Welcome back (((( M ))))...Public displays of affection are fine...Public displays of sexual intimacy, NOT GOOD!...As for the dating site issue...A little bit goes a long way...Too much willingness to share personal feelings on the boards....with everyone.... diminishes the meaning...

Nice to see you again
I was married to stoic German man
who did not display anything
not even hand holding
this became major issue in our marriage and I never realized what it was like until I dated a very passionate Italian man who kissed my hand over dinner opened doors for me and when taking a walk mood struck.he would kiss me on the sidewalk. This happened in Chicago with people everywhere driving by us in cars but they just honked and cheered. I am a very private person but there is something to be said for feeling it and diplaying it even in public

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But there's respectful affection shown to your SPEICAL HUMAN and then there's disrespectful attention: groping/clutching/suck face-deep throat kissing/unseemly public displays of pure lust that needs an XXX rating and should be done in private!

But that's my opinion!
And sadly I've had to cover my young sons eyes while at the Swope Park Zoo/Worlds of Fun/Water Park/local pool when he was in grade school...from people that were just to absorbed in their lust to think clearly about what they were showing to the world.

Showing affection =

Being a little too sexual = get a room

Funny, been told before that Germans are very much like English in their ways. My British ex was like that too.

As for Italian men... met one I'd been chatting with for a long time, when we said our goodbyes, he kissed me. Not a peck ... No nibbling, no nothing, just plunged in, a serious attempt to get to my vertebrae. Still got shivers down my spine thinking about it, eeww.
I do consider myself to be quite passionate, but that guy gave me the creeps

Haaahaa where is the happy median?

Exactly

Eric, are you still sulking about the other day? I'll bake you an apple pie and seal it with a kiss. Lmao

Thank you for the warm welcome back, ladies. I will just say recite this palindrome: Able was I ere I saw Elba.

Or was that Mabel? Big Mabel!!!! Akkkkkkkk!!!!

Just had a flashback. Night sweats. 21 to life this time. It was bad. *whispers* Real bad. I'm a hardened criminal now... *mind starts wandering* *startled by a noise* Oh, it was just the faucet dripping...

But don't mind me. You all carry on...

I rarely see it except for high school kids that can't control themselves and really have nowhere else to go except public places; no money, no car, no jobs, parents at home to say no, so sit outside and make out.


I don't really care as long as they aren't interfering with me going somewhere, doing something, or getting fluids on me.

If people have the emotional control abilities of a 4 year old (I have to throw a tantrum, I can't help it! I have to make out, I can't help it! I have to hold you're hand pweese mommy/daddy!), that's their business.

Generally if it is enough to be considered a display I kind of feel like they are really insecure and doing it for the attention of others (LOOK this is mine.) than what I would call intimacy between two people.

Yes if I am out in public with a man I like to feel some protection even mild affection, but that can be accomplished with out the grab ad grope I find really tacky and even disrespectful. A guy has to announce he is getting something from me by grab *** or try to do what I consider foreplay publicly then he is pretty pitiful.

Now if it is the subtle, or mildly affectionate thing you see when people have to say farewell at airport or maybe at family gatherings that is very sweet.

To me privacy is often at a minimum in our world and I purposely try to be kind of oblivious to peoples private moments, and conversations, when I done or travel in close quarters. Even in the work place. Or passing in automobiles.

It does offend and distract me when they can't be equally discreet. Mature adults usually should be able to affect their own modest privacy. And realize that auto windows are transparent.

Get a grip toots...You're out now so make it count....

I love it when she publicly wants to rape me.

I'm a touchy feely kind of girl, so showing affection in public doesn't bother me, but you should be respectful of where you are and whose around ( i.e. kids).

MEL....YOU ARE A SPECIAL WOMAN...AND A SWEETHEART..I AGREE 100 %...AND ADD AN AMEN TO PUBLIC DISPLAYS OF AFFECTION....I ALSO SAY TO THE WOMAN...DONT GET ON YOUR KNEES IN THE GROCERY STORE FIRE LANE ONLY OR PARKING LOT......AND TO THE MAN...DONT PUT HER ON THE HOOD OF YOUR HUMMER...AND ESPECIALLY..WITH NO PANTIES ON....AND NO THATS NOT IMPLYING HIM.

Deliberately obtuse, was my feeling on that.


Everything has it's time and place.

The brief era of rebellion I chanced to grow up in, included a heavy dose of rebellion against everything from censorship, to the full range of social mores.

That included PDA, and sometimes extended to all manner of human activities, to the point where some people insisted on public defecation, and immediately shouting out whatever momentary thoughts crossed their minds.

It was NUTS. Like living in an open landfill run by rats and cockroaches.

I finally decided that since I believe in as much freedom and liberty for everyone as is practical, that I wont bother to judge others who are in the process of learning their limits. I have this amazing power to look away, when I don't enjoy what's in front of me.

But I myself wont indulge in any significantly intimate and private behaviors in public. For one thing, I realized that I don't do any of them in order to communicate things to other people.

In close quarters situations, I find that when someone else does such things, that it physically interferes with my life, so I wont inflict that on others.

I don't have any specific hard and fast rules, though. Sometimes a public kiss is right, and sometimes it isn't.

And then, there's one of my characteristic defects: I really enjoy subtlety. It's delicious. It's unfortunately a "defect," relative to certain other people, who decided that subtle=non-existent.

Ah, well.

Timing, setting, person involved, level of affection felt and displayed, will affect my feelings toward it.

Thanks, Leigh.

seeing it? no problem with me unless kids are present or its homosexual in nature