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Topic: WHAT CAN YOU SAY ABOUT SINGLE MOMS ?
Bahitieva Joined Mon 11/23/15 Posts: 2443	Fri 01/15/16 05:37 PM
I would say that most single moms live in poverty and that they do the best that they can with the little means available to them.. Kudo's to all of them Thank you

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Fri 01/15/16 05:49 PM
What can you say about most mums, single or not. There's a word for mums that hasn't yet been described, awesome, amazing, magnificent, none of these come close. I wasn't there for the birth of my 1st, my son, but I was there for the birth of my daughter. What I witnessed is beyond words, seriously.

lu_rosemary Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 9123	Fri 01/15/16 05:50 PM
What can you say about most mums, single or not. There's a word for mums that hasn't yet been described, awesome, amazing, magnificent, none of these come close. I wasn't there for the birth of my 1st, my son, but I was there for the birth of my daughter. What I witnessed is beyond words, seriously.

mizxyzhie Joined Sat 07/04/15 Posts: 10	Sat 01/16/16 12:37 AM
being single mom is very hard..

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2248	Sat 01/16/16 08:09 AM
Being a single mom or single dad takes commitment, dedication, tender loving care. And lots more.... If you want your children to grow up in to well balanced and educated individuals, there is so much you have to as a single parent, much much more than a few paragraphs of writing can explain!!! To all the single mums and single dads, give yourself a pat on the back, you deserve it!!!!

Unknow Joined Thu 10/29/15 Posts: 5	Sat 01/16/16 08:45 AM
truth

Unknow Joined Thu 10/29/15 Posts: 5	Sat 01/16/16 08:46 AM
absulety correct

mishkabacci Joined Mon 09/10/07 Posts: 48	Sat 01/16/16 09:03 AM
well am sure I can come up with a thing or two like for instance single moms just gave up their favorite past time... I used to tell my kids that if someone made it known they was single and pregnant that meant the stork had to get the heck out asap... aint nothing wrong with being a single mom up until the first day at home after delivering and having to wake up change them diapers all by yourself and keep doing this along with feeding the baby bathing the baby having to clothe the baby go shopping when the baby is screaming and try to think what you needed and end up getting things you thought you needed because you have to rush out to feed again...yeah the joys of parenthood...

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Sat 01/16/16 01:31 PM Edited by isaac_dede on Sat 01/16/16 01:32 PM
I reserve my opinions of a single mom until after her kids are grown. But when deciding if I'd date a single mom, I weigh the same factors I'd weigh if she wasn't a mom. Such as does she have ambitions of her own? Is she intelligent? Can she have an adult conversation? Is she rude? Impatient? A Giver or a taker? I weigh these qualities because if she has them, it will be passed on to her kids, if she doesn't she isn't going to magically get them because she had a kid. Kids do present their own set of challenges, but if the women is worth it they can be overcome. However, some single moms think that because they are a mom they are automatically worth it...imo that's not the case. They need to have as many if not more attractive qualities then their childless counterparts.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Sat 01/16/16 02:13 PM
I'll make it simpler... A loser = A loser A loser + A pregnancy = A loser with a kid A strong confident woman = A strong confident woman. A strong confident woman + A pregnancy = A strong confident woman with a kid. the problem is SOME think that A loser + A pregnancy = a strong confident woman...that's not normally the case. Of course that last equation CAN change, but it takes desire, ambition, and determination in the part of the mom.

dolphin0925 Joined Tue 08/18/15 Posts: 1900	Sat 01/16/16 03:54 PM
With due respect to all single moms I salute your courage to raise your child or children alone. But I may say that not all single moms are responsible parent, some are and others are not those single moms or single dads who know their responsibilities and obligations in raising their child/children well with good values and right conduct, being well provided with good education and all the necessities in life by working hard to earn a living....... I salute you single moms with all my respect raising children is a very tough job. To those single moms who made a mistake in their lives , having a child out of wedlock , being irresponsible and careless at a young age.......admit your faults,learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself. Face the consequences of your wrong doings by taking the responsibilities with all your commitment, courage, hardwork, determination and perseverance to become a better person for your child's/children's welfare. don't commit the same mistake again. Because it's sad to know that some single moms just don't learn , they keep on doing the same mistakes and get pregnant easily from different men, then passed on the burden to their parents, and doesn't take care of their child/children well, that's absolutely wrong and to single moms who came from a failed marriage , don't be bitter with life instead embrace life with hope in your heart that your kid/kids will have a brighter future. To all of you single moms, I hope one day you will find a man who will truly accept you for who you are and what you are , sincerely love you and your kids:) always have an open mind, let love reside in your heart and think of your kid/kids as a gift from God for you to raise, value and love them

Godistheanswer Joined Mon 02/02/15 Posts: 477	Tue 01/19/16 04:14 PM
lots of guts and need more respect

sybariticguy Joined Thu 09/27/12 Posts: 1639	Wed 01/20/16 10:27 AM
if you already have a pre-conceived notion in your head of what defines a stay at home mother..that they are evil, horrible, lazy, incompetent and chasing after a man to take over as daddy to their children.. then when you look around you will find examples to strengthen this belief if on the other hand you think single mothers are strong, capable, hard working women who bring home bacon, fry it up in pan an do this without the help of a man you will look around and find women that fit this definition also The conclusion though is independent of womens strength the children are less provided for, receive less medical and prenatal care, lower class neighborhoods and schools, lack of cultural and educational, no male role models on a daily basis, poor socialization, dietary issues, weight issues (average woman is a size 14 that obese by medical standards and how does that impact the soon to be plump children who learn their eating habits from watching and being fed by obese mothers) ( check a 1000 women here and see if more than 70% are obese ( don't let the facts interfere with your wishful thinking and rationalizations about single parenting so people can feel good independent of their actual less than adequate level of care....EX Do you know the percentage of kids who go to bed hungry? How about health issues dental issues, not addressed due to insufficient care and funds...

R042 Joined Sun 09/22/13 Posts: 2	Fri 01/22/16 11:32 AM
Thank you. I am a well educated single mom. Did I know my ex was going to cheat, lie and become abusive. No! I was strong enough to leave to make sure my daughter had a good life. That takes courage and guts. So to the jerk that thinks all single mom's are bad.........I hope when you do decide to have children you marriage or committed relationship never falls apart because guess what buddy.......you will be a single Dad. Thank you for standing up for us and you are definitely right we are single! Not married and cheating, not lying. We have our **** together.

R042 Joined Sun 09/22/13 Posts: 2	Fri 01/22/16 11:35 AM
I am a social worker and have been for 22 years. Why is everyone assuming a single mom was single from day one. Secondly Mrs.........not all married couples are good parents. When you have done my job and had to apprehend children you will know that statistically the most abused children are from middle to upper class families with 2 parents. So educate yourself first please..........

ErotiDoug Joined Wed 03/04/15 Posts: 1081	Fri 01/22/16 11:52 AM
Thank you. I am a well educated single mom. Did I know my ex was going to cheat, lie and become abusive. No! I was strong enough to leave to make sure my daughter had a good life. That takes courage and guts. So to the jerk that thinks all single mom's are bad.........I hope when you do decide to have children you marriage or committed relationship never falls apart because guess what buddy.......you will be a single Dad. Thank you for standing up for us and you are definitely right we are single! Not married and cheating, not lying. We have our **** together. Hello R042 Calmly read and pass on to others " Just because someone is weak in the love components of loyalty and faithfulness, does that mean that they dont love you?" Unfaithfulness is one of the main destroyers of most relationships. Many of the perpetrators dont have bad intentions but they make the dumb mistake of repeatedly flirting with danger.If you are in a committed relationship, why are you visiting your friend so often with him/her alone at home? Why are you going online and flirting with new friends? Why are you constantly confiding your problems with your mate in someone of the opposite sex? why are you constantly working late at the office with your coworker with no one else present? Why are you NOT introducing close friends of the opposite sex to your mate? Many affairs started off with those innocent gestures and many people are engaging in these behaviours as we speak and are unaware that they have in fact set up the right conditions for their affair to take place. Many affairs may rooted in a lack of common sense as opposed to a lack of love. That being said I agree with you that many of us are flawed and dont seem to grasp what love is in its entirety not just in terms of faithfulness but all the other love components.

ErotiDoug Joined Wed 03/04/15 Posts: 1081	Fri 01/22/16 12:01 PM
if you already have a pre-conceived notion in your head of what defines a stay at home mother..that they are evil, horrible, lazy, incompetent and chasing after a man to take over as daddy to their children.. then when you look around you will find examples to strengthen this belief if on the other hand you think single mothers are strong, capable, hard working women who bring home bacon, fry it up in pan an do this without the help of a man you will look around and find women that fit this definition also The conclusion though is independent of womens strength the children are less provided for, receive less medical and prenatal care, lower class neighborhoods and schools, lack of cultural and educational, no male role models on a daily basis, poor socialization, dietary issues, weight issues (average woman is a size 14 that obese by medical standards and how does that impact the soon to be plump children who learn their eating habits from watching and being fed by obese mothers) ( check a 1000 women here and see if more than 70% are obese ( don't let the facts interfere with your wishful thinking and rationalizations about single parenting so people can feel good independent of their actual less than adequate level of care....EX Do you know the percentage of kids who go to bed hungry? How about health issues dental issues, not addressed due to insufficient care and funds... ___________________________________________________________________________ aint nothing wrong with being a single mom up until the first day at home after delivering and having to wake up change them diapers all by yourself and keep doing this along with feeding the baby bathing the baby having to clothe the baby go shopping when the baby is screaming and try to think what you needed and end up getting things you thought you needed because you have to rush out to feed again...yeah the joys of parenthood... ___________________________________________________________________________ Both are very true to some degree. But this is not new historically in society. Their have always been single parents, there are single mothers who have been arguing that they can parent their sons in particular just as competently as if a father was around. (and how is that working out) With their young'un world, dominated by females and little if any (positive) adult male mentoring. * I feel with the life tool box they have, they will relate to the world as victims. (with repressed maleness) * Through-out history single parent’s have existed. But never have the governments pressed the scale so hard. Demanding children be raised by females only. Why! (I have no idea) Is it so the children will reflect the nurturing or the other extreme, passiveness as they become adults. I do know one quarter of Americans have been arrested, my gut says predominantly male. And so it will go on into the future, as in the past.

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Sun 01/24/16 06:43 AM
if you already have a pre-conceived notion in your head of what defines a stay at home mother..that they are evil, horrible, lazy, incompetent and chasing after a man to take over as daddy to their children.. then when you look around you will find examples to strengthen this belief if on the other hand you think single mothers are strong, capable, hard working women who bring home bacon, fry it up in pan an do this without the help of a man you will look around and find women that fit this definition also The conclusion though is independent of womens strength the children are less provided for, receive less medical and prenatal care, lower class neighborhoods and schools, lack of cultural and educational, no male role models on a daily basis, poor socialization, dietary issues, weight issues (average woman is a size 14 that obese by medical standards and how does that impact the soon to be plump children who learn their eating habits from watching and being fed by obese mothers) ( check a 1000 women here and see if more than 70% are obese ( don't let the facts interfere with your wishful thinking and rationalizations about single parenting so people can feel good independent of their actual less than adequate level of care....EX Do you know the percentage of kids who go to bed hungry? How about health issues dental issues, not addressed due to insufficient care and funds... you assume somehow that all women have a preconceived plan to bring children into this world out of wedlock and be a single mother in order to milk the system

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Sun 01/24/16 06:45 AM Edited by TMommy on Sun 01/24/16 06:53 AM
if you already have a pre-conceived notion in your head of what defines a stay at home mother..that they are evil, horrible, lazy, incompetent and chasing after a man to take over as daddy to their children.. then when you look around you will find examples to strengthen this belief if on the other hand you think single mothers are strong, capable, hard working women who bring home bacon, fry it up in pan an do this without the help of a man you will look around and find women that fit this definition also The conclusion though is independent of womens strength the children are less provided for, receive less medical and prenatal care, lower class neighborhoods and schools, lack of cultural and educational, no male role models on a daily basis, poor socialization, dietary issues, weight issues (average woman is a size 14 that obese by medical standards and how does that impact the soon to be plump children who learn their eating habits from watching and being fed by obese mothers) ( check a 1000 women here and see if more than 70% are obese ( don't let the facts interfere with your wishful thinking and rationalizations about single parenting so people can feel good independent of their actual less than adequate level of care....EX Do you know the percentage of kids who go to bed hungry? How about health issues dental issues, not addressed due to insufficient care and funds... you assume somehow that all women have a preconceived plan to bring children into this world out of wedlock and be a single mother in order to milk the system ...or did ya want to argue the inadequacy of males in our society to step up to the plate and become responsible fathers and husbands instead of just "baby daddy" the obesity problem in this country goes for both sexes ya know not just women is it not interesting that we always here how single mothers of sons are sissyfying them by not having a man in their lives but yet there are fathers raising daughters out there and we like the idea that she is raised as a tomboy oh and uh ya I am familiar with the SES of women and how they statistically make less than men at the same job I am familiar with the glass ceiling I am aware of the drop in income that occurs as well as the life style after a divorce and yes most women are still given custody of the children once again you assume all single women live in poverty and raise their children in it by the way lot of those generalizations you just made? have to do with the income level and education level of the mother

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Sun 01/24/16 07:38 AM
if you already have a pre-conceived notion in your head of what defines a stay at home mother..that they are evil, horrible, lazy, incompetent and chasing after a man to take over as daddy to their children.. then when you look around you will find examples to strengthen this belief if on the other hand you think single mothers are strong, capable, hard working women who bring home bacon, fry it up in pan an do this without the help of a man you will look around and find women that fit this definition also The conclusion though is independent of womens strength the children are less provided for, receive less medical and prenatal care, lower class neighborhoods and schools, lack of cultural and educational, no male role models on a daily basis, poor socialization, dietary issues, weight issues (average woman is a size 14 that obese by medical standards and how does that impact the soon to be plump children who learn their eating habits from watching and being fed by obese mothers) ( check a 1000 women here and see if more than 70% are obese ( don't let the facts interfere with your wishful thinking and rationalizations about single parenting so people can feel good independent of their actual less than adequate level of care....EX Do you know the percentage of kids who go to bed hungry? How about health issues dental issues, not addressed due to insufficient care and funds... How narrow minded are you. Just in case it slipped your mind, it takes two to make a baby.