Previous 1 3
Topic: Why are men often rejecting beauty for average?
Nenew's photo
Tue 02/03/15 06:26 PM

The craziness is still continuing, over 20 years later.

Message me if you really want a beautiful woman. I don't check replies on this topic area.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but when the majority of men of all backgrounds, classes and ethnicities tell you constantly for decades that you're beautiful, or merely stare at you.. or you have been chosen as a model or actress, I think you are what the general populace considers pretty, very attractive, or beautiful.

20 years ago, my sister and I couldn't understand why the plainer, less-attractive, less outgoing women with not-so-nice personalities were snapped up and married, while we got all the stares, compliments, and jerky behavior. Or.. we were completing ignored, repeatedly, at parties and receptions for less-attractive, louder women, despite our smiling disposition. What is UP with that? Do you even want to get to know me, or is your sole purpose in life just to throw compliments at a beautiful looking woman? I truly do not get it. Don't you want a lady who conducts herself without screaming or laughing uproariously in public?

Do you have any desire to know me or have a real relationship,to get married and look at that beauty every day, like you do with all the other average women? Why not?? I know what it's like to constantly get male attention (and some female!) in public places from complete strangers on a daily basis, and in the workplace. What is the point of all this? It never leads to a marriage proposal, or even sex! Then, I read that people envy this and say we should be 'lucky' to get this kind of attention. YOU are the lucky ones, being married at least once by the age of 44 and having a regular sex life with someone who shows daily that they care about you and provide for you in many ways. You are so insecure that you think some other man will be interested in your woman, so you choose the less attractive one, every time? I knew movie-star-good-looking men, and I just presumed other women would want them.. so what?

There are some theories floating around out there about why men 'settle' for less-attractive women, and mostly it comes down to being rejected by the more attractive ones. What kind of self esteem do women have that they know a guy married them as second or third choice? Yet, that is the majority of couples you see around you since at least 1996. The fatness just didn't exist in such huge numbers in the 1960's through 1980's, for example. So, just be honest and admit that you settled! Or that you are letting intimidation get the better of you, and stop doing that! These average-looking women don't have any better personalities than us, they don't 'do' sex acts any better or with more variety than us, that's all b.s. Being 'the best' (according to more than one man I dated) did not get me marriage proposals.

Today I was called a 'beauty' by a man I've known for nearly 6 years , and was very shocked. He said 'I will flirt with you anytime'. Most of these men have girlfriends or wives! What are they coming up to me for? I get nothing out of it. And if I'm so beautiful and hot, why haven't I been married several times to the hot actors out there, especially some of those brit/irish ones ? They've seen my photo! (I'm an actress myself). I never had one of them call me a 'beauty' or hot. Then, I hear men always tell me 'they don't know what they're missin.. I'd go out with you,I'd marry you', blah blah. All talk, no action..they have a gf,etc. and never do.

Do you not see the insult in that? People who think it is a compliment to be spoken to this way are wrong. We remained lonely and alone, year after year, because men who stare and smile and throw passing compliments when they see me or my photos, good and crude 'compliments', do not keep us warm every night. They don't give us a happy marriage and home that we can build together. They don't give us a family or anything but stares, smiles and compliments. Why do men do that? Just to waste time?

I didn't come on dating websites to work as an unpaid clerk who weeds out scam accounts, either, as that is all these sites have been in recent years. 99% of messages I've received on various sites are scams or fake accounts. It is not my job to keep scammers off of dating websites, with your 'report this to us and block' commands. That is for the webs designers and web creators to handle, not people who are seriously looking for someone serious about starting a relationship.

Dodo_David's photo
Tue 02/03/15 06:32 PM
huh I didn't know that red6mist had a twin sister. noway

Anyway, good luck on this site.

Datwasntme's photo
Tue 02/03/15 06:35 PM
uhm
think its safer for me to not comment on this one

best wishes on your hunt

no photo
Tue 02/03/15 06:46 PM
Maybe it's your personality that kills your amazing raging goddess type beauty that us average girls lack? There a reason you're single. There's a reason I'm single. Timing? Bad choices? Who knows. You'll get one. Just be gentle and respectful. It'll happen.

Amelinng's photo
Tue 02/03/15 06:53 PM

uhm
think its safer for me to not comment on this one

best wishes on your hunt


Hmmmm......chicken!!!



Totage's photo
Tue 02/03/15 06:55 PM
Edited by Totage on Tue 02/03/15 06:55 PM


The craziness is still continuing, over 20 years later.

Message me if you really want a beautiful woman. I don't check replies on this topic area.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but when the majority of men of all backgrounds, classes and ethnicities tell you constantly for decades that you're beautiful, or merely stare at you.. or you have been chosen as a model or actress, I think you are what the general populace considers pretty, very attractive, or beautiful.

20 years ago, my sister and I couldn't understand why the plainer, less-attractive, less outgoing women with not-so-nice personalities were snapped up and married, while we got all the stares, compliments, and jerky behavior. Or.. we were completing ignored, repeatedly, at parties and receptions for less-attractive, louder women, despite our smiling disposition. What is UP with that? Do you even want to get to know me, or is your sole purpose in life just to throw compliments at a beautiful looking woman? I truly do not get it. Don't you want a lady who conducts herself without screaming or laughing uproariously in public?

Do you have any desire to know me or have a real relationship,to get married and look at that beauty every day, like you do with all the other average women? Why not?? I know what it's like to constantly get male attention (and some female!) in public places from complete strangers on a daily basis, and in the workplace. What is the point of all this? It never leads to a marriage proposal, or even sex! Then, I read that people envy this and say we should be 'lucky' to get this kind of attention. YOU are the lucky ones, being married at least once by the age of 44 and having a regular sex life with someone who shows daily that they care about you and provide for you in many ways. You are so insecure that you think some other man will be interested in your woman, so you choose the less attractive one, every time? I knew movie-star-good-looking men, and I just presumed other women would want them.. so what?

There are some theories floating around out there about why men 'settle' for less-attractive women, and mostly it comes down to being rejected by the more attractive ones. What kind of self esteem do women have that they know a guy married them as second or third choice? Yet, that is the majority of couples you see around you since at least 1996. The fatness just didn't exist in such huge numbers in the 1960's through 1980's, for example. So, just be honest and admit that you settled! Or that you are letting intimidation get the better of you, and stop doing that! These average-looking women don't have any better personalities than us, they don't 'do' sex acts any better or with more variety than us, that's all b.s. Being 'the best' (according to more than one man I dated) did not get me marriage proposals.

Today I was called a 'beauty' by a man I've known for nearly 6 years , and was very shocked. He said 'I will flirt with you anytime'. Most of these men have girlfriends or wives! What are they coming up to me for? I get nothing out of it. And if I'm so beautiful and hot, why haven't I been married several times to the hot actors out there, especially some of those brit/irish ones ? They've seen my photo! (I'm an actress myself). I never had one of them call me a 'beauty' or hot. Then, I hear men always tell me 'they don't know what they're missin.. I'd go out with you,I'd marry you', blah blah. All talk, no action..they have a gf,etc. and never do.

Do you not see the insult in that? People who think it is a compliment to be spoken to this way are wrong. We remained lonely and alone, year after year, because men who stare and smile and throw passing compliments when they see me or my photos, good and crude 'compliments', do not keep us warm every night. They don't give us a happy marriage and home that we can build together. They don't give us a family or anything but stares, smiles and compliments. Why do men do that? Just to waste time?

I didn't come on dating websites to work as an unpaid clerk who weeds out scam accounts, either, as that is all these sites have been in recent years. 99% of messages I've received on various sites are scams or fake accounts. It is not my job to keep scammers off of dating websites, with your 'report this to us and block' commands. That is for the webs designers and web creators to handle, not people who are seriously looking for someone serious about starting a relationship.


You sound too conceited and arrogant for me. I'll stick with the "average", as they're not so into them self.

no photo
Tue 02/03/15 06:59 PM
"Why are men often rejecting beauty for average?"...

They're not Nenew, someone is lying to you.....smokin

Amelinng's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:01 PM
There are some theories floating around out there about why men 'settle' for less-attractive women, and mostly it comes down to being rejected by the more attractive ones. What kind of self esteem do women have that they know a guy married them as second or third choice? Yet, that is the majority of couples you see around you since at least 1996. The fatness just didn't exist in such huge numbers in the 1960's through 1980's, for example. So, just be honest and admit that you settled! Or that you are letting intimidation get the better of you, and stop doing that! These average-looking women don't have any better personalities than us, they don't 'do' sex acts any better or with more variety than us, that's all b.s. Being 'the best' (according to more than one man I dated) did not get me marriage proposals.



Guess that qualifies me as 'average looking', being 'second or third choice' cos' I did get married once!!! What kind of self esteem do women have?? LOTS OF SELF ESTEEM!!!

And I guess I may not have the sex acts any better or with more variety than you...., but I did get it right at least 4 times to get 4 kids!!!

HMMMMM...thinking back, I believe I was beautiful, in his eyes anyway! It is not always the physical beauty that shines, it is the beauty from within that will attract a man....... if you have only the physical beauty, but no substance....... you will be the object that is to be seen and admired for that and that only!

oops OUCH...I sound vicious! But Nenew......you have to respectful of others and in the process, you will be respected too! Peace flowerforyou

Dodo_David's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:14 PM
Folks, this is a "Welcome" forum. So, welcome red6mist's twin sister. indifferent

m3k4y's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:18 PM
I thought it's David ben's another thread..lol..

Welcomeflowerforyou

ladyof3's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:20 PM

uhm
think its safer for me to not comment on this one

best wishes on your hunt


Same here!

no photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:21 PM

Maybe it's your personality that kills your amazing raging goddess type beauty that us average girls lack? There a reason you're single. There's a reason I'm single. Timing? Bad choices? Who knows. You'll get one. Just be gentle and respectful. It'll happen.


:thumbsup:

ladyof3's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:22 PM

huh I didn't know that red6mist had a twin sister. noway

Anyway, good luck on this site.


:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

ladyof3's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:24 PM



The craziness is still continuing, over 20 years later.

Message me if you really want a beautiful woman. I don't check replies on this topic area.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but when the majority of men of all backgrounds, classes and ethnicities tell you constantly for decades that you're beautiful, or merely stare at you.. or you have been chosen as a model or actress, I think you are what the general populace considers pretty, very attractive, or beautiful.

20 years ago, my sister and I couldn't understand why the plainer, less-attractive, less outgoing women with not-so-nice personalities were snapped up and married, while we got all the stares, compliments, and jerky behavior. Or.. we were completing ignored, repeatedly, at parties and receptions for less-attractive, louder women, despite our smiling disposition. What is UP with that? Do you even want to get to know me, or is your sole purpose in life just to throw compliments at a beautiful looking woman? I truly do not get it. Don't you want a lady who conducts herself without screaming or laughing uproariously in public?

Do you have any desire to know me or have a real relationship,to get married and look at that beauty every day, like you do with all the other average women? Why not?? I know what it's like to constantly get male attention (and some female!) in public places from complete strangers on a daily basis, and in the workplace. What is the point of all this? It never leads to a marriage proposal, or even sex! Then, I read that people envy this and say we should be 'lucky' to get this kind of attention. YOU are the lucky ones, being married at least once by the age of 44 and having a regular sex life with someone who shows daily that they care about you and provide for you in many ways. You are so insecure that you think some other man will be interested in your woman, so you choose the less attractive one, every time? I knew movie-star-good-looking men, and I just presumed other women would want them.. so what?

There are some theories floating around out there about why men 'settle' for less-attractive women, and mostly it comes down to being rejected by the more attractive ones. What kind of self esteem do women have that they know a guy married them as second or third choice? Yet, that is the majority of couples you see around you since at least 1996. The fatness just didn't exist in such huge numbers in the 1960's through 1980's, for example. So, just be honest and admit that you settled! Or that you are letting intimidation get the better of you, and stop doing that! These average-looking women don't have any better personalities than us, they don't 'do' sex acts any better or with more variety than us, that's all b.s. Being 'the best' (according to more than one man I dated) did not get me marriage proposals.

Today I was called a 'beauty' by a man I've known for nearly 6 years , and was very shocked. He said 'I will flirt with you anytime'. Most of these men have girlfriends or wives! What are they coming up to me for? I get nothing out of it. And if I'm so beautiful and hot, why haven't I been married several times to the hot actors out there, especially some of those brit/irish ones ? They've seen my photo! (I'm an actress myself). I never had one of them call me a 'beauty' or hot. Then, I hear men always tell me 'they don't know what they're missin.. I'd go out with you,I'd marry you', blah blah. All talk, no action..they have a gf,etc. and never do.

Do you not see the insult in that? People who think it is a compliment to be spoken to this way are wrong. We remained lonely and alone, year after year, because men who stare and smile and throw passing compliments when they see me or my photos, good and crude 'compliments', do not keep us warm every night. They don't give us a happy marriage and home that we can build together. They don't give us a family or anything but stares, smiles and compliments. Why do men do that? Just to waste time?

I didn't come on dating websites to work as an unpaid clerk who weeds out scam accounts, either, as that is all these sites have been in recent years. 99% of messages I've received on various sites are scams or fake accounts. It is not my job to keep scammers off of dating websites, with your 'report this to us and block' commands. That is for the webs designers and web creators to handle, not people who are seriously looking for someone serious about starting a relationship.


You sound too conceited and arrogant for me. I'll stick with the "average", as they're not so into them self.


:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

ladyof3's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:27 PM


The craziness is still continuing, over 20 years later.

Message me if you really want a beautiful woman. I don't check replies on this topic area.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but when the majority of men of all backgrounds, classes and ethnicities tell you constantly for decades that you're beautiful, or merely stare at you.. or you have been chosen as a model or actress, I think you are what the general populace considers pretty, very attractive, or beautiful.

20 years ago, my sister and I couldn't understand why the plainer, less-attractive, less outgoing women with not-so-nice personalities were snapped up and married, while we got all the stares, compliments, and jerky behavior. Or.. we were completing ignored, repeatedly, at parties and receptions for less-attractive, louder women, despite our smiling disposition. What is UP with that? Do you even want to get to know me, or is your sole purpose in life just to throw compliments at a beautiful looking woman? I truly do not get it. Don't you want a lady who conducts herself without screaming or laughing uproariously in public?

Do you have any desire to know me or have a real relationship,to get married and look at that beauty every day, like you do with all the other average women? Why not?? I know what it's like to constantly get male attention (and some female!) in public places from complete strangers on a daily basis, and in the workplace. What is the point of all this? It never leads to a marriage proposal, or even sex! Then, I read that people envy this and say we should be 'lucky' to get this kind of attention. YOU are the lucky ones, being married at least once by the age of 44 and having a regular sex life with someone who shows daily that they care about you and provide for you in many ways. You are so insecure that you think some other man will be interested in your woman, so you choose the less attractive one, every time? I knew movie-star-good-looking men, and I just presumed other women would want them.. so what?

There are some theories floating around out there about why men 'settle' for less-attractive women, and mostly it comes down to being rejected by the more attractive ones. What kind of self esteem do women have that they know a guy married them as second or third choice? Yet, that is the majority of couples you see around you since at least 1996. The fatness just didn't exist in such huge numbers in the 1960's through 1980's, for example. So, just be honest and admit that you settled! Or that you are letting intimidation get the better of you, and stop doing that! These average-looking women don't have any better personalities than us, they don't 'do' sex acts any better or with more variety than us, that's all b.s. Being 'the best' (according to more than one man I dated) did not get me marriage proposals.

Today I was called a 'beauty' by a man I've known for nearly 6 years , and was very shocked. He said 'I will flirt with you anytime'. Most of these men have girlfriends or wives! What are they coming up to me for? I get nothing out of it. And if I'm so beautiful and hot, why haven't I been married several times to the hot actors out there, especially some of those brit/irish ones ? They've seen my photo! (I'm an actress myself). I never had one of them call me a 'beauty' or hot. Then, I hear men always tell me 'they don't know what they're missin.. I'd go out with you,I'd marry you', blah blah. All talk, no action..they have a gf,etc. and never do.

Do you not see the insult in that? People who think it is a compliment to be spoken to this way are wrong. We remained lonely and alone, year after year, because men who stare and smile and throw passing compliments when they see me or my photos, good and crude 'compliments', do not keep us warm every night. They don't give us a happy marriage and home that we can build together. They don't give us a family or anything but stares, smiles and compliments. Why do men do that? Just to waste time?

I didn't come on dating websites to work as an unpaid clerk who weeds out scam accounts, either, as that is all these sites have been in recent years. 99% of messages I've received on various sites are scams or fake accounts. It is not my job to keep scammers off of dating websites, with your 'report this to us and block' commands. That is for the webs designers and web creators to handle, not people who are seriously looking for someone serious about starting a relationship.



I'm sorry but this post really makes you sound ugly. With an attitude like that you may never meet anyone pretty enough for you. Anyway welcome to mingle2 and GOOD luck in your search.

Amelinng's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:28 PM


uhm
think its safer for me to not comment on this one

best wishes on your hunt


Hmmmm......chicken!!!



Sorry for calling you that..datwasntme!!! flowerforyou flowerforyou
I'm the fool! Should have known why you chose not to comment! Missed this in the long write up
I don't check replies on this topic area.

Argo's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:32 PM

"Why are men often rejecting beauty for average?"...

They're not Nenew, someone is lying to you.....smokin

i didn't know people had mirrors named.... 'someone'...

welcome to mingle....the site. where almost everyone is accepted....

Argo's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:37 PM



I don't check replies on this topic area.


if you believe this ^^ .......i've got some prime ocean front property in a good nebraska location for sale real cheap...:laughing:

CallMeMB's photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:48 PM
Well Nenew you wrote a lot, but didn't say much about what you want. Or, why you are here.

Might I recommend some light reading?


no photo
Tue 02/03/15 07:51 PM


"Why are men often rejecting beauty for average?"...

They're not Nenew, someone is lying to you.....smokin

i didn't know people had mirrors named.... 'someone'...

welcome to mingle....the site. where almost everyone is accepted....


waving Hi Argo :-)...The site where people are accepted IN SPITE of their beauty!!!!:tongue: lmao...:wink:

Previous 1 3