post some more.

I know some of you get discouraged that things don't move as fast as you would like. Finding the right mate these days can happen over night or take forever. I think many of us on Mingle who have been here early on would say "post". Mingle is different than your typical dating site where you find people in hurry up mode. Mingle allows you to interact in a way that is far more relaxing. Here you can actually get to know much about potential mates way before you get to the first date.

"why's it taking so long?"

Mingle is a great place to find that answer and learn about yourself and others along the way.

"I'm shy"

What a better place to deal with shyness. When you think about it, who's watching? post

"I maybe too stuck in my ways, or opinionated"

What better way to rub shoulders without getting long term scars. Mingle is a caring family that has all types. For some it may feel like sand paper for others (I think most) it's more like polishing.

For myself and, I know others, when we see you say your getting no response and it's taking so long, we look at how often you post. mingle is more than a dating site. It's a place to mingle.

so give it a try, mingle a little

here are some tips

I've noticed that people who say this usually have 1 post and they joined the site 20 minutes ago.

When you are writing on mingle try to remember this is not texting. Most of us here are not too crazy about short hand. We don't necessarily want to read code.

I think that this is true, but for those who have been here a while and don't post, do they think they are going to get noticed without some type of participation?

I think most people who complain about not getting responses are focusing on there not being many locals active. Those who do not want to meet anyone who is not local are not going to want to take time to check out the forums. But, those who will check out the forums usually enjoy them.

I've said, many times, that the forums are the way to get noticed here. Nobody is generally going to see your profile unless you show up in a search, or they're looking for you specifically. But if they run across you in the forums....

And profiles tend to be more static (a lot of people rarely or never change/update theirs), whereas the forums are more ongoing -- not exactly "real-time," per se, but there's some continuity, some movement.

It boggles my mind that someone could spend any amount of time on this site and NOT want to post in the forums. I just don't get that. But I'm probably not the best one to ask, because this is pretty much my entire social life.

You know I have always been surprised at how dead the Vegas forum is. I wonder if this is typical of other areas? This is an enlightening post for me. Never thought about it that way.

Hi Lex, yep the word that stuck out here is "static". I don't see profiles as being anything more than the door.

Yes, it's typical in lots of areas. Many people have said the same thing.

I can tell you that the Illinois & Indiana forums are pretty much dead. Last post in Illinois was 17 days ago, last one in Indiana was 7 days ago. When someone does post, it's usually either vapid or unreadable.

I assume there are other areas where this is not the case....

Exactly, I see profiles as "Here's some stuff about me, let me know if you think any of this is interesting at all."

Or that's how I think it SHOULD be. The reality is, a lot of people don't read them. Or they do, but they're convinced they can make me into someone completely different. It's a little annoying, actually.

Whatever is in my profile, it's there so people can know something about me. It's not some sort of challenge for people to try to turn me into somebody else.

It is really hopping in the Switzerland thread!

It would be interesting to know if there are areas where people do find it easy to meet locals. I know those in Texas seem to have quite a few people. But, I haven't heard that about other places.

And, why not engage you on the forums seeing that you are accessible? I mean not on a personal level but socially.

The only people who do that are the ones I've been friends with on here forever.

The others (from what I've been told) are operating under the assumption that I'm too "intimidating and complicated" to address in a public venue.

I can tell you that I watch the Ohio forum and at one time during August I think it was 18 days before someone posted to change what was showing up on the community list page. To me that's sad.

And compared to a year ago, the other forums are not as hopping as they use to be. There use to be new topics posted so often that within a time frame of two mins. the new/receint topic section on my home page would completely change. Now like today, when I checked in this morning everything was still the same later this afternoon in the new topics section.

And I do have to agree with the main idea here, post and you get noticed. Unfortunetly ( is it a or e after the n?) when I do post the only ones interested are guys from Uberkestan, Zug Una, India or Quazital. Not a big help since I am here in Ohio. But thats ok, not really ready for a steady dating thing just yet. A real life hug everyonce in a while would be nice though. Sorry off topic.

I have to agree that the forums are the way to go. I log in and go searching for topics and peeps that I see here often. I enjoy reading their points of view and get a feel for who they may be. That is the reason I really did not write anything on my profile. I am not interested in a story about me. I just want to jump on forums and talk to the real deal. Thanks all.

but but i don't want to post post post an post lol

eat your spinach

nope cause don't like it so there lol