Good one Dat.

I would say the majority of men don't read profiles... I get several emails a day telling me ..."Love your profile, I want to meet you" IF they would have read my profile they would know I am in a relationship.

It does get frustrating at times... And yet I figure they are giving the best they got. And send them on their way with best wishes in their search.

Women share the same ignorance as i specify HWP several times in my narrative but still get large numbers of obese women wanting to get acquainted so i would say its a human deficiency not to peruse and just have a wishful if not naive belief that they are the exception regardless of girth.,.

Typical man

What, you don't like weebles?

Going to get you a dictionary from Christmas....not that you will read it


Hehehehehe

They probably just contact him to mess with him.

lets be fair about this because its a mutual issue for both genders. For example I have not only posted pictures of my 3 kids but i mention them in my profile. Yet when i start talking to these girls over weeks of time and make a random statement about one of my children they respond 'i didnt know you had kids'. And then there are those sweet hearts that actually ask me each day how my kids are doing. That means a lot to me. So it is a two way issue that we all here encounter. On the bright side its given us all something to talk about. And at a great level of maturity i might add. This is the most well mannered one IVE seen so far.

They are just not interested, to read, to realize, who knows what's cooking in there fragile little minds.

Honestly I don't give a rats *** if a person has nice pictures, pictures don't tell me squat about you. I'm looking for certain types of people so I read every profile I think that looks interested, I skip most people who don't even take the time to change their headline from Hi... to something else, that just shows me you aren't being serious here.

Now I also have people clicking yes or maybe on me in matches, and I've noticed none of those people have viewed my profile, then they ask me what I'm looking for and I'm like you know I have a profile that tells you what I'm here for.

so, whats your point? i never read profiles, they all say pretty much the same thing anyway... when was the last time you read a profile without a pic? there's not much a woman can say in her profile that will change my opinion of her anyway, until i meet in person, profiles without pics are meaningless...

I thought they looked at the pictures

i do... if she looks like someone i wanna date, i'll go from there... 15 pages of wants, not wants, likes or dislikes is meaningless to me...

You thought wrong, for some men's...there is still a people who read, finding right person through picture is wrong, in this situation picture don't tell thousand words. For God's name, you even read comic book to understand situation. :)

I hear what you are saying lol

I do this all the time.
Words after words. I would rather talk than read.

Well it depends also, what is the reason to date with her. She maybe look like angel, but when you start conversation you see you have nothing in common....

Of course, best way to read person is through four eyes contact.

so how is it "wrong"?


like i asked before, how many of you read anyones profile without a picture?

I look at picture, I confess , but there is also a description section, so I also read. There was few times that I message someone without picture and I didn't get reply. I don't contact often people without picture because I don't know who is behind that (not talking about beauty) i talk about sex, maybe there is a man behind woman profile...it's weird world.

Agree about too many details in a profile. Also advice to some women a few details about you goes a long way.

Some do.
But if they don't like what they read, they're just going to click on "next" and forget you in 2 seconds, never even considering contacting you.
Your profile is their first impression.

Some don't.
They've used online dating before so they inherently realize the outcomes to contacting you are:
- you don't read their first email.
- you read their first email and don't reply.
- you do/don't read their first email and you reply but you're a scammer.
- you do read their email, you reply, and you're in no way a match or boring.
- you do read their email, you respond, but you're only online to chat because you're bored, and you may interact for a while, but you'll just disappear.
- You do read their email, you do respond, but you're catfishing them and your profile is a complete cliche or lie.
- You do read their email, you do respond, but you've been here so long you haven't updated your profile in months or years and have no idea what it says anymore, and you and your mood have changed since you filled out your profile.
- you do read their email, you do reply, and you are a match, you meet.

Odds are reading your profile is pointless, and better to just shoot you an email to determine if you're real, not looking to just chat, not a scammer, will respond, and if you can contribute to/hold/lead a conversation.


And personally, when I've really used online dating, most of the first conversations are them talking about crap I've already read on their profile.

Not to mention in a lot of emails they will bring up something in my profile, we will talk about it, move on, and then they'll ask about it again having completely forgotten they've already asked about it.


There are a lot of articles online about the dwindling attention span of people online, how they watch videos, how they read news articles, and how they interact.
It's not "manreading" it's an "epidemic" of online changing how people absorb information.


What do you mean?
Scammers and "players" are pretty much the same.
One wants to use you for their personal financial gain, one wants to use you for their personal sexual gain.
They don't care about your profile.
Only that you're accessible.
More than likely they are sending out as many emails as possible.
Spamming doesn't allow a lot of time to read or differentiate.
They don't care about any "no soliciting" warnings on your profile.
The worst thing you can do to them is not respond.