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Edited by
Cheeriosoo
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Most of us have the luck, a chance to experience relationships. Some are incredible, most are difficult, some are simply nasty. Some experience this relationships right in your backyard, some experience miles away. As Forest Gump said, lol, Life is like a box of chocolate, you never know what are you going to get, yes let's joke about this. This tread is intended for you to tell a story of how your relationship evolve. How ever way you experience it. Trolls are welcome here, also.
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Edited by
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Thu 05/04/17 06:10 PM
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I am dreadfully untrusting of 'romantic' intentions of others anymore
instead of that romantic partner who wants to 'love' someone it seems most are looking for someone that will look good(ie, make them look good by extension) and sleep with them,, sooner than later which just isn't my cup of tea I am here for talking in forums and making cyber 'friends'.. no one has yet changed my mind, so there has been no real relationship to evolve I do believe several others on the forums have found 'love' here,, but they should tell their own stories,,, |
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cant touch this
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For me each relationship I have been are similar in some ways but still unique in their own way.
I got burned pretty good in my 20s by a husband that had a thing for cheating but I took it as a wake up call and learned how to not repeat that misery. My style is usually to be cautious, not get in a rush, lyie to no one, keep my standards high . It has work pretty good and dateing has been predominantly been a good experience. From the number of repeat dates and marriage offers I am guessing the feeling is mutual. What is tough for me is I have tended to date people who live and work internationally and I am trying to stay settled where I consider pretty ideal. . I am debating taking my current relationship to the next level but again his job takes him all over and may for another 20 years. And sometimes his job is extremely dangerous. With the current world; things that go on the thought of maybe having to survive the loss of another mate is a challenge. |
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Most of us have the luck, a chance to experience relationships. Some are incredible, most are difficult, some are simply nasty. Some experience this relationships right in your backyard, some experience miles away. As Forest Gump said, lol, Life is like a box of chocolate, you never know what are you going to get, yes let's joke about this. This tread is intended for you to tell a story of how your relationship evolve. How ever way you experience it. Trolls are welcome here, also. Life has its ups and downs , beginning and end, light and darkness, fortune and misfortune , hope and hopelessness. Some are lucky others are unlucky. Life shows its not always chocolates and roses, or a bed of roses, we experience pain and suffering or love and happiness. We cry or laugh, yet all these are learnings in life. We meet different people in our life's journey , some makes us smile or cry, gives us memorable experiences and a lesson in life, some stay and some go or just passed by. In life we may be a success or a failure, what matters is we continue to think that LIFE IS GOOD and GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME . Make peace with your past , let go of the pain and hatred, instead replace it with gratitude for all the blessings or experiences in life either great or small , bad or good....continue to smile and be happy with hope in your heart  
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Hmmm.
I think my history of dating makes me wonder wgat the F is wrong with me as a person? I don't seem to be good enough for someone to want to stay. I've started trying to find the answers within myself |
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Hmmm. I think my history of dating makes me wonder wgat the F is wrong with me as a person? I don't seem to be good enough for someone to want to stay. I've started trying to find the answers within myself  hello Dreamerana, don't blame or put down yourself. Always remember that in a relationship, it takes two to tango. As long as in yourself you know that you have tried your best to work it out and if it did not, then it was really not meant to be. Best of luck to you....there is always someone out there that is specially made for you Patience is a virtue and there's always a right time for everything
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Hmmm. I think my history of dating makes me wonder wgat the F is wrong with me as a person? I don't seem to be good enough for someone to want to stay. I've started trying to find the answers within myself hello Dreamerana, don't blame or put down yourself. Always remember that in a relationship, it takes two to tango. As long as in yourself you know that you have tried your best to work it out and if it did not, then it was really not meant to be. Best of luck to you....there is always someone out there that is specially made for you Patience is a virtue and there's always a right time for everything Thank you
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Well... I needed security after a lot of insecurity in my youth. A safe haven, and found a Cancer man who could give that to me.
10 yrs down the road I had grown and gotten stronger -he hadn't- so we divorced. Apparently I needed to get stronger, more empowered, so I attracted someone who could teach me that: a narcissist. And boy did I learn. Shame it took me 10 years. The 4 yrs as a single after that I kept working on personal growth and getting empowered. At some point I was ready for an interdependent relationship. Then I met him  I'm healing the last bits and pieces of some old wounds, but getting there. |
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Edited by
Piscesmoon02
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Fri 05/05/17 03:13 AM
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Hmmm. I think my history of dating makes me wonder wgat the F is wrong with me as a person? I don't seem to be good enough for someone to want to stay. I've started trying to find the answers within myself hello Dreamerana, don't blame or put down yourself. Always remember that in a relationship, it takes two to tango. As long as in yourself you know that you have tried your best to work it out and if it did not, then it was really not meant to be. Best of luck to you....there is always someone out there that is specially made for you Patience is a virtue and there's always a right time for everything Hi ana, I have felt that way many times in the past, sometimes still now...but dolphin's right. And we are worth it. Like Crystal, I had to take time being single and spend time getting to know me. And to heal some of the broken stuff that accumulated from the unhealthy relationships I was in. You're a precious and caring woman....embrace it.  For me personally, I found love within. And with each relationship, friends, family, etc... I evolve a little more to where I would like to be in my ability to have relationships with others. |
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Interesting, only females have post so far.
I agree with each and everyone. From the ones that look within to find the light at the end of the tunnel to the ones that so far had the chance to move on. Dolphin is correct, a relationship is base on two humans. Two mind that either connect or not. Depending on the approach, my experience so far is mix, but overall my most average experience is base on the attitude that some relationships tend to direct themselves to one side causing them to be still. At the end is time to move on. Thank you for the reply. |
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From the moment of my birth, I made the mistake of assuming that everyone and everything, was giving me truth and facts to build on. That was made worse, by my unfortunate timing: censorship and availability of alternative stories, meant that I thought ALL bad guys wore masks or black hats, and that ALL good guys and most of the people in the middle would do the right and honorable thing, if you just let them know what was going on.
Hence I had a very hard time learning first that people who look and act exactly like good guys, can be the worst bad guys of all, and that most people make horrible mistakes as they go along, so even the most good can't be counted on to do the right thing. The worry about learning about how to be in a relationship is, that each experience both teaches us, and changes us. What we learn in one instance, can be both positive and negative at the same time, relative to the next chance we get. I came into contact with many women over the years, who I met at the wrong time, relative to each of our learnings. IN each case, we may have been the perfect mates for each other, but we couldn't tell, because one of us hadn't learned to appreciate some element the other had, or because the fears we'd acquired from the immediate previous mess were making us crazy. And by now, I too wonder if I might have been swept by happenstance, into a sort of eddy pool of existence, where what has been done to my psyche will make it impossible to see or be seen by someone who is truly compatible. Timing, after all, is one of the many "Everythings" in our lives, and it is the one which we have the least control over. |
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This tread is intended for you to tell a story of how your relationship evolve. How ever way you experience it. 5 Years old: The little neighbor girl and I explored each other's bodies. She used to put my willy in her mouth and suck on it like a baby bottle. We were wrestling in the sand box one day and she bit my back. Needless to say I wouldn't let her put any of my body parts in her mouth anymore. 8 Years old: My friend and I dated twins. They looked exactly like each other. We tried to do big people stuff in the barn. I never really knew if I was with the right one or not. Then one day we went skinny dipping at the reservoir and I found out they had birthmarks in different places. That Fall, my parents moved across town. We lost contact. 13-17 Years old: The normal kissy face at school girlfriends kind of stuff. I used to ride my mini-bike to one girl's house so we could make-out by the pond. Lost my virginity at 13. All the other girls were just white hot make-out sessions with a lot of frustration. 18 Years old: More white hot make-out sessions. One girl wanted me to go all the way but I was not into it because I was afraid of the responsibility of having a child. Then another and another. Started carrying a condom and that was a start of a few years of sex that lasted till I went into the service. 20-24 Years old: You get laid a lot when you go into a bar with your navy dress uniform on. Lots of strip clubs and one night stands. No responsibility coupled with bad drinking habits and too much free money. I realized I needed to settle down or I would probably be dead in a few years. 24-50 Years old: One woman, 4 children. Big bad decision. But I survived the lies. 50-55 Years Old: Experience is wisdom, hard lessons were learned. The few women I have been close enough to actually call it a relationship have been less than desirable when the costumes come off. Of the four, none have had the qualities I am searching for in a mate. They all start off promising but as they get comfortable around me they revert into their normal personalities and the truth becomes apparent. |
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From the moment of my birth, I made the mistake of assuming that everyone and everything, was giving me truth and facts to build on. That was made worse, by my unfortunate timing: censorship and availability of alternative stories, meant that I thought ALL bad guys wore masks or black hats, and that ALL good guys and most of the people in the middle would do the right and honorable thing, if you just let them know what was going on. Hence I had a very hard time learning first that people who look and act exactly like good guys, can be the worst bad guys of all, and that most people make horrible mistakes as they go along, so even the most good can't be counted on to do the right thing. The worry about learning about how to be in a relationship is, that each experience both teaches us, and changes us. What we learn in one instance, can be both positive and negative at the same time, relative to the next chance we get. I came into contact with many women over the years, who I met at the wrong time, relative to each of our learnings. IN each case, we may have been the perfect mates for each other, but we couldn't tell, because one of us hadn't learned to appreciate some element the other had, or because the fears we'd acquired from the immediate previous mess were making us crazy. And by now, I too wonder if I might have been swept by happenstance, into a sort of eddy pool of existence, where what has been done to my psyche will make it impossible to see or be seen by someone who is truly compatible. Timing, after all, is one of the many "Everythings" in our lives, and it is the one which we have the least control over. Thank you, Igor, like always, words of wisdom and yes, we do not come with a manual, trial by fire. |
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This tread is intended for you to tell a story of how your relationship evolve. How ever way you experience it. 5 Years old: The little neighbor girl and I explored each other's bodies. She used to put my willy in her mouth and suck on it like a baby bottle. We were wrestling in the sand box one day and she bit my back. Needless to say I wouldn't let her put any of my body parts in her mouth anymore. 8 Years old: My friend and I dated twins. They looked exactly like each other. We tried to do big people stuff in the barn. I never really knew if I was with the right one or not. Then one day we went skinny dipping at the reservoir and I found out they had birthmarks in different places. That Fall, my parents moved across town. We lost contact. 13-17 Years old: The normal kissy face at school girlfriends kind of stuff. I used to ride my mini-bike to one girl's house so we could make-out by the pond. Lost my virginity at 13. All the other girls were just white hot make-out sessions with a lot of frustration. 18 Years old: More white hot make-out sessions. One girl wanted me to go all the way but I was not into it because I was afraid of the responsibility of having a child. Then another and another. Started carrying a condom and that was a start of a few years of sex that lasted till I went into the service. 20-24 Years old: You get laid a lot when you go into a bar with your navy dress uniform on. Lots of strip clubs and one night stands. No responsibility coupled with bad drinking habits and too much free money. I realized I needed to settle down or I would probably be dead in a few years. 24-50 Years old: One woman, 4 children. Big bad decision. But I survived the lies. 50-55 Years Old: Experience is wisdom, hard lessons were learned. The few women I have been close enough to actually call it a relationship have been less than desirable when the costumes come off. Of the four, none have had the qualities I am searching for in a mate. They all start off promising but as they get comfortable around me they revert into their normal personalities and the truth becomes apparent. No words Tom, funny how life treat us almost the same, basics are there, I myself, I am looking forward to my 50's, open that box of chocolates at it's due time. Thank you so much. |
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