I would commit to this wholeheartedly if this is what I believe it to be. Scares me but....I would go with it without a thought.

Mmmmmkay! That explains everything.

The "cool your jets" was the best advice. If it is gonna happen, let it happen but don't push. Pushing will probably get your azz beat. Remember that it can only work if it works both ways.

It is easy to become obsessed or infatuated with someone.

She is taken.

How does she feel about you?

You have only known her for a week.

Just food for thought.

I wish you well!

Don't tell her you feel like this. She's sure to run a mile.

Tarot?

Oh...

get a grip on yourself.

Obsession with anything or anyone is NEVER good...How can excessive or compulsive concern over a person you don't even know be (or become) something positive...Obsessive love like you describe is hypothetical, it's a state of mind...It might help you to read Dr. John Moore's book, "Confusing Love with Obsession" in which he describes the four stages of obsessive relational progression...Much of what he describes sounds exactly like the feelings you describe in your OP...In answer to your question, "This isn't crazy is it?" all I can say is it is NOT normal and if you want/need advice about your obsession, you should seek professional council....

Read this....http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive_love

are you sure you are not a teenager?