OK, I am just looking at the dating pool. My profile is perhaps rather negative, in that I am NOT looking to 'hookup' - just viewing the pool candidates..
The comments of emails I receive, it is pretty obvious to me that my profile is NOT being read at all, as the comments in their emails reference what a nice profile it is, etc... are you kidding me?did you read it???
Or are they just MANREADING it?
Manreading - look at the pictures and carry on anyway..
Hints about scammers would be appreciated..
Kat

Yeah. I think they get their cat to read it.

some do...had one send me a message today saying " I don't get it"

proof positive he read it

Men read Profiles, Boys do not.

Men don't read directions...why would they read profiles?


I'M KIDDING!!!

Cute. And I am not even a cat fancier.

Yes, it can be very frustrating. There are a lot of scammers. Advice given to me was set your mail settings to 50 to 60 age and location must be within 50 miles. that should cut down on some of the spammers and scammers. Alas I'm too young and too far from you. You sound like a neat person though. I have decided that Mingle isn't a dating site but it has a great forum. I really enjoy the conversations here. Good luck

I have noticed the same issue but of course with females. I agree. Many people in general go as far as the pictures and make a decision and some are foreign scammers. They cant completely interpret what is written but attempt to con anyway. Thats not to speak ill of any foreigners on here. I have made some very nice pen pals over the last two years and would love some more. Back to the profile issue though. I have changed mine a few times to test theories of my own and as we can all imagine only the people worth talking to are gonna actually take the time to read it. Which is just fine right? Happy hunting everyone, best of luck in what youre searching for.

I laughed my butt off. Lol

Gee! Thanks so much for reading my profile. I feel special.

Well I read. It's good to know with who you starting conversation. Few profiles have e-mail address on description so you know it's scammer.
It's also good to know what that person want from start.

The 2 scammers I came across were 51 and lived in the US. one worked outside the country at the moment and was coming back. They acted like I was what they wanted in love so be careful women.

If he/she promise to much and have some sad or happy story that have something with giving or getting money, or give you email at start he/she is 100% scammer. Look at profile picture also...sometimes that can associate you that there is something fishy....

You will get better with spotting scammers as you go along. Language is a big give away. If they "want to know you more", ask more questions than they give information, want you to believe they are up in the middle of the night emailing you, or immediately ask you to go to another free site, giving or begging for a phone number right off the bat, tell you they are a widowed engineer with a kid you can bet they are bogus.

There are always going to be the guys on line that hope you are going to be the cyber version of the girl in the bar or hope to sex talk for free. Report, block, and move on without taking it personal. NEVER; EVER, give someone your home number or where you work. There are criminals on line. And they can charm the whiskers off a cat.

Legit guys are going to try and ask questions and probably want to see a recent full length photo but they don't usually give you a psychological profile or some flowery description of their sudden infatuation. Almost all men will tell you that you are beautiful sooner or later; maybe it is a safe answer or genuine but hey beats the alternative. And legit guys do not care if you are "perfect". Most are going to be as afraid of you being a scammer or blabbing their personal stuff as you are of them. Most are sensitive about someone trying to play them for money so be sympathetic about work (but wait for them to offer specifics) and those women that play head games. A lot of the best guys are parents, and good ones, but they will be pretty tight lipped about it for at least a while. Legit guys do read what is posted so if you are constantly breaking balls and whining they would rather deal with someone with less "bad attitude". A lot of decent guys do live with extended family during post divorce periods, especially if they have kids, because two families can not live as cheaply as one and they have out grown the "party animal" stage. There are a lot of great guys on Mingle on and off the forums. Good luck.

Oh yeah... man do "read", might be too detail at times!

directions? i think you mean suggestions, no?

not sure what you are talking about with this word , directions : )

I'm convinced they don't. Otherwise why would they ask you what are you looking for and if they read the profile they would see it right there in black and white no they don't read it. but they look at pictures. Lol

Cacutie59 then you where started by some half-educated or short-term amnesia men's :D