Aside from nipple clamps on a first date...

are you put off by someone who wants to accelerate the relationship faster than you would like, or do you accept it as a sign of commitment?

Yeah, it's a sign that the person needs to be committed.

I wouldnt call it a turn off

but If someone is on a different schedule for the relationship, I take it that

1. we are not communicating well
and
2. we may have different values or priorities that make us incompatible

I had someone looking for rings REALLY early once and I explained that I just needed to know alot more about someone to make that type of commitment and I would want them to know alot more about me before deciding they wanted to commit

it was awkward going forward though, knowing thats how he felt,, so it did end up 'growing apart' rather quickly

now thats funny!

Ironic, eh? You have to take your time to get to know someone, before you can tell if the reason they're in a rush is because of love-lust and real compatibility, or if it's because they are wacko.

In general, people in a hurry give me the sense that I'm just a placeholder-of-the-week to them. Puts me off rather thoroughly.

I'm an egotist, clearly.

It's no good for my Atelophobia when people move too fast

dont go chasing waterfalls
please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you use to
I know that you're gonna have it your way or nothing at all
but I think you're moving too fast,,,,




dont chase the waterfalls yall,,,,

Slow down, you're moving too fast, gotta make the morning last


Feeling Groovy
Bet you hum that now :/

thanx

If, in a year of dilly dallying, there is no commitment , I am in a rush to get out of that relationship. Am I wrong for wanting to do that.......just saying...

wrong is when ones intent is to harm or deceive

as long as those two things arent in your heart,, I would not call you wrong

Depends on how it's communicated and what they expect.

I mean huge difference between "I want a wedding ring by tomorrow or it's over!" and "Let me tell you where I am, emotionally, and where I see our relationship right now," and, "we need to talk, you need to tell me (x), I need to feel you're doing (y)..."

If you feel like the two of you are very close on an emotional and intellectual level and are romantically involved and there is no commitment in a year then I would say yes, it may be time to end the relationship. I would discuss it first, just to make sure there are no mixed signals.

I accept it because it's a good cue to ask for money for all kinds of "needed" stuff.

It depends on the when and what.

I've had a guy on the FIRST date start talking about "When we move in together..."
YES that did put me off, big time!! Scared the bejesus out of me!

But in general when seeing someone there should be some indication of progress, moving forward in the relationship.

"Progress" being what both want, which could be moving from nipple clamps to labia clamps, or from casually dating to moving in together. Or both

Agreed!!

There are some men out there who start throwing the relationship card out there as a means of making women feel more secure so that the men can get them into bed faster. It's a turn off for sure.

That being said, I agree with D-one . I would never want to go through a year of interactions with someone special and not be on the same page as far as relationship goals are concerned

I think that every relationship moves on it's own pace... If both is in fast mode then there is no problems.. When one questions it and feels the other is going too fast/slow then follow your gut..

I have went from first date to 3 months later we was married that was fast mode.... But.........we were both in the fast mode which made it great...

It is almost down right creepy when one is in very fast mode and the other is in slow mode..

If both are in slow mode then it is great as well...

Just have to find the balance and move forward when both are on the same level~~~

depends on the other person
if i really fancy him >> let's moveee!!
if that is someone i quite like but giving a chance >> Slow down!!

i never see anything as a sign of commitment. it has to come out of mouth in words. certainty !