My girlfriend (B) is 20 years younger than me. We didn't seek each other out because of our age differences, it's an attraction that has built up over time. We've known each other for 4 years. I admit when we first started talking here on Mingle I didn't think it would be anything more than just
friends. Partly because of our age difference, and also because I didn't think I was her type.
Though we met on here in 2010, we didn't start talking offsite until 2012, and still it was just
as friends, it wasn't until we met in person in 2013 that I know I wanted more than just
friends, it wasn't until our third in person meeting that I told her how I felt about her, and
thankfully she felt the same way. So after about a year of long distance, she officially
became short distance when she moved up here to Oregon this last September.

Our families both were leery of our relationship because of the age difference, but
after meeting her family, and her meeting mine and seeing how we were with each other,
everyone is fine with us now. Her mom who seemed the most hesitant, now always asks B
how I'm am, and even one time wanted B to tell me that her mom watched a horror movie
and wanted to know if I'd seen it. haha And when I see her in person now she gives me big kisses
and hugs and wants to feed me.
Actually my parents seemed more concerned with the long distance in miles than in age.
My family has made her feel like part of the family.

I'm sure there are those who probably don't approve, and judge us, and will come up with
all kinds of reasons for why we would possibly be in a relationship together. But that's their
problem. All that matters is how we feel about each other, and all I know is that this is the first time I've truly felt that I can't see myself with anyone else, and can't picture a life without her.

This is awesome....happy for you

aaaawwww this would make a great Hollywood blockbuster.
The chloroform worked lol
I sincerely hope it has a happy ending.

PS - no, not the massage parlour happy ending, I mean a real one.

Good luck

My girlfriend (B) is 20 years younger than me. We didn't seek each other out because of our age differences, it's an attraction that has built up over time. We've known each other for 4 years. I admit when we first started talking here on Mingle I didn't think it would be anything more than just
friends. Partly because of our age difference, and also because I didn't think I was her type.
Though we met on here in 2010, we didn't start talking offsite until 2012, and still it was just
as friends, it wasn't until we met in person in 2013 that I know I wanted more than just
friends, it wasn't until our third in person meeting that I told her how I felt about her, and
thankfully she felt the same way. So after about a year of long distance, she officially
became short distance when she moved up here to Oregon this last September.

Our families both were leery of our relationship because of the age difference, but
after meeting her family, and her meeting mine and seeing how we were with each other,
everyone is fine with us now. Her mom who seemed the most hesitant, now always asks B
how I'm am, and even one time wanted B to tell me that her mom watched a horror movie
and wanted to know if I'd seen it. haha And when I see her in person now she gives me big kisses
and hugs and wants to feed me.
Actually my parents seemed more concerned with the long distance in miles than in age.
My family has made her feel like part of the family.

I'm sure there are those who probably don't approve, and judge us, and will come up with
all kinds of reasons for why we would possibly be in a relationship together. But that's their
problem. All that matters is how we feel about each other, and all I know is that this is the first time I've truly felt that I can't see myself with anyone else, and can't picture a life without her.

My girlfriend (B) is 20 years younger than me. We didn't seek each other out because of our age differences, it's an attraction that has built up over time. We've known each other for 4 years. I admit when we first started talking here on Mingle I didn't think it would be anything more than just
friends. Partly because of our age difference, and also because I didn't think I was her type.
Though we met on here in 2010, we didn't start talking offsite until 2012, and still it was just
as friends, it wasn't until we met in person in 2013 that I know I wanted more than just
friends, it wasn't until our third in person meeting that I told her how I felt about her, and
thankfully she felt the same way. So after about a year of long distance, she officially
became short distance when she moved up here to Oregon this last September.

Our families both were leery of our relationship because of the age difference, but
after meeting her family, and her meeting mine and seeing how we were with each other,
everyone is fine with us now. Her mom who seemed the most hesitant, now always asks B
how I'm am, and even one time wanted B to tell me that her mom watched a horror movie
and wanted to know if I'd seen it. haha And when I see her in person now she gives me big kisses
and hugs and wants to feed me.
Actually my parents seemed more concerned with the long distance in miles than in age.
My family has made her feel like part of the family.

I'm sure there are those who probably don't approve, and judge us, and will come up with
all kinds of reasons for why we would possibly be in a relationship together. But that's their
problem. All that matters is how we feel about each other, and all I know is that this is the first time I've truly felt that I can't see myself with anyone else, and can't picture a life without her.

Another tip is to not be patronising about her age. This may sound obvious but if you're like me you're probably going to talk quite a lot about things that were before her time. That's fine but for Christ's sake don't tell her that you have T-shirts that are older than she is.

^^^^ Awww I love a happy ending! All the best to you and your gal Torgo!

If you want to date a young and pretty woman? Always give her a chocolate and candies....

Torgo I didn't get the chance to know your girl .. But if she is anything like you .. I would love her . A friendship that develops over time and then blossoms into romance is how I would choose to fall in love . Smiling ... Well done you xoxo

Pffffft..like it wasn't obvious :-)

No way, we were totally covert

I never had an argument with you about anything. Thats really interesting you believe that tho. my stance on 'age doesnt matter' is that it matters when it matters to either partner. preferences, not right or wrong.

My girlfriend (B) is 20 years younger than me. We didn't seek each other out because of our age differences, it's an attraction that has built up over time. We've known each other for 4 years. I admit when we first started talking here on Mingle I didn't think it would be anything more than just
friends. Partly because of our age difference, and also because I didn't think I was her type.
Though we met on here in 2010, we didn't start talking offsite until 2012, and still it was just
as friends, it wasn't until we met in person in 2013 that I know I wanted more than just
friends, it wasn't until our third in person meeting that I told her how I felt about her, and
thankfully she felt the same way. So after about a year of long distance, she officially
became short distance when she moved up here to Oregon this last September.

Our families both were leery of our relationship because of the age difference, but
after meeting her family, and her meeting mine and seeing how we were with each other,
everyone is fine with us now. Her mom who seemed the most hesitant, now always asks B
how I'm am, and even one time wanted B to tell me that her mom watched a horror movie
and wanted to know if I'd seen it. haha And when I see her in person now she gives me big kisses
and hugs and wants to feed me.
Actually my parents seemed more concerned with the long distance in miles than in age.
My family has made her feel like part of the family.

I'm sure there are those who probably don't approve, and judge us, and will come up with
all kinds of reasons for why we would possibly be in a relationship together. But that's their
problem. All that matters is how we feel about each other, and all I know is that this is the first time I've truly felt that I can't see myself with anyone else, and can't picture a life without her.

Right, youz twoz were always sharing a swing -)

Anyway I feel I am on a roll now.....
I guess the best advice is....
remember who counts most to you, your partner or the rest of the world.....
who makes you happy and feel good.....
who supports you and is there in bad as well as good....
don't let your friends trash your partner, regardless of their so called good intentions.....
show where your loyalty and heart is and defend your partner.....
this will stop future crap and reinforce your partners confidence.....
no person on this planet has the right to judge you in matters of the heart.....
and you will find few if any have the experience or knowledge to give solid advice.....
good luck to you all.

Although I agree that no one should judge you for who you are with; its still not that simple. There are lots of variables when it comes to dating. For instance, working with law enforcement and the military; it would be a bit dicey dating someone with a criminal record or say who did drugs. Teaching children; the parents would not be real keen on me dating a younger guy. My family is important to me and they need to also get along. For me; its all about image and dating the wrong person would make my life unbearable; maybe even cause me to lose my job or my position doing volunteer work. So, it may sound awaful but partners come and go in your life but once your reputation is down the toilet; you life is screwed. I guess it helps though that I have never found younger men attractive and actually most of them turned out to be very creepy.