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FA one,I'm going to be piss for them not being straight up,and depends on how "not" straight up they be,weeellll,you just read that topic,"why do men disappear" lol,but she's off by just a little than she said or lead my to believe,I may try work it out,if not,then its freaking "Houdini!!!  Who says she deliberately made you believe she wasn't what she really looks like? I come across this chit a lot. Clearly stating I'm 1.78m, clearly saying I'm a few extra pounds. Yet I get men asking "You can't be?! Have you used someone else's pictures?!" I guess they mean it complementary, I am not amused when ppl think/suggest I'm lying. I look good, yes, but I am curvy, don't lie about it either. And meeting one guy, his very first words (NO introduction) "Wow, you're really tall!" Deeuhhh.... I never lied about my height, effing READ! Kinda logical if you are 1.80m and I'm 1.78m you're not going to be a lot taller. I think often it's men themselves who get the wrong idea in their head, not the woman lying about it. If you know there's less than an inch difference in height, isn't it really stupid to say "Wow, you're really tall!!" and then be totally disappointed in me, because he didn't use his brain? Dang, getting really PO now  Lol ... I'll think about it  . . . OK thought about it... you're right. Happy now?   
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Do you really need to say anything? I mean if you aren't into the person by the end of the meet and greet it would be pretty obvious...and when you leave she would be breathing a sigh of relief saying WTF was that...
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Crystalfairy and no1phD would make a great couple as far as height is concerned. Doubt he could handle me though  ..
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I'd say 'OMG, how drunk was I when I agreed to meet you'.  hahahahahahahaha |
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so learning some really good techniques from you people.. .. so we have chatted for a while online.. her profile picture is just from the waist up.. pretty face looks fit.. great conversationalist.... so I go to meet and greet.... I Drive up to the restaurant where we arrange to meet... she is waiting out front..... from the waist up just as she looked in her profile picture.. but from the waist down....omg.. extra extra large..... now I am NOT trying to pick on people with this topic at all... . we all have issues no matter who you are... well ok except for me..lol. . so I pull up and I see... my half and half date..lol... now at that instant I'm feeling a wave of disappointment wash over me..thinking in my head. not again... Why Why oh Lord.. now I think to myself.. pick up speed Dr past her and hope she doesn't see you and bolt.... but I am NOT that person.. You know, no1phD, there is a real simple solution here. Never have her stand up. That way, you can love whomever you want :-) |
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yes honest is nice but people rarely ever want to hear the truth.. .yes... and it's really hard to do that.. I like you! but it's the big mole sticking out of your neck... I can't get past it..lol...... not saying you have a mole.. oh god I hope you don't have a mole... I'm okay with moles if you have one really.. 
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No1,
I have honestly never met any man who looked exactly the way they did in the pics they posted. Some looked better to me in some ways and some didn't look as good as I thought they would. |
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Ok.. this is going to be a bit touchy.. and requires a bit of tact.. .. so you go on a meet and greet.. ... and there... not quite what you were expecting.... may be shorter than they said.... may be heavier than they let on.... . may be losing more hair then.... you noticed from their pictures.. .... but whatever the reason.. . how do you bow out gracefully without hurting.... .. their feelings.... . you get along online with them. ... they sound almost perfect.. .. then you go on the meet and greet.. ... and as soon as you see them you think...noooo..... not going to happen.. ... now do you stay for a little bit and chit chat... .. do you just pretend... not to see them and leave... ... do you make up some other excuse rather than the obvious... .... are do you just be brutally honest with them....?.. ..... and if the shoe was on the other foot what would you want them to do.... *  * What Would I Dooo? * First,I'd Mentally,Kick Myself[soundly] in da Mental Azz for Failing to Insist/Mandate/Enforce, a WebCam Chat Session before the meeting... And + Secondly, something like the following scenario would most likely occur: * *Scene/Dialog from, " Valeris & The Quest For TRUUE LOVVEEEE" [Written as a Parody of "Monty Python/ The Quest For The Holy Grail"] * Minstrel: [singing] Brave Valeris ran away... Valeris: No! I Wouldn't think to! Minstrel: [singing] bravely ran away away... Valeris: I didn't! Minstrel: [singing] When danger reared its ugly head, she bravely turned her tail and fled. Valeris: I never did!I'd never be so rude! Minstrel: [singing] Yes, brave Valeris turned about, and valiantly, she chickened out. Valeris: Oh, you liars! I could never think to do such an awful thing when there was such a great online connect between us! Minstrel: [singing] Bravely taking to her feet, she beat a very brave retreat. A brave retreat by brave Valeris. * If the shoe were on the other foot? I'd hope that the individual would just "Shoot-Me" upon meeting. At worse?-It would be a mercy-killing;} |
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I will say it all depends. If the man has not really lied about his appearance but once meeting in person there just isn't that click or chemistry then I will talk or whatever for up to a couple hours. I enjoyed the person online or texting so I still enjoy them. However, once the truth has to come out with the proverbial "so what do you think?" question. I answer honestly. We're in the friends zone. I wish we weren't.
However if there's been any deception about pics and the man looks different than his pics (weight/age) then I don't feel the need to be so kind. I will just leave as soon as I can. I give no apologies to someone who has deceived me. |
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Hmm.. so what do you think..lol
nooo.. don't answer that.. ... I can't handle the truth..  
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sure sure in theory it sounds good..lol . I don't mind staying for a drink.. . it's when you are about to leave and they say ..sooo... what do you think.. .hmm... now do I be brutally honest.. Nooooo...lol.. ... but I know at that point no matter what I say..... they're going to know it's because of... well lets just say there weight issue..... and at that point I always feel a bit shallow.. ... but then I remind myself I only came on the date because you portrayed yourself.. As being fitter than you really are.... . but still I always leave feeling like a bit of a douchebag.. . . that is not your fault ...so many not all ...it seems deceive one another just to meet ... so what should they expects if you... they or you are not what their picture looked like ... this has come up so many time with people not being honest ... so meet for a drink of some kind... then this way ...nothing ventured nothing gained ... |
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Yes.. just meet for a drink..
Hmm... and once again.. walk in see them... and disappointment.. wash over me once again.. ... And have to sit there thinking.. ... how the f*** do I get out of here. . without hurting their feelings.. .... and coming off as some shallow ,materialistic.. self absorbed.. vain. . dude...hmm. WAIT A MINUTE.. I AM ALL THOSE THINGS APPARENTLY..LOL . |
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Ok.. this is going to be a bit touchy.. and requires a bit of tact.. .. so you go on a meet and greet.. ... and there... not quite what you were expecting.... may be shorter than they said.... may be heavier than they let on.... . may be losing more hair then.... you noticed from their pictures.. .... but whatever the reason.. . how do you bow out gracefully without hurting.... .. their feelings.... . you get along online with them. ... they sound almost perfect.. .. then you go on the meet and greet.. ... and as soon as you see them you think...noooo..... not going to happen.. ... now do you stay for a little bit and chit chat... .. do you just pretend... not to see them and leave... ... do you make up some other excuse rather than the obvious... .... are do you just be brutally honest with them....?.. ..... and if the shoe was on the other foot what would you want them to do.... * * What Would I Dooo? * First,I'd Mentally,Kick Myself[soundly] in da Mental Azz for Failing to Insist/Mandate/Enforce, a WebCam Chat Session before the meeting... And + Secondly, something like the following scenario would most likely occur: * *Scene/Dialog from, " Valeris & The Quest For TRUUE LOVVEEEE" [Written as a Parody of "Monty Python/ The Quest For The Holy Grail"] * Minstrel: [singing] Brave Valeris ran away... Valeris: No! I Wouldn't think to! Minstrel: [singing] bravely ran away away... Valeris: I didn't! Minstrel: [singing] When danger reared its ugly head, she bravely turned her tail and fled. Valeris: I never did!I'd never be so rude! Minstrel: [singing] Yes, brave Valeris turned about, and valiantly, she chickened out. Valeris: Oh, you liars! I could never think to do such an awful thing when there was such a great online connect between us! Minstrel: [singing] Bravely taking to her feet, she beat a very brave retreat. A brave retreat by brave Valeris. * If the shoe were on the other foot? I'd hope that the individual would just "Shoot-Me" upon meeting. At worse?-It would be a mercy-killing;} SWEET BABY JESUS I really wish I hadn't seen that pick!!!! Between the classy wardrobe, and the decor  That is a serial killer, in the making. |
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No1, I have honestly never met any man who looked exactly the way they did in the pics they posted. Some looked better to me in some ways and some didn't look as good as I thought they would. I am much better in person.. . much much better... in person you get to smell how good I smell... ... you get to see.. my firm tight little bottom.... as I walk past you.. so I can pull the chair out for you..... and then there is my .. eyes.. my bedroom eyes.. .. my long eyelashes..... my sandy hazel eyes..... and let's not forget about my height.... not to mention.. . I am 0 fat.... all PhD.... sorry but I yam what I yam...lol . |
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so learning some really good techniques from you people.. .. so we have chatted for a while online.. her profile picture is just from the waist up.. pretty face looks fit.. great conversationalist.... so I go to meet and greet.... I Drive up to the restaurant where we arrange to meet... she is waiting out front..... from the waist up just as she looked in her profile picture.. but from the waist down....omg.. extra extra large..... now I am NOT trying to pick on people with this topic at all... . we all have issues no matter who you are... well ok except for me..lol. . so I pull up and I see... my half and half date..lol... now at that instant I'm feeling a wave of disappointment wash over me..thinking in my head. not again... Why Why oh Lord.. now I think to myself.. pick up speed Dr past her and hope she doesn't see you and bolt.... but I am NOT that person.. You know, no1phD, there is a real simple solution here. Never have her stand up... [ quote..].. . there you go bringing love into it again.. ... That way, you can love whomever you want :-) |
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The woman is in a different position than the man. See if a woman doesn't really like the guy she can still get a free date from the guy. With a guy when you go out and the woman isn't what you are wanting, then you are still likely stuck with the tab. So, not really the best scenario. Not like you can say.. Hey, since it's our first date we are splitting the tab so there will be no expectations. :)
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let's split the tab..
 ... . I tried this once..lol.. . not on purpose either.. . I was telling my date about a topic on here... about splitting the tab... .. I thought I was just making small talk.... didn't really understand how what I was saying was being perceived by her...wow... talk about awkward... as soon as I finished telling her my little story... I realized in her mind... she probably thought I was hinting to us going Dutch... .... which I wasn't..lol.. .... she became slightly irritated.. . and insisted that she paid for her drink..... try backpedaling out of that one..lol.. needless to say that was our last date..lol. she was hot too... just my dumb luck.. . |
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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Fri 03/20/15 03:24 PM
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Yes.. just meet for a drink.. Hmm... and once again.. walk in see them... and disappointment.. wash over me once again.. ... And have to sit there thinking.. ... how the f*** do I get out of here. . without hurting their feelings.. .... and coming off as some shallow ,materialistic.. self absorbed.. vain. . dude...hmm. WAIT A MINUTE.. I AM ALL THOSE THINGS APPARENTLY..LOL . really... who are u kidding how do you get out of it say very nice meeting you but time for me to go ... u may just enjoy the conversation ... and nothing heavy has to come out of it ...pone intended lol my bad ... |
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thanks val now i'm blind
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