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Edited by
txscowgirl
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Sat 02/16/08 04:40 PM
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say you know someone that is married and she has been going to school. well her husband is jealous of her going to school and getting her education. because when she was in high schhol she got pregnant in her senior year. so she wasnt able to go to college. and now she has a chance to persue her goal that she has been wanting to do. the problem is that the husband wants all her attention and she cant give it all to him because of school, home and kids and everything else that comes with being married what do u do tell her to give up her dream or tell him goodbye. just to add a note this isnt the first semester of school he has done this. shes tired of trying , shes given up because hes being selfish help oh sorry its long just to let everyone know i am the person whos having pro
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Tell her to give him up, she will be miserable if she doesn't, I am 54 and been here in this same position, the guy she can always get, they will prob be divorced within 10 years anyway, the education can not be taken from her, an education is worth more than anything in the whole world, if she has to dump him to do it,
GET THE EDUCATION, THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE SHE WILL EVER GET!!!!! 
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persue your career!! If he loves you, he will support you.. I finally got to college at 40 years old... I wish i had put myself first a long time ago!!! Im now almost 42, graduate in May and am going for another 2 year degree in september!!! Good luck
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i think its retarded...She shouldnt have to give up her dreams just cuz he wants her to...if its something she wants he should understand that...and support her..not try and tear her down... But..she's got to mange time better and find a way to have time for everyone...
thats just my thoughts |
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nope u do NOT give up ne thing you already have by being a mom and wife - if this is something that works for you and the kids the other big baby can either handled it or not its his choice if he makes things difficult for you then u need to stand up to him and say too bad and u dont need to do the walkin if he choses to not back you then he should do the walkin ....
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hi welcome and would you like to be my friend ?
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hi welcome and would you like to be my friend ?
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she should tell him to go choke himself
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you know i try hard not to post in these things anymore but this one is very irritating. yeah she should be able to get an education and a good job if she wants.
but damn do you all hold the value of marriage so low these days that you flat out tell her to abandon her marriage and family at the drop of the hat? what a bunch of morals we got here... did you think maybe there's a reason he's acting this way? maybe he's more upset at himself that he never got that far? maybe he's worried she'll walk out on him for somebody better if she does? nope never thought of that, hell a guy is just a thing to be tossed aside anyway, she can always get another one screw him! kids don't need a family, divorce never hurt anybody! maybe try suggesting counceling? maybe she just needs to reassure him in his fears? maybe a little understanding on both sides? there's lots of things before you just up and ditch your husband just like that. |
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After finally being able to muddle through reading the post (punctuation and paragraphs are your friend!).
People are sure fast with opinions in other people's business. I'm sure there is more sides to the story as well and this is obviously a slanted version of black & white viewpoints. |
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I didnt tell her to abandon it I told her if he didnt like it he had the choice himself
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I didnt tell her to abandon it I told her if he didnt like it he had the choice himself Hey, here's a plus you might not have thought of - she can then get divorced and become single and join here herself and get advice! 
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I wouldn't kick him to the curb just yet. It sounds like he is insecure and I'm sure this is not a new thing. If you love someone you want them to be happy and be the best person they can be. Getting her education should benefit him as well. She should ask him why he is trying to make this so difficult.
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Edited by
MAKE_ME_GIGGLE
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Sat 02/16/08 04:19 PM
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i didnt tell her to abandon her husband...i said go for her education...if he loves her, he will support her!! Thus the vows of marriage.... for better or worse.....
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I didnt tell her to abandon it I told her if he didnt like it he had the choice himself Hey, here's a plus you might not have thought of - she can then get divorced and become single and join here herself and get advice! haha ur so funny |
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you know i try hard not to post in these things anymore but this one is very irritating. yeah she should be able to get an education and a good job if she wants. but damn do you all hold the value of marriage so low these days that you flat out tell her to abandon her marriage and family at the drop of the hat? what a bunch of morals we got here... did you think maybe there's a reason he's acting this way? maybe he's more upset at himself that he never got that far? maybe he's worried she'll walk out on him for somebody better if she does? nope never thought of that, hell a guy is just a thing to be tossed aside anyway, she can always get another one screw him! kids don't need a family, divorce never hurt anybody! maybe try suggesting counceling? maybe she just needs to reassure him in his fears? maybe a little understanding on both sides? there's lots of things before you just up and ditch your husband just like that. yea... i agree |
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After finally being able to muddle through reading the post (punctuation and paragraphs are your friend!). People are sure fast with opinions in other people's business. I'm sure there is more sides to the story as well and this is obviously a slanted version of black & white viewpoints. I agree, there are a lot of variables that no one knows. Was it discussed by husband and wife and agreed upon before she started school? Is this guy the father or step-father to the child? The list of questions could go forever, but if he loves her, he needs to support her dreams. |
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you know i try hard not to post in these things anymore but this one is very irritating. yeah she should be able to get an education and a good job if she wants. but damn do you all hold the value of marriage so low these days that you flat out tell her to abandon her marriage and family at the drop of the hat? what a bunch of morals we got here... did you think maybe there's a reason he's acting this way? maybe he's more upset at himself that he never got that far? maybe he's worried she'll walk out on him for somebody better if she does? nope never thought of that, hell a guy is just a thing to be tossed aside anyway, she can always get another one screw him! kids don't need a family, divorce never hurt anybody! maybe try suggesting counceling? maybe she just needs to reassure him in his fears? maybe a little understanding on both sides? there's lots of things before you just up and ditch your husband just like that. Azreal-- so good to see you in here! Fantastic post. You always provide such an honest, heartfelt answer. Well, since we've never met it seems heartfelt, at least. OP- Take this advice to heart. He will never give you the same, old, same old. It's always for real. People should not be quick to judge, or run. They can't just cut thier losses, neither of them. There is more than tomorrow to think of, and the children as well. Who will speak for them? |
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Just to be honest im the person who is having problems, yes i am married but my life has gone down hill since i started school
last year. He is very jealous of me geting my education, this is the second time that i have gone through this my first relationship i had to give up my college education because of my kids father. And i always said if i was able to go back to school i would never and i mean never let another man stand in my way of getting my education. Its nothing against you guys but i dont want to have to depend on a man to take care of me and my children. Since i have been in school i have gained some independecy in my life that i never had. This is how jealous he is i had a test today for my history class, well last night he got mad because i would not quit studying for him. Knowing that i have already failed this class once. Sorry for being so long |
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hes the stepfather
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